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Kids that shriek?

285 replies

Turkishangora · 27/06/2021 12:53

Just that really, why?? My 2 don't, not because they're miraculously non shrieking... Because we've drummed it into them not to. I'm not talking toddlers, I'm talking 5+ when they feel the need to shriek, shout and scream all. The. Time

Can you tell my pandemic experience has been framed by the 9 year old twins next door screaming in their garden throughout?

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Universe1969 · 27/06/2021 12:55

Agreed. Although I will say my daughter was speaking very loudly (apparition a classroom thing). A neighbour s daughter 9 screams like an effing hyena the whole time. Hence I now avoid because I actually find it really stressful.

JellyTumble · 27/06/2021 12:55

YANBU. It’s a lack of parenting.

Justyouwaitandseeagain · 27/06/2021 12:56

Please tell me how. We have shriekers. Asking/telling them not to, hasn’t proven too successful so far.

scrivette · 27/06/2021 12:58

Some children just shriek!

I have told mine not to, when they are told and they continue doing so they have to go in. Then after a while they come out and they do it again, it's their happy noise like giggling.

I get that it's really annoying as it very much annoys me too - but it's really hard to get them to stop.

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 27/06/2021 12:58

My nephew shrieks as part of his tourettes tics.

My other nephew makes all sorts of involuntary noises because of his autism.

Sometimes it's luck rather than good parenting.

WorraLiberty · 27/06/2021 12:58

@Justyouwaitandseeagain

Please tell me how. We have shriekers. Asking/telling them not to, hasn’t proven too successful so far.
You need to keep on and on and on telling them to stop and if that doesn't work, age appropriate consequences.

YANBU OP

It's even worse that some parents seem to be able to tune out their kids constant shrieking and screaming, with no thought for others.

Rabbitheadlights · 27/06/2021 13:02

YABVU ... Some kids shriek my DS is autistic and has sensory processing disorder shrieking is one of the things he does to self regulate. You have no idea of other people's circumstances keep your opinions to yourself and watch for the ledge on that pedastal I suspect you will fall with an almighty bump when one of your perfectly well behaved children mess up.

Viviennemary · 27/06/2021 13:03

Shriekers at park just about bearable. Anywhere else no. If they shriek they go inside or if out go home.

pinkgin85 · 27/06/2021 13:03

My 6 year old has ADHD and he literaly can't help being realy loud. You're lucky you have such well behaved lovely children, congratulations.

WorraLiberty · 27/06/2021 13:05

Perhaps the OP knows her 9 year old nextdoor neighbours and their parents well enough to know the kids aren't autistic with sensory processing disorders @Rabbitheadlights?

princesslarmadrama · 27/06/2021 13:05

My youngest shrieks but stops when I tell her too. Normally in excitement or if being chased etc.

Rabbitheadlights · 27/06/2021 13:08

Perhaps she should have asked specifically why her neighbours children shriek then @WorraLiberty

pollylocketpickedapocket · 27/06/2021 13:10

@Turkishangora

Just that really, why?? My 2 don't, not because they're miraculously non shrieking... Because we've drummed it into them not to. I'm not talking toddlers, I'm talking 5+ when they feel the need to shriek, shout and scream all. The. Time

Can you tell my pandemic experience has been framed by the 9 year old twins next door screaming in their garden throughout?

Go and give your neighbours some advice. You know seeing as you’re obviously so superior
Echobelly · 27/06/2021 13:10

I think some kids are just shriekers - DS (9) can be like that sometimes, it's partially ADHD, partly just being loud and we tell him again and again not to, but when he's overexcited he still gets very loud no matter what we tell him.

He's otherwise very good in public places (doesn't run around, waits patiently and doesn't expect to be entertained constantly), but he can be noisy despite years of being told to be quieter.

LakieLady · 27/06/2021 13:14

My niece was a shrieker, she had a scream that practically made my ears bleed. Her parents were so used to it they barely noticed. They are generally a noisy family, and I don't think they really noticed it.

She appeared to grow out of it around the age of 10, although now (12) she can still shriek like a banshee at times, especially when she's not getting her own way.

I can't bear it, to the point where I was reluctant to go to family events if they were going to be there.

cherrybonbons · 27/06/2021 13:15

My DD shrieks.
She has a verbal stim.
No amount of my parenting can stop this.

Bore off. And buy some ear plugs.

BlatantlyNameChanged · 27/06/2021 13:17

I have one autistic DC who, when he's feeling overwhelmed, hates shrieking and a too-loud shriek can reduce him to tears. I have another autistic DC whose favourite verbal stim is a pterodactyl-style shriek. I also have a preschooler who thinks it's hilarious to copy him. If the first DC isn't feeling overwhelmed he'll join in with it. His favourite verbal stim is a high-pitched "peep peep" sort of sound. They don't do this all the time, other stims are used depending on what they need from doing it, but when they do get on with the shrieking and the peeping there's not much that can be done to stop it.

But yeah, total "lack of parenting" is the cause Hmm

Birkie248 · 27/06/2021 13:18

@Justyouwaitandseeagain

Please tell me how. We have shriekers. Asking/telling them not to, hasn’t proven too successful so far.
You tell them off. You bring them in. Every. Single. Time. You keep at it until they stop it.
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Turkishangora · 27/06/2021 13:21

The kids next door don't have additional needs. I'm not talking about children who are asc/ADHD. I know that's different and I'm not that insensitive.

I'm talking going out for a meal with friends who just can't be bothered to tell their kids to pipe down therefore making the meal stressful and unbearable. I get screaming and whooping with excitement in context tbh, park, theme park, water park etc.

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FlaminEckVera · 27/06/2021 13:22

YANBU. Pisses me right off. And the parents NEVER do anything about it.

cherrybonbons · 27/06/2021 13:23

But You are insensitive. You've made it about your amazing parenting in the OP and failed to acknowledge that some children just shriek for various reasons.
Btw some children bite when they are young and some don't. It's just children. Each are different.,,,

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Turkishangora · 27/06/2021 13:24

@LakieLady

My niece was a shrieker, she had a scream that practically made my ears bleed. Her parents were so used to it they barely noticed. They are generally a noisy family, and I don't think they really noticed it.

She appeared to grow out of it around the age of 10, although now (12) she can still shriek like a banshee at times, especially when she's not getting her own way.

I can't bear it, to the point where I was reluctant to go to family events if they were going to be there.

Same with my niece. My sister doesn't believe in saying no. Also have a friend with a girl like this, i do find the relentless noise really really stressful.
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UhtredRagnarson · 27/06/2021 13:24

Why? Their parents don’t stop them, maybe their parents don’t realise because they’re loud too.

Mumblechum0 · 27/06/2021 13:25

SN aside, you don’t ask them, you tell them.

If they do it again you punish them, eg by making them go to their room or taking something away for a while.

User179335678 · 27/06/2021 13:26

The most miserable bunch of people.

They are kids - leave them be.

And while you are at it, pull your judgemental heads out of your arses :)

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