DH thinks this is disgusting

[ScottsThots]

Feel free to absolutely let me have it but me out please.
We live in a house with a downstairs toilet/bathroom which is the absolute bane of my existence 🙄
I'm 33 weeks pregnant so I feel like I need to have a wee basically every half hour these days. I've been managing going downstairs every night when I wake up for the past few months but I've reached the end of my tether. I just can't do it anymore 😭😭 My back aches, my bump is in the way, I'm exhausted and nauseated and I'm just ready to have baby already 😑
I need multiple trips to the toilet and I just can handle going downstairs that many times in one night.

So yes I have bought myself a little travel potty with a lid which I use. 🙈🙈🙈
It's out on the landing so not in our bedroom and I empty it and clean it first thing in the morning I swear!

It's made such a difference to me but DH thinks it's absolutely disgusting.
I know he has every right to think that but what would you do in my shoes 😅 AIBU?

I also nearly tripped on the stairs a few times because I'm half asleep going down them.
We're currently house hunting and definitely won't be making the same mistake going for downstairs loo.

It’s ok. If he makes another comment, wake him up every time you need the loo and ask him to hold your hand down the stairs :D

@Blueemeraldagain

It is a little unhygienic…. How do you wash your hands? Contrary to popular belief urine is not sterile.

However I think the benefits outweigh the risks in this situation.

Even half asleep a reasonably competent woman can have a wee and use toilet paper without getting wee on her hands.

Have you said if he keeps the comments up he had better not come to the birth? Tell him many women poo whole giving birth in a roomful of people and no one judgy need turn up. Everyone else is there for a reason and his sole reason to be there is to support you and you’re starting to worry he’s not much good at that?

I think this is a genius solution! It's hardly like he needs to put up with it for long either if you're already 33 weeks.

I flat shared in the first few months of first pregnancy with a girl who spent around an hour in the only bathroom every morning. I used t to pee in a bucket in my room! It's only wee, it's pretty sterile and you're not keeping it for hours so he can sod off, uness he wants to install an upstairs bog for you.

No, it isn't disgusting. I have bladder incontinence after two traumatic births 14 and 8 years ago; when my second was about six weeks old I took him out in his buggy and looked down just as I was nearing the high street to find both my shoes were filled with piss. Had no warning and no sensation. I was to have had the mesh but it was cancelled at the last minute (obviously pleased about that in retrospect). It's better now; I take precautions and plan very carefully but I've definitely had a wee in places other than the loo. Tell him to jog on.

Far better (and safer) then sleepily trudging downstairs. When mum died my friend took the bucket from the commode to use as she has only a downstairs loo.

@1forAll74

Well ,he wouldn't have liked those chamber pots under beds years ago. I remember them from the 1940's era.

I remember those too, we all had one under our beds as children. When I left home my first flat had an outside toilet (no bathroom at all) and there was no way I was going outside in the middle of the night so I had one then too.

Your husband's a bit of a sensitive flower isn't he OP?

This is definitely one of those "no uterus, no opinion" times!

Really hope your waters break all over him in labour OP

What a selfish twat to express such an unnecessary opinion when you are trying to stay safe.🙄

Twat.

Honestly. Most guys who just find a tree when they are out and about but oh no a special container in the same house…. I’d be the flush police for wees from here on- you left that sitting in our toilet?? Disgusting? What’s your excuse? It would be fine if you were heavily pregnant but you’re clearly not.

I think it’s a brilliant idea !! Good on you....your comfort trumps anything else xx

@Kokosrieksts

It’s ok. If he makes another comment, wake him up every time you need the loo and ask him to hold your hand down the stairs :D

This I might actually try haha! Just to get him to see how often I need to go these days

He sounds really childish. How will he cope with piss, shit and puke from the baby? And potty training in years to come?

Pathetic twat.

Your comfort comes first. Good for you finding a solution to the regular nightly trips to the loo.

I don't think it's disgusting at all, good on yer!

Yanbu…he needs to get a grip

When I was pregnant with my 2nd our bathroom was downstairs, luckily we moved before the frequent night trips to the loo stared else I may have considered something similar, we moved to a bungalow so it's great now I'm expecting my 3rd, no stairs whichever room I'm in 😁

There is absolutely nothing ‘gross’ about needing a pee!! I actually cannot get that concept..it’s a perfectly natural need . I had same problem as you and I did the same. My husband never made me feel embarrassed or awkward. Many people use commodes by their bed side .As long as it’s cleaned well …nothing wrong. I bet he would use en suite if one was available!

That's nothing on the gross-scale compared to what's gonna come out of his kid over the years to come

I think it is a very good idea OP, & your husband is being an arse.
My mother has the same thing, bought for when they stayed in a holiday cottage with a downstairs loo. She has a history of falls. My Father wasn't a prick about it.

I grew up in a house with only a downstairs loo and very steep stairs. We weren’t allowed to go down for a wee at night so we had a bucket in the room. It’s only like a chamber pot which was quite normal when my parents were growing up🤷‍♀️

@iklboo

Why have you been going to the downstairs toilet?

He's going to be in for a shock with nappies & toilet training isn't he?

This is the most mumsnetty response

@Bloodypunkrockers - if you'd read my update you wouldn't have needs the face.

How is it disgusting, you are using a potty for it's intended purpose, not pissing in his hat. Tell him to fuck off.

Great idea ! He needs to sit somewhere quiet and have a long hard think about empathy.