The anger is good, and it is justified, and it will be the turning point for you in regards ever considering going back. Once the veil has been lifted and you see the self centred man, just trying to satisfy his own needs, with no thought for others, using manipulation to try to get you back so he can abuse you further, you will never see him with your 'old' eyes, that fell for, and had pity for him.
This is good. And this is healthy.
Im really sorry that your parents and family have been unsupportive, and Im really sorry that his parents have been trying to manipulate you into going back.
It doesnt surprise me though. Neither that your family expect you to supress your needs and minimise your feelings, just to keep quiet and give them an easy life with no guilt or unpleasantness to think about, nor that his parents resort to the same kind of tactics to guilt you.
You are both the products of your parenting, but the buck stops now, with you, and you can get the help you need at the refuge to fill the emotional gaps that your parents left you with, and which you will then pass onto your daughter, which made you vulnerable to the kind of man who uses manipulation and abuse to fulfill his needs.
I hope the place by the sea comes to fruition. You may find women there who become lifelong friends, I know I have friends who met that way. But you will be safe, you will be trusted, you will be believed, and what he didn wont be minimised and dismissed if you choose to discuss it with any counsellers.
You also will be supported to find your forever home, as refuges have good relationships with the councils, and can fast track the system and get all your money issues sorted and in place before you move, so that you dont need to worry about it.
Good luck today