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Aibu to think this is too full on?

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Luckystars1 · 24/06/2021 04:12

Hi,

I met this guy about 6 years ago through a friend, who met as a group of us a few times and texted a bit but nothing happened between us, I never met him alone but it was clear he liked me, it was very brief and short lived though. we lost contact anyway and in that time he met somebody else and got engaged.

Fast forward to now he sent me a friend request on Facebook and sent me a message saying long time no speak. He explained that he’s no longer with his partner, went into detail about their nasty breakup etc and started being rude about her which I thought was inappropriate as I’d not seen him in years and I didn’t know her.

Then out of no where he put to me ‘you’re the one that got away’ ‘I always wanted you, you know I did’. We texted back and forth a bit and this is where it went from 0 to 100.

I told him I now have a 2 year old DD. He near enough straight away said ‘I’ll come up this week and meet her’ and he keeps asking about seeing me everyday. He says ‘come and see your man’

He told me he’s got cats and I said I’d love a cat if my Landlord would allow one he said ‘I’ll buy you a kitten if you’re allowed a pet’
He’s then gone on to say he’s got a caravan holiday booked at the seaside that he had booked in with his ex but he’s said me and DD can come with him ‘if we are lucky’. I didn’t say anything back to this and the next day he brought it up when I never agreed. ‘don’t forget you’re both coming away with me in October’

He also says things like ‘tell you’re landlord I’m moving in, I’ll get my bags packed’ I’d love to wake up to you every morning’ ‘you’d be lucky to have me, I’d always go out my way to put a smile on your face’ ‘I know how to spoil a woman’

Also I mentioned about a fishing lake near mine as he said he likes fishing and he put ‘you’re really making me want to marry you’

He said last night ‘he’s not stopped smiling since he messaged me and that he can’t stop thinking about me and it’s the happiest he’s felt in a long time. He put last night ‘I hope you’re thinking about me before you go to bed’

Aibu to think this is too full on? I’ve not seen him in 6 years and even then he barely knew me as we only spoke briefly and we’ve texted for only 2 days and he is saying all this among other things.

OP posts:
AryaStarkWolf · 28/06/2021 11:09

Bloody hell he sounds totally unhinged

peachyandkeen · 28/06/2021 11:42

Any updates OP?

Thedogscollar · 28/06/2021 12:47

@Luckystars1
Have just read whole thread.
This man is dangerous. You did right to block him but unfortunately he has still some means if contacting you and essentially threatening to kill you and bury you in your own garden FFS.
I plead you to report to police.
You have been given excellent advice by many on here especially @ChargingBuck.
Keep you and your little one safe.Reach out to friends and family you can trust.

Thedogscollar · 28/06/2021 12:49

Sorry just seen you reported to 101. Good, hopefully this will end it.

Still1nLove · 28/06/2021 13:59

Definitely report him 💐

Woodworm2020 · 28/06/2021 14:26

I may be wrong, but isn't this love bombing behaviour? Treat with caution. Especially as he was so disparaging about his ex. If you try backing away from him, see how he reacts, you may see his true colours when things are not moving at the momentum he wants etc. Good luck!

Borisjohnsonshairbrush · 28/06/2021 14:28

the terrifying part is the fact he made another account to get in touch after you blocked him!! No hint taken.

I have been through something similar OP and its not nice but good on you for taking action.

QueenBee52 · 28/06/2021 14:33

I hope you are okay OP.. this is awful behaviour ... Stay safe 🌸

RandomCatGenerator · 28/06/2021 15:02

Tell all mutual friends.

So sorry this is happening OP, well done on taking decisive action.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 28/06/2021 15:10

How are you feeling today OP? Thanks

Luckystars1 · 28/06/2021 18:42

Hey everyone,

Thank you for all your replies I’m very grateful for the support. I’m better today than I was yesterday. I am feeling more in control of the situation than I was.

OP posts:
Elys3 · 28/06/2021 23:18

That’s good Flowers

blueshoes · 28/06/2021 23:34

How much longer before the scaffolding comes down? Are there other houses with scaffolding in the area?

Luckystars1 · 29/06/2021 11:21

@blueshoes

Work on the roof is nearly done now, so should be down by end of the week. It’s only house on the road with scaffolding but he doesn’t know which road I live on just the area and what’s nearby

OP posts:
wildeverose · 29/06/2021 11:28

Horror film in real life - bloody hell op I hope you're ok ❤️

blueshoes · 29/06/2021 16:56

[quote Luckystars1]@blueshoes

Work on the roof is nearly done now, so should be down by end of the week. It’s only house on the road with scaffolding but he doesn’t know which road I live on just the area and what’s nearby[/quote]
That's good to know

Lemonlady22 · 29/06/2021 18:43

Just a thought....check with your mutual friend that she hasn't given this weirdo your address!!

ConsuelaHammock · 29/06/2021 19:19

He wants someone to move in with? Run

Ohhyeahright · 30/06/2021 12:52

Hope he just goes away op!

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