Posting a photo collage on social media for fathers day!?

[Treegarden]

Am I the only one who thinks it's ridiculous to post a photo collage to your husband and dad or add a photo gushing about them on fathers day/birthdays and special occasions? Just tell them! They are probably in the same room as you whilst you post it! I find it all really fake but it seems to be the norm nowdays! Anyone else find this annoying?

Why are you surprised that people are using Facebook to brag about how wonderful their life is - you do realise that's why it was invented don't you?

YANBU. I’m definitely not a fan.

I find those kinds of posts on Mother’s/Fathers Day so braggy, attention seeking and cringe. They may as well scream ‘look at me, look at me!!’

@HappyDaysToCome

The gushiness (between partners) is in direct proportion to how likely they are to split up in the next two years.

True Fact.

^^ this. And also in direct proportion to how little sex they are having. Science

Don't do this but may start just so any potential MN can get themselves in a twist over it.

I have a friend who posts a birthday wish to her dead horse - every year.

I saw some very sweet montages yesterday from friends who lost their dads last year. I didn’t do one because my dads not on Facebook! One of my dds once randomly posted a ‘happy birthday my darling daddy’ about DH on Instagram, which he wouldn’t recognise, let alone have a profile on- because it was a particularly flattering picture of her!!

Social media is there for people to share their thoughts, feelings and what they are doing. If you're not interested dont use social media or unfollow them.

Loads of people on sm dont live with their parents. I put a nice photo up and message to my dad as we weren't seeing him until the afternoon.

I liked seeing the fun family photos of my friends and family.

I find that the people who post this kind of thing have issues with their self esteem.

Really? I find that people who judge others for doing things differently have issues with their self esteem.🤷‍♀️

@DDiva Social media is there for people to share their thoughts, feelings and what they are doing

I think you mean social media is for people to brag and boast about their lives and only highlight the good parts of their lives. Let’s be honest here!

Yabu

I use social media a lot but I don’t understand why you’d put a gushy message to someone who you were actually with at the time. Surely you say it to their face?

@Checkthemeaning I miss my dad Terribly. But she’s right, he won’t read Facebook posts. If he was here he’d tell me to stop attention seeking 😂

I don’t like them OP, I think they’re a bit cringe, but don’t feel offended by them. To each their own.

I think it's lovely.

Sounds like you have issues @Treegarden because you sound a bit bitter and jealous.

@Gwenhwyfar

"Why the need to do it publicly, I think is the point?"

Why not?
I saw lovely photos of my brother with my niece.

Exactly this. There are some miserable bitter curmudgeons on here!

Ah, here we go with the "you're just jealous" thing... Don't people realise it makes them sound like they're 8 years old?

@alwayswithhope

With respect and sorry for all you are going through *@WTFisNext* why would your father only get enjoyment out of those pictures if they are on social media where others see them? Would he not also enjoy them if you sent them to him via private message if he is viewing them on social media anyway?

Because it becomes a social thing that our extended family can see and add to. You know social media, social collaboration. Sort of the point of it all 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yesterday's post was filled up with some brilliant photos I didn't even realised existed of my dad and I. Wouldn't have happened if I hadn't tagged him in a post wishing a happy Father's Day.

Fail to see how a private message would achieve the same effect for either of us.

I see wit even when the person it's meant for doesn't even have social media. Does seem a bit odd

I don’t know what comfort telling your deceased dad to have a great Father’s Day on Facebook is really bringing.

With respect, all that really matters is that the person putting the post on FB gleans some comfort from their post. Not someone else's opinion on it.

I think it's nice seeing all the posts. And why would we be in the same room? We don't all live with our DFs or our kids' DFs.

I don't do one for my dad as he isn't on FB but I did one for my DC dad. He appreciates it.

I said to my DH yesterday that it just shows how many of my friends have had babies in the last year as my Instagram feed yesterday was just photos of dads 😂

Each to their own and it’s nice for them, but I don’t plan on sharing for my DH’s first Father’s Day next year, just not our thing.

I lost my DF a few years back and I do find it hard sometimes, but it’s up to me to take myself off social media really, not police what other people do with theirs.

I think it's best to only have people that you actually like on social media, then you won't get annoyed by what they post.

Fwiw I didn't post anything for father's day.

I find it a bit cringey, could be worse though!

@Trouvaille - posting about my DC dad doesn't say anything about my life or relationship as we are separated. It is purely to show my appreciation.

@81Byerley

The thing I find cringy is when people post "Happy Birthday to my Mum/Dad/Lover etc in Heaven" I don't comment but I really want to say "You do realise that dead people probably can't read Facebook".

Such a sickeningly smug post there @81Byerley . Perhaps you should comment so that your friends can realise what an arsehole you are? You do realise some people are aware that dead people can't read Facebook but as part of their grieving or healing process might need to mark that occasion publicly?

It isn't something I personally do and if I am being honest, I feel a bit bad about not doing it.