Kids that shriek?

[Turkishangora]

Just that really, why?? My 2 don't, not because they're miraculously non shrieking... Because we've drummed it into them not to. I'm not talking toddlers, I'm talking 5+ when they feel the need to shriek, shout and scream all. The. Time

Can you tell my pandemic experience has been framed by the 9 year old twins next door screaming in their garden throughout?

@Mumdiva99

Omg....this is one of the few times I read MN and think WTAF!!! Kids are shrieking in the garden and there is outrage. Seriously. One person is moaning because the dad is out with the kids playing noisy games.

Do I live in an alternate universe. Don't we all want to encourage kids outdoors to play, let of steam and be kids.

Oh no....we should be supressing their natural exuberance. Control those children who are having fun. Stop the play. And god forbid if adults actually encourage it. Don't forget children should be seen and not heard......

It’s not about discouraging play, it’s about being considerate and what’s socially acceptable when living next to others. Basically not disrupting everyone with ear piercing shrieks. My NDN kids did it, also used to let them play out at 7am doing it too 🙄 Obviously the OP wasn’t talking about those children with SN either....

They should be seen but not heard, right? Pesky kids being kids. How very dare they.

I also have a noisy child that can shriek . He is almost 10 with adhd learning difficulties and autism along with very challenging behaviours . I do feel embarrassed at times but there is nothing more I can do than try to distract him. Very hard . It’s best not to be judgemental. I try not to be as what you judge one person for another maybe judging you for something else .

[quote FlaminEckVera]@TheSaucepanMan

Christ every single time someone makes an observation that irritates them out come the sensory/autistic comments. Not every child has adhd or autism some are just loud gobshites.

What they said... ^ And it's not 'judgemental' to comment negatively on loud screechy children, and state how irritating they are.

You can see who the people are on here who have loud, screechy disruptive children (and who do nothing about their behaviour.) But their children are just 'spirited' dontcha know?

So just how DARE anyone say anything about how super annoying and badly behaved they are?! How DARE they? [/quote]
Agreed I know someone with 4 boys.

Only one is autistic. All screech. It's horrible and ear piercing truly, they do not stop.

Obviously if you know your kid is autistic then don't take offence. Not every child is. Some are just screeches due to parenting

@WorraLiberty drama llama? Hmmm I'm not the one having a strop over kids playing. I'm telling you all to take a chill pill and leave them be.

Also there's a difference between screeching, and normal excited squealing.

Most people don't mind kids laughing and being excited but it's the screaming that does people's heads in

@TheSaucepanMan

Christ every single time someone makes an observation that irritates them out come the sensory/autistic comments. Not every child has adhd or autism some are just loud gobshites.

Some people are just saying that that's the reason their children make loud noises. Why's that difficult to understand?

We have a beer garden behind our house, one with children's play equipment.

I can tell you now, the adults make way more loud irritating noises than the children do, especially men.

A friend's three children came to visit with her just after we moved into a new house. Realising they could make a running circuit in at the French doors, through the house, out the front door and round the house through the garden, they proceeded to do so, all three shrieking piercingly.

I quickly stopped them and told them three things: they could be in the garden or in the house and needed to decide which and ask/alert us each time they wanted to come in or go out so we knew where they were; no running inside the house; save the shrieking for when their bones were broken, or how would we tell when they were actually in serious trouble?

Job done. The thing I remember saying most often to my children as they were growing up is "Take a deep breath, think for a moment and use your words to tell me what's wrong. I'm right here ready to listen."

There is no reason for children to be screamers. Oh, but I do and did make an exception for squeals of excitement when in the sea!

I totally get that kids will whoop with excitement, like when I bought a massive paddling pool first lock down as a surprise for DC... Both whooped as they were thrilled. Next door inflated their paddling pool, now I get the initial noisy excitement but the screaming everytime its out is literally all day. The lockdown puppy they bought barks endlessly too.... And then the parents shout at said puppy for digging up all the plants in their perfectly manicured garden.....

@thewreckingcrew

We have a beer garden behind our house, one with children's play equipment.

I can tell you now, the adults make way more loud irritating noises than the children do, especially men.

Yes, that can also be true. Especially when England are playing football! Luckily they don't do well enough internationally for that to be a common occurrence 🤭

Some kids (people) are naturally shrill. And yes, as a parent you can reduce it, but if it's their natural pitch you can feel as though you are telling them off constantly which I'd imagine is horrible when they shriek out of excitement and joy - give them a surprise or a gift and then tell them off. Take them to their favourite place, tell them of. Must be horrible.

I've been blessed with 2 non-shriekers. It's nothing to do with my parenting.

It definitely isn't NOTHING to do with parenting. Some parents may be fighting a losing battle. Some are just shit.

@Mumdiva99

Omg....this is one of the few times I read MN and think WTAF!!! Kids are shrieking in the garden and there is outrage. Seriously. One person is moaning because the dad is out with the kids playing noisy games.

Do I live in an alternate universe. Don't we all want to encourage kids outdoors to play, let of steam and be kids.

Oh no....we should be supressing their natural exuberance. Control those children who are having fun. Stop the play. And god forbid if adults actually encourage it. Don't forget children should be seen and not heard......

That would be me "moaning about the dad playing outside with his kids". Except I'm not. I am stating that playing outside on the street with your children, running up and down shrieking and shouting at the top of your voices for hours on end is not normal, neighbourly behavior. Especially when you have just moved in and you have a decent sized rear and front gardens.

