AIBU to think you don't change your baby's nappy on a cafe table?

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This isn't a reverse before I start. Just been for coffee with a friend of mine and a couple of local mums I'd not met before. We were in a cafe with baby change facilities and yet after we'd finished our food, she moved the plates to one side, plonked the baby on a blanket and changed her nappy on the table....while we were still drinking our coffee!

AIBU for thinking that's gross? If there wasn't a baby change facility it might be different although I still think doing it like this would be gross, but there was and it was open as I used it for DS.

I mentioned it to my friend on the way back and she said she'd done it before too because it was easier. She thought it was hilarious that I was so grossed out by it.

So AIBU?

We saw this in a shopping mall food court during a busy lunchtime! My step-daughter and her friend were open-mouthed in horror. The woman doing it then swore at them for staring. She wasn't very ladylike in general. There were two adults together, mum or dad could have easily nipped to the loo. I could perhaps understand it if mum was alone with, say, 3 DC under 4 and was really frazzled. It is really gross though.

@ButtercupBlue

I've changed a nappy on a table in a softplay centre (when I had a toddler and baby) but personally wouldn't do it in a proper café.

Surely being w soft play they had baby changing rooms

That’s proper grim. I knew those places were yuck. But good god. Ewwwww

I remember my dad bollocking me for leaving a baby's wet nappy by the back door to take out to the bin outside later
My dad does this now if he has the grandchildren. Sister and her husband just throw nappies out the kitchen window in a pile to be binned later. Grim isnt the word

@ButtercupBlue

They did but it was in the disabled loo which was in use. I used a changing mat so not like it was directly on the table.

Could you not wait 5 mins?

@ButtercupBlue

I've changed a nappy on a table in a softplay centre (when I had a toddler and baby) but personally wouldn't do it in a proper café.

How the hell is that any different?! Soft play will be MORE likely to have baby changing facilities than a cafe. You're absolutely disgusting and should be ashamed of yourself.

@HumunaHey

Aswell as being absolutely disgusting, I just don't like how parents will happily get their kids genitals out in public. It just doesn't sit right with me.

You read my mind - or I read yours. All the fuss there is about pictures of babies in the bath or toddlers naked in gardens or on the beach, yet people will happily display their children’s genitals to an entire room of strangers. It’s bizarre. As well as disgusting in an area where food and drink are served.

Yanbu. That’s grim. And with that kind of grip on hygiene I wouldn’t be eating at her house either!

I assume if you're changing your child on the table, you're not washing your hands either. That's more vile than the act of changing your child on the table.

Probably others like me who have seen the rest of the thread calling us 'grim' 'disgusting' 'lazy' and 'revolting' and decided they'd rather not sign up for the insults.

Outside of the mn echo chamber I assure you that IRL I know plenty of others who have or would do this. But I'm sure someone will be along in a minute to say I must hang around with other 'animals' who have been 'dragged up'.

Tables get cleaned between customers and if you think changing a newnborn's nappy (on a mat no less!) is gruesome you'd probably not be pleased to learn of the germs that fester in ballpools etc at softplays!

Anyway I'm bowing out now since this thread wasn't actually about me and I was only giving my personal opinion and experience (not realising it was the wrong one, obviously! How silly of me!)

It is disgusting, lazy and grim. And yes. Unfortunately you are right that irl there are thousands of people doing this. Doesn't make it right.

I don't understand how you can not realise that changing baby on a table is wrong.

I was once on a London bus and a mother changed a nappy on the seat. The smell was truly horrible.

Ew that's so disgusting. 🤮

Those poor kids have no hope if that's the parents disgusting standards.

I wouldn't do this myself but I think a lot of the responses on here are very OTT to be honest. Especially ones about other things like leaving a wet nappy by the door to be binned later being worse than grim. Really?

Maybe I'm just a swamp dwelling beast but I wouldn't blink twice at someone leaving a wet nappy by the door to throw in the bin later and, whilst I wouldn't personally do it, I can't say I'd be crying to speak to the manager over someone changing a baby on a mat on a table either tbh.

Never ever saw that and would have been horrified.
Really girm behaviour.

It would tell a LOT about the sort of person who would do this.

Thankfully nobody has tried it in my coffee shop. They’d soon get told if they did!

Most people are disgusted by human excrement around food or food preparation areas, FeckingPuddleDuck. There's nothing OTT about it.

I used to run a small cafe and a large family changed their babies shitty nappy on the table whilst smearing the shit all over the table. I freaked and pointed them to the baby change room, gave them all cleaning products to clear the awful mess and suddenly they all stopped being able to speak English although they spoke it perfectly well when ordering. I opened all the window and doors to rid the stench, they then closed them saying they were cold. I asked them to leave and I’ve never quite got over how utterly mindless and disgusting people can be.

I can understand not going to the baby changing facilities at soft play if you have one child running around in the soft play maze but why would you not do it on the floor or if you had an ailment that meant getting down there was hard, a chair or your lap?

There is no excuse for this, none. It is a table for eating and drinking on, not using as a toilet FFS.

You're revolting if you do this. No wonder some cafes hate mums coming in with babies.

That’s seriously grim. 🤮

@81Byerley

In the times before changing mats were a thing, we changed our babies on our laps. I still wouldn't do it in a cafe though. Babies don't melt if their nappy isn't changed immediately, especially these days when disposables are designed to wick moisture away from the skin....I'm presuming even the most brazen mother wouldn't change a dirty nappy in a cafe?

Exactly.

There is no excuse to change a baby on a table meant for food, particularly when there is a baby change right there. Either use the baby change or don't change that second.

Grim.

A friend saw this happen once while in a cafe. It was a dirty nappy not envy
The owner when she found out sorted out a changing mat in the one loo. Not a lot of space and put a notice up.

oh vom!

Outside of the mn echo chamber I assure you that IRL I know plenty of others who have or would do this. But I'm sure someone will be along in a minute to say I must hang around with other 'animals' who have been 'dragged up'.

I genuinely don't know anyone who'd think it was OK to do this. They would use the baby change. I actually don't even think they'd use a mat on the floor in a cafe/food place unless they were totally hidden out of site.

Everyone I know would either use the baby change or if one wasn't available they would wait and find one once we'd finished in the cafe.

Fucking rank, I pity the other customers and staff. Parents like that have no class.

Manager could've and SHOULD'VE thrown her out and trespassed her from the business. I've heard of people changing poopy diapers on a tabletop or chair in restaurants and while you were still eating? Does she do that at home? Babies can and will surprise adults and poop or pee unexpectedly-how unsanitary can you get?