husband got back at half 5 this morning

[bubblegum02]

hello,

based on some of the threads on here, I'm assuming I'm going to get a lot of kill joy comments and the fact it's the euros too but I am annoyed.

my partner said he was going for a "couple" last night. I am 4 months pregnant and we have a one year old. I went to bed at about 10 and heard him come in. when I looked at the time, expecting it to be about half 11 as the pubs round here are still shutting earlier than usual it was half 5!

what has pissed me off about this is, one year old has woken up at 7, we went down about half 7 and of course, he is totally dead to the world. he has slept in our spare room downstairs which is something I suppose.

he was meant to be looking after the one year old for me whilst I go out for lunch today but he isnt responding to me at all. or the one year old.

he was out all day for the game last sunday too, was out pretty much the whole of the bank holiday and last Saturday too.

I'm getting fed up now, I'm not going to be able to leave the one year old with him, it is like he is unconscious and I'm meant to be going at 11.

not cool - pre kids, it wouldnt of been an issue but think he needs to grow up a bit. not against having a bit of fun but rocking in at that time when you are supposed to be looking after your child the next day is taking the piss.

has ruined my day too now and he will inevitably be feeling very sorry for himself.

General popular herd cliques ganging up on someone with a different perspective. How predictable.

One man changes the plans for three women - you, DD & your mum. So he can do what he wants. Dickhead...

You know exactly how you feel...so tell him.

@bubblegum02 I’m with you. Totally selfish! I don’t understand some people on here it’s baffling. If he wanted to stay out till 5am then he should of done this on the day you didn’t have plans. If your mum couldn’t have your child then quite clearly you wouldn’t of been able to go for lunch? And people strangely think that it’s ok for you to miss out? Mind blowing! He should not be out every weekend, he also chose to start this family not just you!

@HelloBunny

One man changes the plans for three women - you, DD & your mum. So he can do what he wants. Dickhead...

Spot on.

@bubblegum02 - glad that you managed to get out and it was good of your mum to help out.

Some batshit responses on here! Don’t want to take up too many posts agreeing with various pp, but @CandyLeBonBon and @Veterinari definitely sum up my thoughts.

One additional point to bear in mind - your daughter won’t remember today, she is only one. But, the older she gets, she WILL remember. There is a big difference between two parents who socialise and have fun responsibly vs one of the parents who behaves like OP’s DH. Multiple occasions of missing out on activities, days out, etc stay with you. Remembering the alarm clock going off continuously yet said parent doesn’t even register it. “Arguing” with your sibling over whose turn it is to try to remind dad that we’re due at “x” club/activity this week. It’s really not much of a fun childhood.

A lot of guys ARE like this. They very rarely change. There is a huge difference between partners who act equally re responsibility and fun vs the one partner who pushes the boundaries constantly with no thought for anyone but themselves.

As a few have mentioned above, highly unlikely that these men would let down their workplace in this way. Which, in my eyes, shows you exactly who they are.

OP - I find it really bizarre that a few have referred to you as “raging” etc on here. For some reason, your thread has attracted some odd input. You were rightly annoyed and most definitely not BU.

What's this 'half 5'? I can't work that out. I've never heard that before. Is it 5:30am or 5:30pm?

@NeonDreams

What's this 'half 5'? I can't work that out. I've never heard that before. Is it 5:30am or 5:30pm?

Half 5 this morning. Half past 5 this morning.

It's not hard.

@Theimpossiblegirl It could be afternoon (ie have a couple of pints and be home before midday, but came in at 5pm), which is why I asked, that's not that hard to work out.

@NeonDreams

What's this 'half 5'? I can't work that out. I've never heard that before. Is it 5:30am or 5:30pm?

Oh come on, you really don’t know what half 5 means?

Did you not read anything apart from the title 🤣

@Ostryga Admittedly I missed the 'morning' part of title. Thanks for drawing my attention to it.

[quote NeonDreams]@Ostryga Admittedly I missed the 'morning' part of title. Thanks for drawing my attention to it. [/quote]
😂😂😂

[quote NeonDreams]@Theimpossiblegirl It could be afternoon (ie have a couple of pints and be home before midday, but came in at 5pm), which is why I asked, that's not that hard to work out. [/quote]
Except the thread title clearly says this morning

And the OP posted in the morning talking about not being able to rouse her husband after a night out.

I'd hazard a wild guess and assume morning

@Lesartisansetlessansculottes

I feel really sorry for people defending the DH. Do you have such low standards for yourself, or just for other women?

I think those defending the husband, act exactly like the husband,are elfish c*s and dont give a toss about there partners, therefore they don't see or want to acknowledge that the husband is a tosser, as that means acknowledging that they are also tossers

From the opening post:

my partner said he was going for a "couple" last night. I am 4 months pregnant and we have a one year old. I went to bed at about 10 and heard him come in. when I looked at the time, expecting it to be about half 11 as the pubs round here are still shutting earlier than usual it was half 5!

@NeonDreams what is difficult to understand in that paragraph? Note the use of the words night and bed. Did you think the OP was meeting someone for lunch at 11.00 o' clock at night?

Sorry @NeonDreams cross posted with your blushing realisation.

My partner got in the same time last night but he at least told me he would be back 2-3 although it was 5, so I wasn’t mad, as your partner did not tell you I would be annoyed as well

[quote NeonDreams]@Ostryga Admittedly I missed the 'morning' part of title. Thanks for drawing my attention to it. [/quote]
Blooming heck, that beats not RTFT by a country mile 🤣🤣🤣

I hope your chat with H goes well @bubblegum02 and he realises the seriousness of his selfishness.

I would have had to have been petty and packed the remotes and his fav PS (or whatever) game in DD's bag. When he surfaced and texted to ask where are they, "you'll find out when you pick DD up and start being a parent" would have been my reply

Completely out of order op. Hope your conversation went well and you didn't allow him to just spout a load of false 'justification'.

Are you American @NeonDreams? My familys American and dont understand "half 5" etc. They only ever say "5 30"

Nope, Australian, @IndiaMay . I was just confused as I'd heard of half past 5, but not 'half 5'. It sounded a bit like broken English. Admittedly I missed the 'morning' bit in the title, but I still can't get past 'half 5'. It doesn't look right or sound right. But that's just me. And I have ASD.

@IndiaMay pressed reply too soon. Half 5 sounds like 4:30 to me. ie halfway to 5. With half past 5 being halfway past past 5. I say half past 5 regularly. The 'past' omission really throws me and it thus doesn't make sense. imo.

@NeonDreams ah same thing then probably. People use "half past 5" and "half 5" interchangeably. I would always say "half 5". My American family are always like "half of 5? Like 2.30? 🤣"

Then call out the rest of the gang to the rozzers because possession of cocaine is illegal, even if no intent to supply.

Why not "report"?

What's the obsession with "call out" on MN, FFS.