Page 5 | To be a bit miffed that dc school did no cards for Father's day

WatchingTheRaindrops · 20/06/2021 16:20

@Glitteranddirt21

Just wonder if anyone's dc school do anything for Father's day. The school do a mother's day shop where for a non school uniform day they take in a small gift that they then select from a shop later and wrap for us and always get a lovely card made for Mothers day but realised today that they never do anything for Father's day not even a card.

In my son’s class a boy’s father has just died. I am so glad they have been sensitive enough it to make cards this year

MichonnesBBF · 20/06/2021 16:21

My sons Primary make a generic front page cards and they choose if they want Happy Fathers Day or To Someone Special to put in the inside to sign (KS2) if I am remembering rightly KS1 make generic To Someone Special ones.

In my class we always celebrate both Mothers and Fathers Day with a card and gift (EYFS). However we do have a high proportion of absent fathers,so yes its generic and inoffensive but all children get to participate.
We do have Happy Mothers Day cards only if we know for certain every child has a mother in their lives, otherwise it would be the same as Fathers Day cards and become generic.
If one is celebrated then the other should be as well, or if one is banned then the other should be as well.
This has always worked for us with zero complaints so far as everyone who is the most important to the child is acknowledged.

CandyLeBonBon · 20/06/2021 16:21

Misery really loves company doesn’t it!

You're referring to little kids who don't have a dad, right. That's a pretty grim attitude to have just so you don't have to bother making or buying a card with you kid for their dad.

lunar1 · 20/06/2021 16:21

Two dads in DS2's class have died of Covid plus a few more parents through the school. They emailed before Mother's Day to say they wouldn't be doing cards this year.

Downton57 · 20/06/2021 16:22

My daughter lost her dad while she was in her last year of primary. If the school had made father's day cards that year I'd have been furious, but of course they had the sensitivity to avoid them for her sake. I am stunned that some of you are so lacking in empathy that you think your spouse's 'disappointment' is more important than the well-being of vulnerable children in a class.

Sweak · 20/06/2021 16:23

I'm honestly in shock at the lack of empathy towards children on this thread.

Making cards in a whole class setting for parents who have died? Or not bothered with them? Seriously.

People can't think like this in real life surely

Comedycook · 20/06/2021 16:23

Children arent stupid...all this make a card for someone special in your life is such nonsense. I bet they can see straight through it and realise the majority of kids are making a card for mothers/fathers day and they're the odd one out.

NC276 · 20/06/2021 16:23

The school should do both or neither. Same happened at my son's school. I also thought it was odd that they made Mother's Day cards but not Father's Day ones. Thankfully I remembered yesterday and doesn't appear he's at all bothered haha.

khakiandcoral · 20/06/2021 16:23

A wise decision by the school. Father’s Day stuff can happen at home.

absolutely

but why doing something for Mother's Day then? It can happen at home too.

ThePurpleCurtain · 20/06/2021 16:23

My DD has very limited contact with her DF and gets upset if he or dads are mentioned so her class didn't do anything for Fathers Day, I know other classes have done things though.

Comedycook · 20/06/2021 16:24

I am stunned that some of you are so lacking in empathy that you think your spouse's 'disappointment' is more important than the well-being of vulnerable children in a class

Agree...it's unbelievable

Zari29 · 20/06/2021 16:24

Some posters here should be ashamed at themselves.

babbaloushka · 20/06/2021 16:25

Do you think your poor DH not getting a school made card comes before the emotional welfare of a bereaved child or the child of an absent parent? You may want to look at your priorities, your DH is surely a big boy who will cope without a card made at school.

cocoloco987 · 20/06/2021 16:26

but why doing something for Mother's Day then? It can happen at home too.

Far more dc have mothers in their life than fathers. That's a sad but true fact. The teachers will know if it's not the case and plan accordingly

Seesawmummadaw · 20/06/2021 16:28

As shown in the bizarre posts on this thread it’s easier if schools don’t do it.

They can’t win!

Enjoy doing some crafts with your dc op.

singsingbluesilver · 20/06/2021 16:29

I cannot for the life of me see where brittleheadgirl has been sexist - indeed if you look at page three the poster has made it clear that families come in many, many different forms.

A minority of posters on here really are not showing themselves in a favourable light. Just because you can't be bothered - or for some bizarre reason think it is you right to have cards made for you and other members of your family in school - does not mean that feelings of children who would be be hurt by this should be ignored.

Making cards is not an essential part of education. Your child will not miss out if they don't get to make them at school. The rights of the child who is grieving a parent or going through some other trauma trump your rights here.

brittleheadgirl · 20/06/2021 16:32

@singsingbluesilver

I cannot for the life of me see where brittleheadgirl has been sexist - indeed if you look at page three the poster has made it clear that families come in many, many different forms.

A minority of posters on here really are not showing themselves in a favourable light. Just because you can't be bothered - or for some bizarre reason think it is you right to have cards made for you and other members of your family in school - does not mean that feelings of children who would be be hurt by this should be ignored.

Making cards is not an essential part of education. Your child will not miss out if they don't get to make them at school. The rights of the child who is grieving a parent or going through some other trauma trump your rights here.

Thank you! I'd never claim to be perfect but I've never been described as sexist - so insulting!!

lastcall · 20/06/2021 16:33

Our primary does cards for both Mother's Day and Father's Day . We emphasize a 'special person' in your life for both if someone is missing a parent in their life.

Comedycook · 20/06/2021 16:35

@lastcall

Our primary does cards for both Mother's Day and Father's Day . We emphasize a 'special person' in your life for both if someone is missing a parent in their life.

Like I said earrlir, kids aren't stupid.

Comedycook · 20/06/2021 16:36

*earlier

brittleheadgirl · 20/06/2021 16:38

@lastcall

Our primary does cards for both Mother's Day and Father's Day . We emphasize a 'special person' in your life for both if someone is missing a parent in their life.

As someone posted earlier, children aren't stupid! This really isn't a great way of dealing with a child coping with the loss of a parent, either through bereavement or them being absent, in prison etc

BananasAreEvil · 20/06/2021 16:44

It would be an extremely insensitive thing to do OP. You want one that bad, then sit down with your own DC and make them do it. You have no idea the effect that something like that can have on children without a father or who live with DV.

There's this boy I know, a teen now, he remembers being excluded from the activities of 'bring your dad to school' day because he didn't have a dad.

quizqueen · 20/06/2021 16:47

The school should treat M and F's Day equally. No reason why good fathers should suffer because of bad ones

PurpleyBlue · 20/06/2021 16:48

They should just not do either

diamondpony80 · 20/06/2021 16:49

DD's class did a Father's Day card this year but I doubt all classes in the school did. It's not something I'd expect when not all kids have a dad in their lives. We keep a card making craft set in the house so that when DD wants to make a card for someone she can just do one herself.