Posting a photo collage on social media for fathers day!?

[Treegarden]

Am I the only one who thinks it's ridiculous to post a photo collage to your husband and dad or add a photo gushing about them on fathers day/birthdays and special occasions? Just tell them! They are probably in the same room as you whilst you post it! I find it all really fake but it seems to be the norm nowdays! Anyone else find this annoying?

Why didn’t you tell that to her?

They ddid. People really do and people here have to stop pretending they genuinely think that posting this means the person said nothing to ghe person they tagged

It's possible that people that post on SM do talk and interact with people in RL as well?

I love seeing the posts! So nice to see lots of positivity on my feed and often get to see some great photos I haven’t seen before.

I totally understand why people would roll their eyes if they saw a gushing post about someone who they knew wasn’t a good father, but I think all the posts I saw were about the husbands and fathers of friends of mine and thankfully they are all good dads!

@Conkergame

I love seeing the posts! So nice to see lots of positivity on my feed and often get to see some great photos I haven’t seen before.

I totally understand why people would roll their eyes if they saw a gushing post about someone who they knew wasn’t a good father, but I think all the posts I saw were about the husbands and fathers of friends of mine and thankfully they are all good dads!

I do understand the when people are sharing about what an incredible father someone is when the things they’ve said paint them as anything but... but you know, they might genuinely think they’re an amazing dad despite those downfalls as they have nothing else to compare it to, or they’re just glad they’re around.

A good friend of mine has never known her dad. He left when she was tiny and never had anything more to do with her. Her own partner is pretty shocking in some respects, has done a night feed or settle twice in over two years (with a terrible sleeper), meaning she’s on her knees with sleep deprivation and has never had a full night’s sleep while he’s slept soundly the entire time. But because he does some stuff like play with their child, bath them occasionally, read stories, she legitimately thinks he’s an incredible dad. And she wants to celebrate that. So it’s not really for me to judge, and I ‘like’ it just like I do the others.

I don't care. People are free to do whatever makes them happy and I'm free to unfollow whatever makes me cringe . I've seen lots of Smartshow 3D videos posted on Father's day and this stuff honestly means nothing to me as I don't know these men but people are entitled to share whatever they want.

@PassionfruitOrangeGuava

This is key. I’m only friends with actual friends so I enjoy seeing what they post because I care about them as people and I’m glad they’re happy.

Exactly this. ^

I bet a year's salary that the moany bitter gripers on here, who just HATE to see peoples photos and posts of happiness and joy and love, have at LEAST 500 'friends' on facebook. Some people have 1000 to 2000 or more.

No WAY do they know all these people. Probably don't even know 10-15% of them.

If someone has (for example) 500 'friends' on facebook, I reckon there are 375 to 400 of them, that they have never even spoken to in real life. Let alone met them!

Out of remaining 100 to 125, there will be ex work-colleagues, ex school or college acquaintances, and ex neighbours, and a few friends and relatives of people they know (but have never met,) thrown in!

I reckon only about 50 of their 'facebook friends' are people they properly know and see in real life, and some of them they will only see a handful of times a year.

I have 80 'friends' on facebook. And I know - and have met - every one. They consist of my 2 adult children (and around 10 of their friends - all of whom I actually know and have met.) 5 or 6 of (each) adult child's partner's family, (who I know and have met a number of times.)

Also, several neighbours, my own DH, 5 or 6 of DH's work colleagues, around a dozen of my work colleagues, a dozen family members of my own - plus their partners and children,... And the rest are friends of mine...

I am not one of the 'ooh look I have a thousand 'friends' on facebook, look how popular I am!' brigade ... When in real life, they have never even met 950 of them, and sit there seething and spitting venom at nice, heartwarming posts where people are showing love and affection for one another.

Seriously you people, deactivate your facebook! FGS!

@NautaOcts

And addressing people, I just find it strange. Pic of her with a friend “long awaited walk with you my lovely friend”

Why didn’t you tell that to her?

@SchrodingersImmigrant

They did. People really do - and people on here have to stop pretending they genuinely think that posting this means the person said nothing to the person they tagged.

This. ^

Just because someone is making a fuss over someone on facebook, that doesn't mean they don't love them/care for them/see them/speak to them in real life FGS.

In fact, in the vast, VAST majority of cases, they will!

It's like when people buy a card and gift for fathers day/mothers day, Valentines day etc, some people say 'I like to show my dad/mother/partner/spouse that I care, all year round, not on one designated day picked by the establishment!

Such a bizarre and dumb comment. Like people who buy cards and gifts for mothers day, fathers day, and valentines day, don't ever show any love or care or interest on the other 364 days of the year. WTAF?

They are not mutually exclusive. You can shower your loved ones with gifts on 'commercial days' and still be loving and caring all year round too FFS!

Why do some people continue to come out with this silly garbage?

Call me cynical but I don't believe half of what I see anyway.

I have one lovely friend who is married to an absolute cock. If she had the money she'd be gone tomorrow in a cloud of dust. Yet on Father's Day the gushy phot montage appears.

I don't get it 🤷‍♀️

YAWN

some people like posting photos they like to look at,
they come back in your memories in a the following years.

Who cares what haters think.

After every day that celebrates something, mothers day, fathers day, valentines, there is always this kind of post on here. Some people really are just grumpy.
Assume you'll be back at the end of August to moan about holiday snaps being posted on fb too, til then maybe try to find some happiness yourself rather than bitch about others or just plain old mind your business and scroll on.

@iminthegarden

Most of the dads aren't even on the social media so it's not like the tribute is even directed to them. Weird.

Ha, yes this!

Dhs adult Dd does this kind of thing all the time (birthday Father’s Day etc!) only Dh isn’t on social media.
He doesn’t even so much get a text, never mind a card as that’s too much effort!

@iminthegarden

Most of the dads aren't even on the social media so it's not like the tribute is even directed to them. Weird.

Errr yeah they are. Most men I know have a facebook account.

@Youdoyoutoday

After every day that celebrates something, mothers day, fathers day, valentines, there is always this kind of post on here. Some people really are just grumpy.

Assume you'll be back at the end of August to moan about holiday snaps being posted on fb too, til then maybe try to find some happiness yourself rather than bitch about others or just plain old mind your business and scroll on.

This. ^ If people don't like all the fuss and 'gushing' people do on facebook, they need to leave it, or unfollow the 'serial offenders' who have the temerity to show love for people they care for and love.

Because all the moaning and hating is making them sound really bitter and jealous.

I used to know a woman (between 2004 and 2011,) who was single, and had never been married - or even in a long-term relationship. I knew her for 7 years (when she was 31 to 38 years old.) She was never EVER in a relationship for more than several weeks, and spent 85-90% of her life single.

She always poo-pooed marriage, romance, Valentines day, and anything nice, cute, or romantic.

She was scathing and catty, and derogatory and vitriolic, about ANY woman who had anything nice bought for her, or done for her by her man. Because she was soooo bitterly jealous. Because no man had EVER done it for her.

She had issues, and was jealous of people who had relationships she didn't have. The haters and beraters on here are giving off that vibe.

@BearOfEasttown different demographics obviously

Let's just remember that valentines, Father's Day etc are all made up commercial exploits in the first place. They don't actually mean anything. Why people buy into them so much is beyond me. If we do, DH gets a homemade card and breakfast in bed and he's super chuffed. He'd be embarrassed to have a an online fanfare. It's just people, mostly women socially posturing and trying to appear relevant. Keep it personal people. Much more classy.