husband got back at half 5 this morning

[bubblegum02]

hello,

based on some of the threads on here, I'm assuming I'm going to get a lot of kill joy comments and the fact it's the euros too but I am annoyed.

my partner said he was going for a "couple" last night. I am 4 months pregnant and we have a one year old. I went to bed at about 10 and heard him come in. when I looked at the time, expecting it to be about half 11 as the pubs round here are still shutting earlier than usual it was half 5!

what has pissed me off about this is, one year old has woken up at 7, we went down about half 7 and of course, he is totally dead to the world. he has slept in our spare room downstairs which is something I suppose.

he was meant to be looking after the one year old for me whilst I go out for lunch today but he isnt responding to me at all. or the one year old.

he was out all day for the game last sunday too, was out pretty much the whole of the bank holiday and last Saturday too.

I'm getting fed up now, I'm not going to be able to leave the one year old with him, it is like he is unconscious and I'm meant to be going at 11.

not cool - pre kids, it wouldnt of been an issue but think he needs to grow up a bit. not against having a bit of fun but rocking in at that time when you are supposed to be looking after your child the next day is taking the piss.

has ruined my day too now and he will inevitably be feeling very sorry for himself.

@Littlefluffyclouds13

Ooo look at you. Are you lifting your quips and witty little comments straight from the Mumsnet manual? Yawn.....

And yet you're still here and even came back to tag to make sure I noticed you

How sweet!
Especially when you have such a fantastic DH to spend your Saturday night with 😂

I'm glad you went out and enjoyed your day OP. I hope when you have words with your dh, he acknowledges that his poor behaviour is unacceptable. Good luck!

I hope your DH doesn't have any expectation of being pampered on Fathers' Day tomorrow!

Uh oh. The 'huns' are out @Veterinari - take cover - little means business!

I wouldnt carry on responding to the troll it just wants attention

@CandyLeBonBon

Uh oh. The 'huns' are out *@Veterinari - take cover - little* means business!

Doesn't she just! 😂

Getting the big-huns out!

😂😂😂 Littlefluffywhateverhernameis isn’t very good at attempting the last word.

@whynotwhatknot

I wouldnt carry on responding to the troll it just wants attention

Do you understand the definition of a troll? Jeez, standards have slipped even more on here recently.

I'm merely responding to a poster who just keeps biting.
We don't agree, no big deal but she/he just cannot seem to stop.
I'm happy to do so.
It's beyond boring on this thread, so really no loss.

@OverByYer

Getting the big-huns out!

😂😂😂

Christ on a bike, is the wee fluffy one still getting overexcited 🙄🙄🙄
I have purposely not tagged the "it's all about me" troll. 🥱

So many cool girls and pick-me's.

Sorry your DH is an arse OP. Glad you were able to get out on your own for a bit. Maybe tomorrow you can take the whole day and he can have the day with your 1 year old?

And then have a word with him about either changing or leaving.

Lockdown probably didn't give a fair impression of how willing football&beer boy was to pull his own weight with child #1.
And #2 is an unplanned pregnancy. I suspect he is less pleased about that than the OP and this pattern of behaviour will be his new normal.

Too late now, but you could have rung 999 being the concerned wifey whose dh had only been out until 11pm and couldn't be woken, not even by a toddler bouncing on him shouting Daddy....
.....if this had worked he'd have had the shameful experience of having his stomach pumped, apparently very unpleasant, and might've been read the riot act by a larger nastier bloke with a bigger dick. As well as a good dose of toxic shame.

Mixed feelings as to whether it's an abuse of the emergency services or his just desserts having lied, abused and behaved like a complete "connasse".

The pompiers/SAMU in France would have made short work of him, that is 100% certain. Word would have probably got to the local gendarmerie. My neck of the woods, the local commandant, Bernard was a 6ft4 pussycat. Hauled my ex in under pretext to see the documents for his car - just as in the UK, scared the living daylights out of him [smile

What!!! Does he not have friends

Pleased you had a nice lunch in the end. If you’re having a good day don’t spoil it now by having “the talk”. I would however be giving him your child first thing tomorrow and going back to bed for a lie-in or going out or whatever.
He needs to grow up. When you have a baby (and a second on the way) you just can’t go out all night drinking anymore. Yes you both go out and have fun but getting so drunk that the following day is written off is just not on, especially if one of you arranged for the other to look after the baby especially. He’s being a dick, sorry.

OP,
You have my continued best wishes.

I really hope you protect yourself going foward.

I see misogyny is alive and well on this thread.

What wonderful women are on here who think that it’s not on to judge a man who goes out not once, but several weekends running, to drink with a load of cokeheads and then come home so smashed out of his brains that he can’t even be woken.

How simply awful anyone who objects to that is for not giving him a lie in and a lovely cup of tea and a bacon sandwich.

Fuck me some of the posters on here need to raise their standards.

@bubblegum02

he is going to be in an absolute vile mood. he cant cope with hangovers.

Serves him right. I'd be livid if I were you. Especially a months worth of weekends. Selfish is the kindest word that comes to mind.

Fluffy says they are not a troll, then in the next sentence talks about posters who just keep “biting” at her comments.

Ok, I’ve started this post referencing an idiotic poster who is wrong in every single thing she has said in this thread, but this thread isn’t about that sad individual.

The vast majority - myself included - sympathise with the OP. What her partner did was nothing more than shirk his own responsibilities in favour of his own gain. Nothing wrong in enjoying a night out, but if that night out impacts on the day after, especially so when your own child will miss out as a result, and not only that, but it puts other people out (his child, the mother of his child, and her mother), then it’s time to grow up and realise that something has to give. And that something is preferably the night out in question.

Fluffy says they are not a troll, then in the next sentence talks about posters who just keep “biting” at her comments. and yet no-one actually said directly “fluffy is a troll,” so one has to wonder whatever made them think posters were talking about them. Maybe it’s a case of if the cap fits eh?

I used to be with someone like this OP, USED to.

He is a selfish twat, you need down time too, he does not need/get to go out every weekend. Why can't you take it in turns, every other week either alone or get a sitter, only fair!

He needs a stern talking to, else he will never change

TBH I think the best thing to do is to learn to not give a shit what other people think you should do.

If my DP was out drinking with a load of cokeheads it would very likely be a dealbreaker for me. Drugs are abhorrent and I would have nothing to do with them, or with anyone who wanted to mix with a load of junkies.

If that makes me uncool then tough shit.

@AlternativePerspective

I think you’ve nailed it.