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To move back in with my abuser?

303 replies

Gograce · 17/06/2021 21:20

Hear me out. I know on paper the answer is a clear as day no. But I genuinely have no where to go. In less than a weeks time the home I'm living in will be sold. I have no family that can take me and Support me financially. I'm unemployed with a 5 month baby. Before all of this I was living on/off with my partner and receiving uc. If I was to live with my family they would consider their wages and deduct my uc meaning I wouldnt be able to contribute to rent hence why they cant afford to take me. If I live on my own I've been told I can be put in a hostel far away and the last thing I want when feeling so fragile is to be isolated from my family. I've barely seen them since the pandemic as it is. No i dont want to live in a refuge either. My partner isnt a threat or aggressive, he has been sexually abusive. So is my only option is to move back with him? He wants us all back as a happy family. And I dont have the energy to stress anymore. I want to be able to unpack and finally settle someone. My baby and I deserve a home...

OP posts:
L0bstersLass · 19/06/2021 18:45

@Gograce

I am going to do this. I will be calling the number tomorrow. Will I have ti commit there or then or is there a process?
Hi OP, did you manage to find some time to give them a call? Hope all is ok with you.
ScrollingLeaves · 21/06/2021 11:02

Perhaps today you will be able to call to discuss the details of moving to the refuge at the seaside.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

Skysblue · 21/06/2021 12:17

If you go back, one day your child will be abused, either by this man or by another that she was drawn to because that’s what she learned relationships are like.

Please don’t go back. Call a women’s refuge.

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