Posting a photo collage on social media for fathers day!?

[Treegarden]

Am I the only one who thinks it's ridiculous to post a photo collage to your husband and dad or add a photo gushing about them on fathers day/birthdays and special occasions? Just tell them! They are probably in the same room as you whilst you post it! I find it all really fake but it seems to be the norm nowdays! Anyone else find this annoying?

@Glitteryfox

It could be worse. My eldest child’s dad posted a photo of himself with his partner and their child out for a Father’s Day meal. To look at that photo and the caption you’d think he was a great dad. They’d dropped my child home on the way there because she wasn’t invited. She didn’t even know it was happening until they brought her home. She cried in bed for hours. Fucking scum.

That's shit your poor DD.

I'm guilty this year of making a video clip of photos of the kids and DH and posting it on FB in my defense we never do posts about each other but I saw some old photos of him rocking them as babies and thought why not, he might get another one in 13 years or so 🤫 apparently it did make him cry so mission accomplished.

Sometimes it's nice to be publicly appreciated

Aww I was thinking it was weird I didn't see a thread saying this yesterday, I was worried the world had indeed changed since Covid, but here is, predictable as ever, just a day late

I don't do it as my dad doesn't use social media and my husband isn't a father.

But I like seeing nice positive things on Facebook and the like. I'd much rather that than negativity and moaning.

I don’t really see why people care about this sort of thing? I happened to have a couple of nice photos of my dad meeting his grandchild for the first time last week, when she was six months old because of the pandemic, and I shared them on social media today because it’s Father’s Day and he’s a great dad. That way his siblings and nieces and nephews who live at the other end of the country and his friends and mine can see the photos and comment on them, if anyone doesn’t want to see them they can scroll on by or block me. I know some of my friends don’t have great relationships with their dads but actually my dad has always been really good to them, taking them to hobbies when we were younger and giving them personal references when they were starting out in their careers.

I've always thought it's for the Likes 👍.
The person who's is posting these kinds of things needs the 👍
Because if it was about the recipient,then surely it would be sent privately and more personal.

It's all Bollox

@GreyhoundG1rl

I don't need other people to notice me and I don't struggle with my self esteem. I simply posted some photos of dh with the kids because I felt it was a nice thing to do. . For who?

for dh

The people who do share genuinely think they are doing a nice thing even if it is a bit cringy. It's a bit too easy to be cynical about it. My dh would have loathed it so I just whatsapped him a couple of photos instead.

I don't have a dad. DD's disappeared into thin air, so Father's day is a bit of joke for us. I don't mind seeing other people's posts on SM. If anything, I think that's nice for them. I just miss my Grandad. He was amazing.

Yep it’s especially annoying when you know that the person doesn’t actually bother with their dad. No card no phone call. But plaster a few photos over Facebook when he isn’t even on there and that’s fine

@SummerBreeze1980 I can't tell my Dad at all...he's dead. My kids can't tell their dad either, as he is also dead. You should tell your dad regularly....not just on one commercially hyped up day per year

@OlivesTree

My personal favourites are the people who post birthday messages on Facebook to their 3 year olds.

I know, me too! I absolutely love reading about the things my friends love about their kids and how proud they are of them. They’re my friends and so I love them and enjoy hearing what they have to say. It’s really cute and I imagine them looking back at it in years to come (if fb is still around!) looking at the photos and what they said. Social media can be such a wonderful thing, can’t it?

@PassionfruitOrangeGuava would a email account to said child not be better.
They could receive the address on their 18th and have a whole load of private,personal memories

A lot of people use Facebook as a diary. So they will post happy birthday to their 3 year old because 10 years later it comes up as a lovely memory. The photo memories are my favourite

@PassionfruitOrangeGuava - Some email platforms close down, my old hotmail account for instance doesn’t exist anymore which is a shame as I had many lovely email memories on there, so no, it may not be better.

Apologies, that was for @jesusmaryjosephandtheweedonkey

Totally agree OP. It's awful showing off and I feel a bit sorry for those who haven't managed to create the perfect family set up and feel bad looking at these curated images. Those who haven't managed to have children, or find the perfect man to have babies with. Those whose husbands have died leaving their children without a father.

I must admit I am one of the lucky ones in this area of life but no way would I gush about it online with boastful posts and ohotos. Just keep your feeling of luck to yourself I reckon.

