Kids that shriek?

[Turkishangora]

Just that really, why?? My 2 don't, not because they're miraculously non shrieking... Because we've drummed it into them not to. I'm not talking toddlers, I'm talking 5+ when they feel the need to shriek, shout and scream all. The. Time

Can you tell my pandemic experience has been framed by the 9 year old twins next door screaming in their garden throughout?

My last home had an ear-splitting shrieker next door. She did it on purpose as she found it funny. You'd hear a deep breath, shriek as loud and long as possible, then her and sibling giggling. Repeat.

It was one of many reasons I moved. Fucking useless parents.

With regards to my neighbours dd who does have adhd and schreeches like a lunatic - a. I ignore it. However it does stress me out because I actually think there might be something wrong and people might look at me if I am nearby thinking why don’t you help her if she is hurt. The mother isn’t usually around. When the shreaking starts it’s a bit like crying wolf. Is something wrong? I don’t know. My response is to walk away and let others deal.

@Rabbitheadlights

YABVU ... Some kids shriek my DS is autistic and has sensory processing disorder shrieking is one of the things he does to self regulate. You have no idea of other people's circumstances keep your opinions to yourself and watch for the ledge on that pedastal I suspect you will fall with an almighty bump when one of your perfectly well behaved children mess up.

The opinion that kids that shriek are annoying? It's true, kids constantly shrieking are annoying no matter what the cause. I think most people understand that some kids cannot help it because they have sensory issues or autism and that in no way reflects on the parents, but that does not in any way invalidate anybody finding the noise annoying. Nothing unreasonable about finding shrieking kids annoying at all.

Our neighbours children approx 4 & 5yrs scream all the time and it is definitely learned behaviour. The father would chase them round the garden roaring making them scream. They also scream in the house at bathtime and bed times. I've never known kids scream so much it drives me insane!!

@momamama

I am very pleased for those of you who have neurotypical children. It must feel good on that high horse.

A few children clearly cannot help making noises that are atypical. Most shrieking children just need clear boundaries - even most children with ADHD don’t need to screech and can be told not to, with good effect.

@Universe1969

With regards to my neighbours dd who does have adhd and schreeches like a lunatic - a. I ignore it. However it does stress me out because I actually think there might be something wrong and people might look at me if I am nearby thinking why don’t you help her if she is hurt. The mother isn’t usually around. When the shreaking starts it’s a bit like crying wolf. Is something wrong? I don’t know. My response is to walk away and let others deal.

Our ndns grandchild is a shreiker too.

I was outside potting some plant saplings up and this little lad came out and started jumping on the trampoline.

He kept screeching and shrieking and occasionally shouting "help! Help" so I kept leaping to the fence and asking what was wrong in case he had actually hurt himself.

Completely ignored me and went silent when I asked if he needed help, until I turned round, planted my arse on the step again and he started all over again.

I dread to think that one day he might be out there, and someone tries to abduct him or something and he's screeching and screaming and shouting help but it's a total boy who cried wolf situation where every one has just tuned it out.

Exactly couch. In our case the mother let’s the child run around our park opposite unsupervised and expects everyone else to keep an eye on the child too

Stop being more miserable and let kids be kids - shriek, laugh, bubble over with joy! It's normal for goodness sake

When my DD went back to school after lockdown she started speaking really loudly and sort of shouting. I had to remind her to use her indoor voice ( they use this term in school) and she calmed down.
We have a screamer who lives behind us, I can tell he goes to nursery in the morning as the screaming starts in the early afternoon, worse than that is the fact that both parents also scream at him so I can sort of see where it comes from. He's not sen or anything similar as his half sister is a good friend of mine and says as he's the youngest he just gets away with loads.

@secretintrovert

Stop being more miserable and let kids be kids - shriek, laugh, bubble over with joy! It's normal for goodness sake

it's not any more normal than jumping on the sofa or scribbling on the walls. Totally unnecessary and lazy parenting.

Omg you are not being unreasonable. I was only talking to my DP about this on the weekend. I was using the public toilets at a shopping centre and this young girl, with her Mother was shrieking at the top of her voice and the Mother said nothing! I was so enraged.

One of my friends also allows her daughter to shriek constantly and it drives me nuts. They must be tone deaf or something?!!

The sound of children's laughter is a delight; baby chuckles are enchanting; squeals of excitement at the beach are part of the soundtrack of summer, but children who relentlessly scream at earsplitting volumes need parental intervention or a family move to a country estate or large farm!

In a town, suburb or village where people live close to each other it won't do.

What you do is quite simple: establish indoor, outdoor and emergency volume levels and explain when each is appropriate. Children need to know that a shrill scream makes people assume their life is in immediate danger, so it moves adults to high alert where nobody can stay for long.

If they can't moderate their voices, time out alone indoors should follow. You won't need to do it often.

The 2 year old next door shrieks all the time. I've concluded it's either the terrible twos or a sensory issue.
It's really worrying to be honest and I hope he's ok.

My kids shriek and scream, one has ASD, the other has ADHD...... And ?

No. Sometimes it's SEN.

This does not completely work if the child has SEN. You can explain and tell a child to limit volume etc and help by giving coping mechanisms for triggers but in my experience you're not going to eradicate it entirely at least when they're young and punishments like time out are just cruel when it is genuinely not something a child can help doing.

YANBU Very annoying and unnecessary.

Oh god, YANBU. Unless SEN, parents should not be letting children shriek, it’s horrendous. I stopped having my niece over due to this, no SEN, just lack of parenting. They were apparently immune to it. And of course you can stamp it out, the same as you can with anything else in children.

So agree with this. My neighbours two girls do nothing but high pitched screaming when playing in the garden. I love laughter playing noises shouting to s degree but cannot tolerate high pitched constant screaming

My children come in if this happens nothing superior about it. Just next door can't be bothered to parent. I am more aware of how it effects others

It depends where. At a playground, I think it's fine, a garden - they need to be conscious of the noise, indoors - no.

Don't be so judgmental and abelist.

My son is autistic and one of his stims is shrieking, he literally can't help it.

People like you disgust me.

I feel for you @Mouk . One of my sons stims is groaning as well.

it’s amazing that I have done such excellent parenting by stopping two other children shrieking though, but not on the one with additional needs.

I’ll put that in my next parental review as needs improvement. Must be harder on the one who needs help the most. Thanks mumsnet ✔️

My youngest is/was a shrieker. She is rising 3, and it's got better lately but has taken massive amount of effort and being absolutely on it in terms of consequences and consistency to break her of the habit. Just saying "don't shriek/scream" has zero impact, we've had to immediately remove her from any situation where she has done it and put her straight in her room/thinking step etc. At its worst we had to remove favourite toys, she lost tv time & a lot of other fun stuff.

I hate how threads like this are immediately pounced on by people suggesting the children in question have SEN.

Only a small proportion of children have SEN. It is statistically more likely that these children are just a bit badly behaved/poorly patented.

I also hate the implication that all children who have SEN can't learn to behave. My neighbours son has ASD and he knows he isn't allowed to make that sort of noise in the garden. He is better behaved than the kids opposite who are NT but are allowed to run riot unsupervised.