husband got back at half 5 this morning

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hello,

based on some of the threads on here, I'm assuming I'm going to get a lot of kill joy comments and the fact it's the euros too but I am annoyed.

my partner said he was going for a "couple" last night. I am 4 months pregnant and we have a one year old. I went to bed at about 10 and heard him come in. when I looked at the time, expecting it to be about half 11 as the pubs round here are still shutting earlier than usual it was half 5!

what has pissed me off about this is, one year old has woken up at 7, we went down about half 7 and of course, he is totally dead to the world. he has slept in our spare room downstairs which is something I suppose.

he was meant to be looking after the one year old for me whilst I go out for lunch today but he isnt responding to me at all. or the one year old.

he was out all day for the game last sunday too, was out pretty much the whole of the bank holiday and last Saturday too.

I'm getting fed up now, I'm not going to be able to leave the one year old with him, it is like he is unconscious and I'm meant to be going at 11.

not cool - pre kids, it wouldnt of been an issue but think he needs to grow up a bit. not against having a bit of fun but rocking in at that time when you are supposed to be looking after your child the next day is taking the piss.

has ruined my day too now and he will inevitably be feeling very sorry for himself.

@Scaredycatmoo

I don’t think I have ever come across a more committed OP to their thread. Don’t know whether to be impressed or disturbed!

You think it's disturbing that somebody is committed to their own thread? Disturbing? Seriously?

@Willwebebuyingnumber11

Your *

It didn’t though did it. I can come and have a laugh on a thread but this is your life.

Your life must be seriously grim if you get pleasure from remarks like that.

I am not spiteful.

I am not idiotic.

I am not pathetic.

The OP said she wasn’t rude.

I thought she was.

You have just insinuated she was necessarily rude.

I stuck with just rude but it boils down to the same thing.

OP was rude.

Thank you for confirming my initial thought.

And for the record, you’ve resorted to personal insults. I wonder what word could be used to describe that…

@Sayonethingtypeanother okey dokey you've forced me to entirely reassess my opinion of you.

@Sayonethingtypeanother do you honestly have NOTHING better to do?

And yet here YOU are…

And you are @-ing me and so I take it you want me to see your post and respond.

I want you to get a life. 😂

I am merely defending myself. Which everyone said was ok for the OP to do.

Only I haven’t been rude.

More insults.

What was that word again?

@Sayonethingtypeanother

I am merely defending myself. Which everyone said was ok for the OP to do.

Only I haven’t been rude.

I mean you did insinuate my husband would be validated in having an affair but ah well.

who really cares, the few random posters at the end there who seemed to have to get it off their chest that I was rude and argumentative were far worse than me and anything I replied on my own thread (my husband should have an affair, I'm pathetic, shouldn't be having another child, I'm tipsy, my childs welfare is a concern) I really could go on, so I feel perhaps a little childish validated in any case. hurrah!

Sayonethingtypeanother what is your problem with the OP? You seem to be taking her replies to others on this thread very personally, all OP was doing was responding in the same manner as that which she had been addressed in.

And fwiw - the affair thing was daft but you could start to see how it would be an attractive thought…

For someone who claims they are not being rude and merely defending themselves this snarky comment of yours blows that out of the water.

You clearly don't like the OP - even though you don't know her, don't like the way she has conducted herself on this thread - so what, it's her thread and not yours to police.

If the thread and the OP are so distasteful to you why did you bother posting and engaging, can't you use your time better elsewhere on a thread and with an OP you do chime with?

Yeah I can't remember who made the comment about you being pregnant again but it was particularly vile.

I said I could see the attraction in a love affair. Your husband was not mentioned.

I didn’t say you were pathetic, that your husband should have an affair, were tipsy or criticised your parenting skills or questioned you having another child.

I said you were rude and I stand by it.

Yet you go hell for leather on me. I haven’t been rude. And I certainly haven’t insulted you or your life.

As you say there were worse things said and you retaliated by being (necessarily?) equally rude.

All I took exception to is that you said that you weren’t.

I never ever said not to challenge the rudeness.

Yet you take from my posts what you want to read.

And people are being personally rude to me. Saying I am another poster, insults as above (some of which were deleted), saying I am a new member, spoiling for a fight, sock puppeting etc.

If there are concerns about my history as a poster - please report me to MNHQ. They will attest I’ve been here for years (with one small hiatus).

You have taken exception to what I’ve said (in posting your quotes) and that is fine.

I still stand by it.

@Sayonethingtypeanother but why, oh why are you so invested in proving the OP is being rude?

Bloody hell, I step away from the thread for FIVE MINUTES and all hell breaks loose.

There's going to be bottoms on the naughty step in a minute (I'm looking at you @Sayonethingtypeanother 🤔)

Shall I put the kettle on again? Or do we need something stronger?!! 🍷 🥃 🍺 🍸

It was my opinion kitten

And I don’t have to prove it. It was there.

Yet the thing about being drunk, shouldn’t be pregnant (I didn’t see that), not caring for her child etc was not jumped on as much as me saying she was rude.

Which she has said that she was.

It didn’t call for you to @ me and carry on being rude and indeed personal to me.

As everyone has said, the OP was entitled to defend herself. Why not me?

I’m trying to explain why I objected to the denial of rudeness. That is all.

And every time I try, I get piled on.

Pile on those who said the awful things about her drinking, her parenthood skills, her unborn child.

THAT deserves a pile on.

Me thinking someone was rude really didn’t. Not insults. Not being told to get a life. Not anything else.

My life is fine by the way. I don’t suppose you are bothered. But it is.

I’m away candy

I need a brew but I daresay you aren’t hearing what I’m saying either.

Please report me if you think I’ve been horrible.

@Sayonethingtypeanother

I’m away candy

I need a brew but I daresay you aren’t hearing what I’m saying either.

Please report me if you think I’ve been horrible.

This is getting truly tiresome now.

I was merely referring to the irony of yourself and several other posters coming on here purely to tell me I was rude and argumentative, yet actually ending up saying things that were far far nastier than anything I commented myself.

I would ask you if it wasn't my husband you were referring to than who, but really, I don't even care because I think I am slowly loosing the plot reading some of the remarks.

Thank you for those who have actually been pleasant and helpful!

I asked why you are so bothered about her being rude. You haven’t answered the question at all. Why so invested?

This is in the mirror online now

apple.news/Au9UisCCTSjaNkmIRBkW8-Q

Oh dear ..

urgu vultures. they got it wrong too because I DID go. lazy journalism!

The point is Sayonethingtypeanother why is the OP being rude, (if indeed she was I saw her responding in kind), effecting you so much you felt compelled to comment on it and prove it? Why does it matter so much to you?

You have been determined to criticise the OP and call her out for being rude on her own thread and you moan that others, apart from the OP, have not called out other nasty posts, so I ask you why did you choose not to call out those posters for their rudeness instead calling out the OP for her responses?

If you are on a mission to stop rudeness do it equally across the board, you've solely focused your condemnation on the OP for reasons known only to yourself.