AIBU to think you don't change your baby's nappy on a cafe table?

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This isn't a reverse before I start. Just been for coffee with a friend of mine and a couple of local mums I'd not met before. We were in a cafe with baby change facilities and yet after we'd finished our food, she moved the plates to one side, plonked the baby on a blanket and changed her nappy on the table....while we were still drinking our coffee!

AIBU for thinking that's gross? If there wasn't a baby change facility it might be different although I still think doing it like this would be gross, but there was and it was open as I used it for DS.

I mentioned it to my friend on the way back and she said she'd done it before too because it was easier. She thought it was hilarious that I was so grossed out by it.

So AIBU?

Omg reminded me of the time my niece had an explosive nappy while sat in a high chair having a restaurant family meal. All down her legs, all over the high chair. My sister had to get her out and try not to drip poo on route to the toilet while gagging as she was touching shit. It stank, people were eating. I couldn't stop laughing it was so bad. No one said anything I'm so surprise. Whatever she was eating just went straight through her.

Ick. Just...ICK!

The 5% voting YABU are the problem.

Yeah but OP doesn't specify if it was a poo 💩. Just said "changed her nappy on the table"

Many years ago I was invited to a christening and at the reception afterwards a woman commenced to change her baby. There were people eating and drinking so I asked her "Do you really have to do that there while there are people eating? Its not very nice. Take the child upstairs!"

She looked absolutely startled, and snapped "This is not your house is it?" I told her "No, but I know how to behave as a guest. You obviously dont." She flounced out of the room. A couple of the other people said "Good for you, but I wouldnt have had the nerve to speak up."

No I wouldn’t change my baby at the table but I equally wouldn’t do it on the toilet floor! Some of them are beyond disgusting! I do try and think ahead about where I will be able to change baby though, I know John Lewis has lovely baby change facilities so might plan my shopping trip around that for example.

@MsHedgehog

I was on a flight to Turkey once when a woman wanted to change her baby’s nappy on the floor of the galley. The air hostess wouldn’t let her, saying that’s where they prepare food, and the woman and her husband (both British) both had a massive go at the air host, leaving her in tears. The man even had the audacity to say he knows the head of the airline and will report her, which, considering who he was and where he worked, was very possible. Poor woman.

But that does make me ask, where do you change a baby’s nappy on a plane (asked by a FTM to a 3 month old who is yet to travel anywhere!).

Coming back from holiday years ago we were boarding the plane and a woman was changing her kid’s nappy on the pull down table of her seat. The smell was horrendous and it was causing chaos as she was standing up partly in the aisle to do it so people were struggling to get past. I appreciate the baby might just have done a poo at that moment but she’d had plenty of time in the airport to change it otherwise. It was grim.

Family I used to Nanny for thought I should change the toddler in a restaurant.Totally inappropriate in my opinion, apart from the hygiene aspect there is also safeguarding to consider. I politely declined and changed him in the baby change area provided by the restaurant. FWIW I have seen mothers changing the children in libraries, bookstores, department stores.

@ButtercupBlue

I've changed a nappy on a table in a softplay centre (when I had a toddler and baby) but personally wouldn't do it in a proper café.

That’s equally disgusting. A table is for food and drinks, not urine and poo.

YANBU

I knew a girl who use to proudly tell everyone how she would do this in resteraunts etc... I always thought she was rude and gross but she seemed to think she was some campaigner for childrens rights .

Not only is it completely disgusting and unhygenic for every other resteraunt user (and something staff should kick you out for as it is unhygenic) but I also think its bad parenting to strip your kid off naked in public around utter strangers who could be any kind of dodgy.

Children (even babies/toddlers) deserve the respect of privacy when it comes to their genitals and toileting.

on a table is just unsafe.

Where is the awareness that baby might fall off?
It is really difficult to change a nappy and not be distracted when reaching for new ones, cream etc and they wriggle, inevitably.

I was always taught never to change on a high surface because
baby could be seriously injured if they fall off.

special baby units are different usually at least because they have high sides.

As for the airline, I get the point about the galley, but surely the floor in the toilet was the most appropriate place

there is generally always somewhere to pop out too. In a nearby green space in a park etc is way safer and it is not difficult to say to those you are with I'll be back in ten...?

No that's horrible and pretty disrespectful to others in the cafe eating/drinking. I'm in the throes of nappies right now and would not do that

@Tehmina23

I mean if you were incontinent you wouldn't change your Tena lady in public in a cafe should the loo be taken... so why change a baby's nappy in a cafe in public??

Not everyone wants to see or smell or eat near the wet shitty nappy & have a baby's bare bum looking at them yuck!

very good comparison.

Imagine if we all just whipped our tampons out in the middle of dinner just all casual, I mean why waste time going to the bathroom?

That's absolutely minging. It gives me the horrors when people change nappies on our gym changing room benches instead of using the perfectly good baby change table four steps away. I can't even imagine someone doing it on a cafe table.

That's disgusting. I've been places with no baby changing facility. I knelt on floor and changed baby on mat on floor OR in the car.

@Clymene

If there are no baby change facilities, you change the baby on the floor in the loo or on a chair or on your lap. NOT ON THE TABLE.

Agreed not on the table of course. But putting a baby, often a newborn, down on the floor in public toilets is similarly unpleasant, even on a mat, given that there will probably be urine and many other nasties there too. Just as people wouldn't want to eat near to the place a baby's nappy was changed, neither should a baby be expected to lie with their head near to a public toilet floor. No other option though often. It makes me so cross when baby change facilities are not provided.

When my children were little we had a trip to Italy - where baby change facilities don’t seem to exist in restaurants or cafes. Same goes for many places I’ve visited in France. Whenever I asked if there was a place to change a nappy I was often directed to a table at the back of the restaurant, away from other diners. I think (hope!) the restaurant staff wiped the table down after I used it.
But to be on the safe side, I prefer not to eat at the table at the back of the restaurant.

I wouldn't change my baby on a toilet floor. That's almost as disgusting for the baby as changing them at a table is for the other customers and staff. If there was no baby change, I'd pop out to find one or (if there was space in the loos) change them in their buggy.

On planes the changing table is in the toilet. There's not much room, but it's ok.

It’s disgusting and I worked in the cafe I would have said something. 🤮

I saw someone change their baby in an aisle of The Range... on a camping table that was on display. They left the nappy too.

Bloody gross!

Changing a baby on a table is disgusting. My nearest theatre banned babies in arms at performances because parents were changing their babies nappies in the seats mid performance and leaving the nappies under the seats.

@SimonJT - it's what the staff suggested.

[quote WeeWelshWoman]@SimonJT - it's what the staff suggested.[/quote]
I hope he informed environmental health.