husband got back at half 5 this morning

[bubblegum02]

hello,

based on some of the threads on here, I'm assuming I'm going to get a lot of kill joy comments and the fact it's the euros too but I am annoyed.

my partner said he was going for a "couple" last night. I am 4 months pregnant and we have a one year old. I went to bed at about 10 and heard him come in. when I looked at the time, expecting it to be about half 11 as the pubs round here are still shutting earlier than usual it was half 5!

what has pissed me off about this is, one year old has woken up at 7, we went down about half 7 and of course, he is totally dead to the world. he has slept in our spare room downstairs which is something I suppose.

he was meant to be looking after the one year old for me whilst I go out for lunch today but he isnt responding to me at all. or the one year old.

he was out all day for the game last sunday too, was out pretty much the whole of the bank holiday and last Saturday too.

I'm getting fed up now, I'm not going to be able to leave the one year old with him, it is like he is unconscious and I'm meant to be going at 11.

not cool - pre kids, it wouldnt of been an issue but think he needs to grow up a bit. not against having a bit of fun but rocking in at that time when you are supposed to be looking after your child the next day is taking the piss.

has ruined my day too now and he will inevitably be feeling very sorry for himself.

Cheers Candy, a nice biscuit or two to dunk would be very welcome!

OP - care to join us, I'd offer a whisky chaser if you weren't pregnant as I suspect you might feel in the need of one after the bizarre turn this thread has taken.

@BronwenFrideswide

Cheers Candy, a nice biscuit or two to dunk would be very welcome!

OP - care to join us, I'd offer a whisky chaser if you weren't pregnant as I suspect you might feel in the need of one after the bizarre turn this thread has taken.

hahah I'm glad there are some on here who have a genuine sense of humour! it did take rather an odd turn didnt it 😂

Your *

It didn’t though did it. I can come and have a laugh on a thread but this is your life.

@Willwebebuyingnumber11

Your *

It didn’t though did it. I can come and have a laugh on a thread but this is your life.

so I'm pathetic and showing myself up but you are going onto threads laughing at the OPs expense?

interesting. we will add a bit sadistic alongside unfunny.

@Willwebebuyingnumber11

Your *

It didn’t though did it. I can come and have a laugh on a thread but this is your life.

I imagine the OP is well aware that this is her life hence she gets the right to decide what she does. The OP came for a rant, asked for advice, and different points of view and then took the actions she felt were most appropriate for her based on her life and her knowledge of that life, not for the hordes on MN who are not privy to the everyday minutae of OP's life, don't know her nor her husband. If posters on MN don't like or agree with what she has done what's it to them? They are not living with the choices the OP has made. OP is not obliged to take any advice or opinion given if she doesn't want to nor is she duty bound to act to the dictates of users on an anonymous forum or to act to please them just because they posted on a thread she started.

TopBlogger

Why have you changed your username @bubblegum02 or is it a nc fail? You do realise people me will get confused now (and probably post responses to your OP and the updates till you turned into candy floss, as they wont read the updates!)

Because I do not enjoy it when I respond to other threads and people search up my username and threads I have created as happened to me this morning

Then

ometimesfraught82

@candyflossss
Are you the op?

Sorry I’ve lost track

no

Your responses are bolded

So confused

@TopBlogger

TopBlogger

Why have you changed your username @bubblegum02 or is it a nc fail? You do realise people me will get confused now (and probably post responses to your OP and the updates till you turned into candy floss, as they wont read the updates!)

Because I do not enjoy it when I respond to other threads and people search up my username and threads I have created as happened to me this morning

Then

ometimesfraught82

@candyflossss
Are you the op?

Sorry I’ve lost track

no

Your responses are bolded

So confused

I was joking when I said no because the poster who asked had been trolling this thread in earlier posts.

Please don't joke, my brain is too old to realise 😁

@BronwenFrideswide

Cheers Candy, a nice biscuit or two to dunk would be very welcome!

OP - care to join us, I'd offer a whisky chaser if you weren't pregnant as I suspect you might feel in the need of one after the bizarre turn this thread has taken.