@XioXio @WorraLiberty

who says she was never told to stop? she is one of the loudest people I have ever met. she is told to turn it down all the time. she does for a few minutes and then it's like it goes out of the window. she is just very loud, she always says sorry when she is told to stop. I dont think she means to.

I love when other people on here tell others how to parent as if the thought of simply telling her to stop never occurred to my mum who btw, is a fabulous parent and my sisters loudness is no reflection on her at all - my sister is lovely actually and well behaved generally. she is just very vocal!

@AcrossthePond55

Children with SEN aside, I agree with OP. I don't mind the noise or the normal shouting/yelling that goes on with children playing. But the intentional screaming is just too much.

We recently returned from a camping trip to Disney World. Two sites over was a family group with two little girls who thought it the height of hilarity to have 'screaming contests'. They'd stand facing each other and take turns emitting ear piercing shrieks to (apparently) see who could scream the loudest. No one on that campsite batted an eyelash, in fact at one point they applauded and judged who was loudest! Eventually someone must have called the reception outpost because a CM was dispatched to ask them nicely to pipe down as they were disturbing other guests. To their credit the family did comply and other than normal play noise the two little girls were kept quiet.

I feel your pain.

My ex and I once cut short a camping holiday because of a family of shriekers on the same site. They started before 8am and didn't go to bed till 10.00. We got sick of spending all our time and not being able to just sit and chill now and again.

We thought they'd be going home on the Sunday, but it turned out that it was half-term and they were staying all week.

Let me pause in my day of absent parebtibg to applaud you on successfully repressing your children's happiness to cobforn to your ideal.

Punishing them for being happy and excited and conditioning them to restrain outward representation of their emotions sounds like a well balanced and child focused parenting method.

Personally I think I'll stick to allowing them small blocks of outside play during more neighbour friendly hours and not giving them a complex about how annoying they are when they're happy.

Literally cannot imagine anything sadder than a few kids playing in a pool or with a ball.. Quietly .. How utterly fecking joyless..

Oh and despite their noisy enjoyment of play they can sit respectfully in a restaurant, walk around a supermarket calmly or manage public transport without shrieking.. Funny how allowing them to express themselves appropriately means they can employ restraint when needed..

@Justyouwaitandseeagain

Please tell me how. We have shriekers. Asking/telling them not to, hasn’t proven too successful so far.

A warning, followed by time out if he persisted, worked for my DSS.

Insisting that DC don’t do really annoying thing seems to be advanced ninja parenting, unavailable to most of the world, for some reason. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Do I live in an alternate universe. Don't we all want to encourage kids outdoors to play, let of steam and be kids
No we really really really don't all want to encourage kids, to be loud, disturbing others and just inconsiderate.

My kids managed to have a great childhood with lots of fun playing outside without screaming, shouting and being a pain.

There's certainly been a common theme amongst the families of such kids I've lived next to: They have parents who are just as loud and inconsiderate and these parents are rarely around in the garden with their kids when they are screeching. They ne er call their kids back inside when they do.

TV time / screen time privileged removed in our house, after two warnings.

@loopyapp

Let me pause in my day of absent parebtibg to applaud you on successfully repressing your children's happiness to cobforn to your ideal.

Punishing them for being happy and excited and conditioning them to restrain outward representation of their emotions sounds like a well balanced and child focused parenting method.

Personally I think I'll stick to allowing them small blocks of outside play during more neighbour friendly hours and not giving them a complex about how annoying they are when they're happy.

Literally cannot imagine anything sadder than a few kids playing in a pool or with a ball.. Quietly .. How utterly fecking joyless..

Oh and despite their noisy enjoyment of play they can sit respectfully in a restaurant, walk around a supermarket calmly or manage public transport without shrieking.. Funny how allowing them to express themselves appropriately means they can employ restraint when needed..

🙌🙌

@loopyapp

Let me pause in my day of absent parebtibg to applaud you on successfully repressing your children's happiness to cobforn to your ideal.

Punishing them for being happy and excited and conditioning them to restrain outward representation of their emotions sounds like a well balanced and child focused parenting method.

Personally I think I'll stick to allowing them small blocks of outside play during more neighbour friendly hours and not giving them a complex about how annoying they are when they're happy.

Literally cannot imagine anything sadder than a few kids playing in a pool or with a ball.. Quietly .. How utterly fecking joyless..

Oh and despite their noisy enjoyment of play they can sit respectfully in a restaurant, walk around a supermarket calmly or manage public transport without shrieking.. Funny how allowing them to express themselves appropriately means they can employ restraint when needed..

😂😂😂

Please tell me how. We have shriekers. Asking/telling them not to, hasn’t proven too successful so far
Of course not, kids usually need more than asking to stop doing something they enjoy.

I warned my kids before going out that if they started being loud, they would be told to come back in. They got one warning, and they then had to come back in. They didn't get to go out again for hours. It didn't take too many instances before they for it.

There is a large complex of daycare centers behind our building. More than six of them in a cluster, catering to different age groups.

At one of them a few off the children shriek all day, with a couple of breaks, presumably for lunch/nap.

It is extremely annoying. Sometimes it triggers a reaction in me bas if a child is being harmed. I am convinced the staff encourage it with chasing games or hiding and leaping out to scare the kids.

There are also kids who cry. I understand that young ones cry, but I agree with the posters who say it is due to parenting/adult supervision or the lack of it.

It drives me crazy when I am trying to concentrate on work. It starts at 8 am and goes until 6 pm.