Oh, I did a little post for my DH! He's worked very hard on a couple of big life events this year and I fancied the public gush.

I don't post often and find SM as cringe as the next person - but at the end of the day that kind of stuff is what it's for!

I completely agree with you but my dh doesn't! He was quite peeved that I didn't do this for him yesterday, when all of his other "dad friends" wives made a big fuss of their dh's on faceache. It's total BS! He did do it for me on mother's day, but I don't live my life on SM like he does.

Completely agree with you about this GreyhoundG1rl. When my Mum died suddenly, I didn't post anything on SM about it and kinda went off the radar for a few months when initially grieving. I met up with a friend six months after Mum's death and he asked how my Mum was, so I had to explain that she'd died suddenly. First thing he said was "I'm so sorry, I didn't know, you didn't put it on Facebook or anything!" I told him that's because grief isn't a spectator sport and it's something I preferred to deal with privately

@ThePearSquare I get what your saying but I respected my children's privacy to much to put them on social media.
I captured memories with a camera instead

@HareofEasttown

Totally agree OP. It's awful showing off and I feel a bit sorry for those who haven't managed to create the perfect family set up and feel bad looking at these curated images. Those who haven't managed to have children, or find the perfect man to have babies with. Those whose husbands have died leaving their children without a father.

I must admit I am one of the lucky ones in this area of life but no way would I gush about it online with boastful posts and ohotos. Just keep your feeling of luck to yourself I reckon.

What a load of absolute nonsense.

So should anyone who has children and who is happily married never EVER speak of their husband and children to single childfree people then? And never ever post pics of them on social media, lest they offend the eyes of the permanently single?!

And should people never wish their dad happy fathers day, or their mother happy mothers day, in case someone on their friends list has lost one of their parents?

FFS, if it offends you and upset you THAT much, and you are so fragile, then unfriend or unfollow them!

I agree with a few previous posters, that this is a nasty, mean spirited thread full of bitter, mean-spirited little individuals who HATE to see anyone happy.

The jealousy is strong on this thread. Maybe you should all deactivate your facebook accounts, because God FORBID you see anyone posting pics of any happy times they are having with their family and friends.

And as for the poster who ranted about people having the AUDACITY to post a collage/some pics of their deceased relative, and put a message of love to them, mocking them and calling them attention-seeking. WTAF is wrong with you?

So, some people don't put anything on social media when a loved one dies, and some people do. People are different. Deal with it. As I say, if you don't want to see it, deactivate your bloody account!

There are some really unpleasant, bitter, vitriolic posters on here.

Have a word with yourselves FFS!

@jesusmaryjosephandtheweedonkey - Each to their own.

I don’t begrudge anyone for sharing picture of happy or sad times in their lives such a birthdays, birth announcements, fathers/Mother’s Day appreciation posts, graduation photos or posts about grief and loss. It’d be judgemental to do so, after all you don’t know the dynamics of someone else’s family.
Maybe they’re just outwardly very loving and like to appreciate their spouses/parents/children on a public platform so others can add messages that the other person can read too.
Of course there is always the option that they’re putting on a show, but people do that every day on and off SM.

I suppose if in future one of their children wished for them to not be added/taken down it’s always an option.

I have a feeling loads of the moaners on here have every acquaintance they've ever met as a friend on FB and that's why it's pissing you off. If you only had people you care about or see in real life then social media is much more fulfilling. Those of you saying "it's for the likes" or "no one cares" it's hardly doing it for the likes when you've only got about 50 FB friends and if half of those like your post then they must be interested in seeing it surely?

Besides the fact if people are annoying you on social media to this extent then maybe social media isn't for you, being full of people and all.

[quote jesusmaryjosephandtheweedonkey]@PassionfruitOrangeGuava would a email account to said child not be better.
They could receive the address on their 18th and have a whole load of private,personal memories [/quote]
Might be, might not. It’s not for anyone to say really other than the person doing it.

I don’t use photos of DS on social media as I don’t personally feel comfortable with it while he’s too little to understand and consent. But certainly don’t begrudge others doing it. For every single way there’s a ‘but wouldn’t this be better?’ and it’s just a bit daft. Writing in a paper diary and printing photos out on a machine is probably the best as there’s a hard copy not subject to whims of tech companies, but that doesn’t make writing emails to an account a bad idea.