Who gets children ready for school

[Rizzoli123]

AIBU

In our house its always me.
We have 2 boys.

My husband is still in bed till at least 5 minutes before they go to school. Am I being unreasonable to ask that he helps maybe just a little bit. I don't mind if he dosent help just sit up and engage with his kids!

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Our kids are older now, but dp walks the dog while I do packed lunches, dogs breakfast and make us coffee. Take turns re school run depending on what's on at work

Single parent. I do EVERYTHING!

@moovinon

I would be so annoyed at that.

I get up and make the kids brekkie & pack everyone's lunches while partner gets ready. He then comes down and gets them dressed etc while I get read and then we're off to work.

I think it should be a joint effort. Why should it all be down to you!

Perhaps because the OP is a SAHP; the children are old enough not to need much in the way of "getting ready" and they have school lunches?

We split it - whoever is going the school run stays in bed a bit longer while the one staying home gets the DC ready, does breakfast etc.

This post is weird. How is he supporting a family on 2-3 hours work a day?

I think you'd better get a job OP, you don't seem to enjoy the SAHM role, spend too much time cleaning and your husband is not working full time, surely at least one of you needs to?

I think you need to realise YOU have a choice, if you want a better balance stop cleaning for most of the day that's just fucking nuts!!!! My cleaner does 3 hrs every 2 weeks

Sounds like your husband is lazy - but if he's cooking / meal planning every night that is quite a big responsibility.

You also can't change him - but your day, you absolutely can change!

Join a class / start running / read a book / study part time. Get a job. Knock the obsessive cleaning on the head and voila.

I'm lost. Why wouldn't you work if your husband only does 2-3hrs a day?

Are you not bored? Cleaning all day everyday is no life. Why not at least do something you enjoy with your time if you don't need the money?

Do you have Ocd .. As it really isn't normal to clean every room every day. I hoover tidy lounge, clean round kitchen as bathroom daily..

@G5000

But also ask yourself if you want to be with someone who you have to force to do their fair share or parenting

OP is a SAHM of school aged children and husband already does pick ups and cooks dinner. So he should do 100% of the money earning and 50% of childcare on top?

So how much childcare should a working parent do? 50% sounds fair especially as he's only working a maximum of 4 hours a da6.

How does it take 30 minutes to clean a room? Do you remove the furniture?

Have you thought about going back to school or getting a job?

If you really love cleaning, start a cleaning business.

Erm not quite in keeping with the thread but the kids get themselves ready for school and have done since YR, including their own alarms (iPads ).

They have dressed themselves since YR and got their own breakfast since YR.

I facilitated this by buying small milkbottles, putting cereal and bowls in reach and teaching them to layout their clothes the night before as well as PE kit or book bag days.

And I always make pack lunch the night before.

But that aside, your DH is a knob. Tell him to get up.

So how much childcare should a working parent do? 50% sounds fair especially as he's only working a maximum of 4 hours a da6.

In my opinion a SAH parent of school age kids should do more childcare /housework than a working parent. And OPs DH already does pick ups and cooks dinner. So if he also does mornings, what exactly is OP doing except for polishing all silver every day?

What @grandmashotdoodlebugs said.

Mine got themselves ready barely aged 4, including sorting out "tomorrow clothes" the night before. They get their breakfast (cereal, milk, drink) and the only thing I get out for them is a bowl as they can't reach that. They eat while I shower.

While I do sympathise somewhat, independence is key.