I think now is the time for wee tot of whiskey before bed! Cheers op! 🥃 @BronwenFrideswide and @candyflossss

@TheLastBeach normally smell the stale ale as soon as you walk in meaning the department is full of drunks !

@CandyLeBonBon @bubblegum02

I actually agree with you regarding your husband, I have had a similar experience many years ago when my eldest was a baby. I was going away to Blackpool with the girls for the day, we go every year, not been out at all in months and was looking forward to it, that was until my ex came in at the same time as yours, and vomited on the front door steps.

I never went, no way was I going to leave my son with him, so I absolutely understand. I went on to have 2 more children with him, every weekend he was out despite the fact I worked, he got baby sitters in and came home just before I got in from work. He smashed holes in my walls, trampled on all the kids toys in temper, pissed the bed we slept in, caused me so much anxiety even thou I work in A&E and see drunks every day, I was terrified of him, thank god I left him because my kids do not drink because of their dad, they are 20 and 22. I wish I left the day he let me down, please don't be another me.

@IAmDaveTheSerialShagger weird that you wrote a fairly supportive informative post then followed up agreeing with that poster, especially after some of the things that particular poster has said.

and wow would you look at that, not been on for nearly 11 hours! my poor child, so neglected

How tricks this morning @candyflossss?

@candyflossss

and wow would you look at that, not been on for nearly 11 hours! my poor child, so neglected

You have spent the last 4 days arguing on here, I stand by both of my comments, I doubt you will listen, you like arguing with posters on here rather than deal with the issue you came on here to moan about.

@IAmDaveTheSerialShagger No I just don't like people who pretend they are giving advice or being helpful and then have the cheek to accuse others of enjoying an argument when their clear motive to comment was exactly that :)

It wasn't your comment lol you agreed with someone who suggested I was tipsy and "worried" about the welfare of my child - the same poster who suggested my husband should have an affair, that I am pathetic and whatever else they stooped to call me because they attempted a shit joke that wasn't funny. Perhaps stop supporting posters like that and concentrate on actually giving advice rather than coming onto random threads on your high horse.

@CandyLeBonBon

How tricks this morning *@candyflossss*?

Hi candy,

A lot better thankfully, we had a chat a few days ago, I feel a little more hopeful now. I got a lot off my chest when I opened up about my childhood and he has mentioned since that he didn't realise it had been that bad. Hopefully the idea of being anything like my dad will make him think twice in the future!

@Willwebebuyingnumber11

OP or whoever she is has really shown herself up. From attempting to appear a reasonable person at the start of the thread to this. Pathetic. The pair of them sound about 16. To think she’s pregnant again too.

What a load of spiteful crap

@CandyLeBonBon

How tricks this morning *@candyflossss*?

Personally I think it’s great that both scaredycatmoo and sayonethingtypeanother only joined mumsnet yesterday and are having a whale of time posting on specifically only this thread (and a bit about trees)

Utterly normal and I’m sure they are just two different people and not one poster with a weird grudge! /s

Op, good luck, I hope your dh does take things to heart and stops being a dick. Make sure you get back your free time and enjoy it!

@SomeKindOfFloppyWeirdo

Personally I think it’s great that both scaredycatmoo and sayonethingtypeanother only joined mumsnet yesterday and are having a whale of time posting on specifically only this thread (and a bit about trees)

Utterly normal and I’m sure they are just two different people and not one poster with a weird grudge! /s

Op, good luck, I hope your dh does take things to heart and stops being a dick. Make sure you get back your free time and enjoy it!

thank you very much!

sorry wrong thread

weirdo

You are sadly mistaken.

OP isn’t the only one who can name change.

Not a sock puppet either.

MNHQ can verify if you care to report.

No weird grudge either. Just responding.

HTH.

@Sayonethingtypeanother

And still only seeing what you want to.

You can argue and be rude as much as you like.

But if you do - then own it instead of being mealie mouthed and saying you weren’t.

Clear enough?

And fwiw - the affair thing was daft but you could start to see how it would be an attractive thought…

She is standing up for herself. There's a difference. Or you could call necessarily rude.

The affair remark is just pathetic. Although I doubt she cares if someone as spiteful and idiotic as you would not consider a monogamous relationship with her.