DH thinks this is disgusting

[ScottsThots]

Feel free to absolutely let me have it but me out please.
We live in a house with a downstairs toilet/bathroom which is the absolute bane of my existence 🙄
I'm 33 weeks pregnant so I feel like I need to have a wee basically every half hour these days. I've been managing going downstairs every night when I wake up for the past few months but I've reached the end of my tether. I just can't do it anymore 😭😭 My back aches, my bump is in the way, I'm exhausted and nauseated and I'm just ready to have baby already 😑
I need multiple trips to the toilet and I just can handle going downstairs that many times in one night.

So yes I have bought myself a little travel potty with a lid which I use. 🙈🙈🙈
It's out on the landing so not in our bedroom and I empty it and clean it first thing in the morning I swear!

It's made such a difference to me but DH thinks it's absolutely disgusting.
I know he has every right to think that but what would you do in my shoes 😅 AIBU?

I also nearly tripped on the stairs a few times because I'm half asleep going down them.
We're currently house hunting and definitely won't be making the same mistake going for downstairs loo.

His attitude is what is disgusting, trying to make you feel ashamed for it. If you can't manage you can't manage and I don't really see how it's any less hygienic if it's kept clean. Plenty of people probably have dirtier toilets.

Ask him to move the entire bedroom downstairs.

It seems he would rather you potentially trip and injure yourself and your baby, than have a potty outside the bedroom. I notice you bought one with a lid, so you have hygiene on your mind. He could always get up with you and escort you safely down the stairs.

I imagine the birthing process is going to be quite the eye opener for the delicate little dear.

You are so right to do this and I feel your pain I am fortunate enough to have bathroom next door to my room and even that is a pain at 32 weeks! I peed in kids potty last night as older one was on toilet! I don't care! You're not asking him to clear it away, I think it's fine anything to make life easier!

I think it’s an extremely sensible solution.
We are so germ phobic in this country. Done right it’s a perfectly hygienic solution.
And yes, when he has the baby, then he gets to comment…

I think your husband is disgusting for thinking it tbh. His opinion is irrelevant here. A very innovative solution I think!

I once weed in an empty ice cream tub in my friend's kitchen when pregnant. There was only one loo in the house. Someone was having a shower. I was DESPERATE. So I crouched in his kitchen, prayed that noone else would come in and did a wee in an ice cream tub. And I nearly filled it.

The above is disgusting (but was also entirely necessary). What you're doing is totally fine!

@iklboo

Why have you been going to the downstairs toilet?

He's going to be in for a shock with nappies & toilet training isn't he?

Presumably because she doesn't have another option?

We only have one toilet and it's downstairs too - it's a right pain in the arse in the middle of the night but there's no space to put one anywhere else.

Also, no it's not disgusting or gross, it's a sensible solution, and I agree a commode is a safer idea.

Not disgusting - I'd do the same thing. Think it's a great idea. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy

Unless you are pissing on his face in the night, it’s not gross.

Why have you been going to the downstairs toilet?

Stupid question, answered in the OP. Like many, many people - me included - there is only one toilet in the house, downstairs!

My mind boggles sometimes on this site at how detached from most peoples reality some posters are. Someone on the 'got a famous friend' thread last night saying £10-£100 million is not wealthy!

YAN even slightly U to wee in your potty, OP.

Well ,he wouldn't have liked those chamber pots under beds years ago. I remember them from the 1940's era.

Sorry I misunderstood that OP was going to the downstairs loo for some reason. A friend of ours did this 'so I don't wake John up'. Till we pointed out John would be woken up more by the baby than her nipping for a wee.

He's going to be dealing with a lot more bodily functions once the baby is born, he's going to be in for a shock. Don't let him out of his share of the shitty jobs because he's a delicate flower!

I don’t think it’s disgusting, and you can use the potty when the baby is potty training so win/win.

I’ve done this when we were camping, it’s only wee it’s not like you’re shitting on the carpet!

Few years ago, I was having the bathroom renovated. No other toilet in the house so used a specially bought plastic bucket. It was amazing and I missed it when the new toilet was installed.

YANBU

It is a little unhygienic…. How do you wash your hands? Contrary to popular belief urine is not sterile.

However I think the benefits outweigh the risks in this situation.

whatever helps at this point in your pregnancy do it! have you thought of a camping toilet, they are higher so less crouching required! xx

He's going to have to get used to the concept of dealing with other people's wee in a few weeks anyway.

And yeah, if he had a bladder the size of a teacup due to a baby sitting on it, he'd be entitled to have an opinion on your current arrangement. He doesn't, so he doesn't.

Same, I could barely move by the end, I slept on sofa (especially purchased for this) .

Urine is sterile. It's not as if you're leaving a shit on the landing. He's overreacting and being very unsupportive. It doesn't bode well for when the baby's born, I'm afraid.

Gosh, if he thinks this is gross, wait til he sees childbirth.

If he’s that bothered get one of these

www.gooutdoors.co.uk/15908522/hi-gear-portable-flush-toilet-15908522/?istCompanyId=c2ec8a5d-93c1-4850-a97a-f4d89d7c99c8&istFeedId=2755fba0-7dfe-46a9-bfd0-09b37aed8b93&istItemId=wapirtwia&istBid=t&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIquzopOij8QIVpgIGAB2wRg5cEAQYASABEgKryvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

People used to keep chamber pots under the bed in case they needed it in the middle of the night. A bucket with a lid is better. And as said, he can have an opinion once he is the pregnant one.

@spotcheck

Gosh, if he thinks this is gross, wait til he sees childbirth.

I was going to say this!

Tell him it’s going to get a lot worse than a bucket of wee on the landing! He may as well get used to it.