To be a bit miffed that dc school did no cards for Father's day

[Glitteranddirt21]

Just wonder if anyone's dc school do anything for Father's day. The school do a mother's day shop where for a non school uniform day they take in a small gift that they then select from a shop later and wrap for us and always get a lovely card made for Mothers day but realised today that they never do anything for Father's day not even a card.

[LoopTheLoops]

Once again not all kids have a father figure, mine don’t have uncles grandad step dad etc someone suggested I give the card to a neighbour once?! Like wtf so someone “special” won’t work for all kids

[Biancadelrioisback]

DSs class potted daffodils for mother's Day with a sticker saying "a thank you from me to you" and a while bunch of hearts drawn by the children. It wasn't indicated anywhere that it was related to mother's Day. They did nothing as a nod to father's Day which I think DH was a bit disappointed by. We obviously did do homemade cards and gifts but had sort of expected 'something' because we got something for mother's Day.
At least we know for next year!

[ResIpsaLoquiturInterAlia]

We should celebrate Father’s Day and Mother’s Day as it is respectful and sets an example for the next generations to follow.

As I said up thread we were all created by a mother and father, even those that have blended family structures or play identity gender politics adopted same sex couples etc and other diversity of new legally recognised relationships structures.

What world do we live in if society today can not celebrate Father’s Day or Mother’s Day (or any other day eg LGBT+etc) openly and freely in a free open society because we have to pander to a minority sensitive types.

Yes I recognise those poor children with family members in prison (perhaps not killers, convicted paedophiles and rapists so much!) or those that do not know who their biological fathers are or from other challenging dysfunctional or war zone refugees backgrounds - may be unduly disproportionally impacted but they still need to respect fathers and mothers. What would that little boy or girl become when he or she becomes a parent? What is the expectation? There are of course sensitivities in a number of limited circumstances beyond one’s control but I urge mums here to think about what society you want today and for tomorrow’s generations. Not everyone is from a non nuclear family. Respect should be for all whether you have parents or not. New woke cancel culture especially with traditions enjoyed by successive generations is now a part of diversity but formerly the norm. Diversity means recognition and respect for all including the majority or minority.

Today is Happy Farther’s Day so Happy Father’s Day father with pride! Those who take offence or feel discriminated should have alternative appropriate arrangements as to not discriminate against those who want to celebrate a natural phenomena and being grateful to their fit for purpose caring and loving father. Today is for positive celebrating not highlighting issues in a negative manner. Let’s be respectful and if necessary agree to disagree. Seemingly this is the new Brexit, vaccination division and polarisation. Why unnecessarily divide when we can unite and be grateful for how we arrived on Earth! Compassion should be for all for the many and the few.

[ObviousNameChage]

Do they normally do them and just didn't this year for whatever reason?

Do they never do it, then you should have not expected one?


My school does them. The children have a choice of who to write them for, including their mum if there's no other male figure in their life.

[RedMarauder]

@quizqueen

The school should treat M and F's Day equally. No reason why good fathers should suffer because of bad ones

Or dead ones.

Are you really that insensitive in real life?

[ToffeePennie]

In primary he didn’t do anything.
Nursery did a card, but then asked the children who they were making it for. Which is how we ended up with a “happy bestest friends day mummy and daddy” card. Which I think is adorable.

[Comedycook]

We should celebrate Father’s Day and Mother’s Day as it is respectful

[RiotView]

I remember being forced to make a father's Day card in primary school even though I hadn't seen my father since I was I was toddler (and told them that) I then got reprimanded for not writing a loving enough message in it!

[singsingbluesilver]

"It's not fair that good fathers have to suffer"

Won't somebody think of the fathers!!!!

I can't believe some of the comments on this thread. How on earth can a grown adult experience SUFFERING because they don't get a card made for them at school.

Once again - the emotional wellbeing of children trumps the 'suffering' of a father not getting a card. Craft materials can be easily and cheaply bought online and in shops all over the country. For goodness sake, make them a card at home.

[SuperCaliFragalistic]

My niece and nephew lost their father to cancer earlier this year so I very much hope their small village school didn't do anything for Father's Day out of kindness to them.

[Seashor]

Honestly schools are wrong whatever they do. Next year volunteer in a school preferably a Reception class and then you can see exactly why they don’t make them. It’s not up to schools to do everything you could you know make one at home.

[Kljnmw3459]

I was surprised that my DC's class didn't do any father's days cards this year. They did a mother's Day card. But then I haven't actually seen father's Day being advertised that much this year even in the shops. Perhaps it's not as big as mother's Day in general.

[brittleheadgirl]

@ResIpsaLoquiturInterAlia

We should celebrate Father’s Day and Mother’s Day as it is respectful and sets an example for the next generations to follow.

As I said up thread we were all created by a mother and father, even those that have blended family structures or play identity gender politics adopted same sex couples etc and other diversity of new legally recognised relationships structures.

What world do we live in if society today can not celebrate Father’s Day or Mother’s Day (or any other day eg LGBT+etc) openly and freely in a free open society because we have to pander to a minority sensitive types.

Yes I recognise those poor children with family members in prison (perhaps not killers, convicted paedophiles and rapists so much!) or those that do not know who their biological fathers are or from other challenging dysfunctional or war zone refugees backgrounds - may be unduly disproportionally impacted but they still need to respect fathers and mothers. What would that little boy or girl become when he or she becomes a parent? What is the expectation? There are of course sensitivities in a number of limited circumstances beyond one’s control but I urge mums here to think about what society you want today and for tomorrow’s generations. Not everyone is from a non nuclear family. Respect should be for all whether you have parents or not. New woke cancel culture especially with traditions enjoyed by successive generations is now a part of diversity but formerly the norm. Diversity means recognition and respect for all including the majority or minority.

