Who gets children ready for school

[Rizzoli123]

AIBU

In our house its always me.
We have 2 boys.

My husband is still in bed till at least 5 minutes before they go to school. Am I being unreasonable to ask that he helps maybe just a little bit. I don't mind if he dosent help just sit up and engage with his kids!

My husband. Since last year I'm the one in bed.

My cleaning/admin/grocery shopping takes 2/3 hours a day, maximum. I get it done, have lunch, then have free time until pick up.

If I cleaned my house for 5 hours a day 5 days a week I would be going out of my mind!

YABU he does dinner shares school pick up and works ....

We both do it - different bits. DH usually up first as better in the mornings than me. But we certainly consider it our shared responsibility. But then again we both work

Unless you live in a stately home it doesn't take 6 hours per day 5 days a week to clean....

It’s DH’s job here. The only time I step in is if they want fancy plaits. He can do ponytails and pigtails, but his plaits fall out if you shake your head a bit too hard.

I don’t, because I start work at 6am.

Of course it is peace if you have 9.30-3pm to yourself! If I ever take a days annual leave during school hours, I absolutely consider that I have had a day to myself

Don't mind me folks, I'm just here for the deletion message.

You're a SAHP of school age kids, the school run is 100 percent your job.

@Manteo

You spend 5 hours cleaning every day?

Most of the time some days 3 or 4. I like to clean each room everyday. Take 30mins a room.

My husband does mornings, mainly because I am at work before they get up, but even if I am off work, my husband still does the mornings so as to keep it routine. We tend to split bedtimes though.

We share but we both work full time. If DH was a SAHP of school aged kids, and I did the pick ups and also cooked dinner, I would certainly expect him to do more of the rest.

Cleaning 4 hours every day is a hobby, not necessity.

If you are choosing to use 4-5 hours a day to clean areas that dont even need cleaning, then you lose any clout with me over wanting your dh to get up earlier to help you in the mornings.

Clean each room once a week. Tidy round for an hour each day max. Anything more is ridiculous.

So, cleaning is your hobby and you spend 4 hours in your hobby every day.

Your dh could very well be very very frustrated with the amount of time you spend on your hobby.

How much down time does he get?

You can't say you like to clean each room every day then moan you don't get a break!

Both, dp generally leaves earlier for work than me, sometimes before we are up so I do a bit more as I am in the house to do it. But then dp will make sandwiches for lunchboxes the night before when he's prepping dinner all I have to do is throw in some fruit and stuff then. Other times when I'm working he will do the majority of stuff in the morning. I usually do lunches as I'll be making something for myself but he will do the rest.

You're a SAHM of kids in full time school and you are complaining that you have to look after your kids for 1h in the mornings!

Give up the ridiculous and unecessary hours cleaning, look after your kids and take an hour break during the day. Your OH is doing his job, you do yours.

Yes, sorry I think as you are a SAHM this is fair. You really don't need to clean the entire time they are at school. I'm confused by this.

Here we both work and and we both get them ready for school. I get them up, washed and breakfasted as I start work earlier. DH then gets them dressed and to school before he starts work. I do pick up. We both do baths/dinners throughout the week. If either of us wasn't working I'd expect them to be doing all the school runs TBH.

I think that level of cleaning is approaching a hobby tbh. How about you do a bit less and have a break?

Cleaning that amount of time per day is your choice and your free time.

I do but only cause my partner leaves for for at half 6 and were not up till 7 but if he has a day of work then he will get up and get our son ready and take him to school, I also pick our son up from school as my partner is still at work, but he picks up on a Friday afternoon as he only works half day.

I'd also suggest showering your children at night and being much more strict about them getting themselves ready. That in itself would make your life much simpler.

You are a SAHM. You need to do the school runs. You should also get either a Saturday or Sunday lay in.

You are choosing to clean for 5 hours a day. You need to get some help for that. It isn't normally.

I did the mornings and the school runs before going to work because DP left for work before we all got up. He did the bath and bed though.

5 hours cleaning a day is ridiculous and sounds obsessive. The solution to this is to cut back on your cleaning not move more work onto the full-time working parent.

You need to get some perspective.

Think how other people manage and then ask yourself what you could change.