Today is Happy Farther’s Day so Happy Father’s Day father with pride! Those who take offence or feel discriminated should have alternative appropriate arrangements as to not discriminate against those who want to celebrate a natural phenomena and being grateful to their fit for purpose caring and loving father. Today is for positive celebrating not highlighting issues in a negative manner. Let’s be respectful and if necessary agree to disagree. Seemingly this is the new Brexit, vaccination division and polarisation. Why unnecessarily divide when we can unite and be grateful for how we arrived on Earth! Compassion should be for all for the many and the few.

Respectful?
As a parent you earn respect.
There's more to being a parent than bringing a child into the world.

Or shall I insist that the boy in my class who's Dad is in prison and also court ordered to stay away from him, make him a card out of 'respect'

[SimonJT]

@ResIpsaLoquiturInterAlia

We should celebrate Father’s Day and Mother’s Day as it is respectful and sets an example for the next generations to follow.

As I said up thread we were all created by a mother and father, even those that have blended family structures or play identity gender politics adopted same sex couples etc and other diversity of new legally recognised relationships structures.

What world do we live in if society today can not celebrate Father’s Day or Mother’s Day (or any other day eg LGBT+etc) openly and freely in a free open society because we have to pander to a minority sensitive types.

Yes I recognise those poor children with family members in prison (perhaps not killers, convicted paedophiles and rapists so much!) or those that do not know who their biological fathers are or from other challenging dysfunctional or war zone refugees backgrounds - may be unduly disproportionally impacted but they still need to respect fathers and mothers. What would that little boy or girl become when he or she becomes a parent? What is the expectation? There are of course sensitivities in a number of limited circumstances beyond one’s control but I urge mums here to think about what society you want today and for tomorrow’s generations. Not everyone is from a non nuclear family. Respect should be for all whether you have parents or not. New woke cancel culture especially with traditions enjoyed by successive generations is now a part of diversity but formerly the norm. Diversity means recognition and respect for all including the majority or minority.

Today is Happy Farther’s Day so Happy Father’s Day father with pride! Those who take offence or feel discriminated should have alternative appropriate arrangements as to not discriminate against those who want to celebrate a natural phenomena and being grateful to their fit for purpose caring and loving father. Today is for positive celebrating not highlighting issues in a negative manner. Let’s be respectful and if necessary agree to disagree. Seemingly this is the new Brexit, vaccination division and polarisation. Why unnecessarily divide when we can unite and be grateful for how we arrived on Earth! Compassion should be for all for the many and the few.

So essentially, the short version is “I don’t care about the feelings of children”.

[HaveringWavering]

School made cards are shit anyway and don’t even stand up properly on the shelf! I’d much rather get a bought card drawn by an actual artist! Usually DH or I will take DS to choose something that we know the other will like, or we design it together on Moonpig or whatever.

No need for schools to get involved in any way, shape or form.

[ObviousNameChage]

@RiotView

I remember being forced to make a father's Day card in primary school even though I hadn't seen my father since I was I was toddler (and told them that) I then got reprimanded for not writing a loving enough message in it!

That is so shit.
Our kids can do it for a grandparent , uncle,brother etc or their mum. To acknowledge their involvement and hard work.

We also have children with separated parents, or that live with grandparents and because of family dynamics while they might see their fathers, they don't have the opportunity to buy /make them a card. Or children that only have a father so unless he does it with them , the children can't do it.

It's a tricky one to navigate but it can be done well and with sensitivity, without completely ignoring it.

[cocoloco987]

The school should treat M and F's Day equally. No reason why good fathers should suffer because of bad ones

Jeez!!! Poor SUFFERING men (bet they don't give a shit actually). Forget the upset children who, for multiple reasons , have no dad around. Just think of the men!!!

[Biancadelrioisback]

I don't think (some) people are saying it's the schools responsibility to make the cards, it's just if they do mother's Day then they should do father's Day too.
Or do neither.
Or so a subtle nod to both like I said my DSs school did for mother's Day.

[cocoloco987]

I don't think (some) people are saying it's the schools responsibility to make the cards, it's just if they do mother's Day then they should do father's Day too.

The thing is I know every child in my class has contact with their mum - even the ones in care. This is it the case regarding dads!

[Macncheeseballs]

Could you not make one at home or just buy one?

[Biancadelrioisback]

@cocoloco987

I don't think (some) people are saying it's the schools responsibility to make the cards, it's just if they do mother's Day then they should do father's Day too.

The thing is I know every child in my class has contact with their mum - even the ones in care. This is it the case regarding dads!

Yeah that's fair enough I suppose. I don't know if all the kids in DSs class have contact with both parents, obviously the school do so perhaps there made the decision not to do FD because of this.
I wonder if he was in a class where they knew all the children had contact with a dad then they would do something?

[TomHardysPyjamas]

My DH's mum died when he was a toddler.

He's recently had classmates mention that they never realised he didn't have a mum.

Just because you live in a village with lots of "typical" families (so did he!) doesn't mean you know the family circumstances of all of them.

[DinosaurDiana]

SIL died soon after birth. The child’s nursery and school always did a happy Father’s Day card on Mother’s Day.

[showerbeer]

We have to do cards for both days at my school; we’ve always been asked/expected to. Even the year when I was an LSA and had a 5 year old who had lost her mother to cancer that Christmas. I had no power to change it whatsoever. It’s a load of shit.

[cocoloco987]

I wonder if he was in a class where they knew all the children had contact with a dad then they would do something?

This hasn't been the case in all the time I've worked in this school so I can't say what we'd do!