To want us not to wear shoes in the house?

[NCShoes]

As soon as I walk through the door, I take my shoes off and put slippers on. My partner on the other hand will wear shoes throughout the whole house, and doesn't really take them off until going to bed.

It drives me mad but if I mention anything it can turn into an argument and it's just me 'moaning'. But I hate the thought of walking around outside then walking through the house, on the carpet etc.

The carpet is only a couple of years old and is already looking a bit crap so we're going to get it cleaned but then I think 'what's the point when you're still going to be wearing shoes all around the house?'
Am I being a bit moany?

Never allow shoes in my house, so I am with you OP. I remember viewing a house once with cream carpets and the previous viewers were just leaving. I noticed the owner was hesitant to allow me in. I then saw that the viewers had trodden dog shit all up the stairs and bedrooms. That's 1 of many reasons why I don't allow shoes. Blagh.

no shoes on carpets!!

we have tiles or engineered bamboo in downstairs areas so not an issue for us.
but I hate slippers.

YANBU!

DH has been trained to do this ever since walking dog poo throughout on the carpets & not realising what he'd done until I wondered what the smell was!

It's just more hygienic & comfortable IMO

Shoes off every time.
My DD is 15 and regularly has pals round which results in a pile of converse/vans at the front door, they all do it automatically, I’ve never asked, I think it’s just the accepted
thing now.
If it’s a wet day, even the dogs get paws wiped 🙂🐾

Exactly, DeathStare. Greater risk from door handles and money than shoes. Who are all these people who tread in dogs faeces all the while and don’t notice? I understand leaving wellies at the back door after a dog walk in the mud, but your work shoes that have gone from car to office? Seriously?

I think the idea of having people you barely know for drinks or supper and insisting they remove their shoes before being handed a glass paints quite a funny picture.

What about the sweep or electrician?

Why would anyone want to drag dog shit or piss into the house. Gross. Our if you go to toilets in a bar or restaurant you are inevitably treading in waste and then bringing it back into your home. Be firm!

Yes I agree. I take mine off whenever I go into someone's house

Got to admit, I'd find it strange if someone automatically took their shoes off as soon as they entered our house. And I'm someone who never wears shoes inside our house.

@Zzelda

Yes I agree. I take mine off whenever I go into someone's house

Got to admit, I'd find it strange if someone automatically took their shoes off as soon as they entered our house. And I'm someone who never wears shoes inside our house.

I'll usually ask 'shall I take my shoes off?' When I walk in- especially if I see a shoe rack at the front door which a lot of houses I've been to have. Or there's loads of shoes near the front.

@touma That's so sweet. We have a dog towel by the back door to clean the dog when he comes back. He loves it, abs shuffles his bum about while we clean his paws. So cute.

@4amWitchingHour

I didn't mean to insinuate AT ALL that you're moany! Just that I know my husband would be / is!

Haha, it's ok. My partner will say I'm moaning when I say 'are you going to take your shoes off?' So I know it can seem like that sometimes.

Get some indoor shoes instead of slippers ?

Not as good for the carpets but clean

I’m curious now.
What happens if you have a garden supper or drinks outside? Do people spend their evening putting shoes on and off to walk through to the lavatory? Do people sit on the doormat to put shoes back on with the plates they are helping carry in beside them?

How do you bring shopping indoors from the car? Is it a very funny stop at door, shoes off, go through to larder or fridge, unpack that bag, back to door to put shoes on and out to collect next two bags to repeat the whole process?

What about supper parties? Do people have to dress up in their Sunday best and then remove their shoes, so they feel awkward and short? Do people at drinks parties have to make polite conversation in their socks? There is a Country Life cartoon in there.

What about when an elderly neighbour ‘pops in’? It might take them half an hour to get their shoes off.

Would you make someone change from their wheelchair at the front door because the wheels had touched the pavement?

Don’t your entrance halls look awful cluttered with piles of shoes or those ghastly little racks? Do you spend hours pairing up shoes on racks to look tidy? How many shoes/trainers/wellies/slippers do you have in your entrance hall? Do you keep duplicate pairs in the rear hall too? What happens if the pair you want are in the wrong place (at front when you are going out the back door) or you return to front but left your slippers at the back?

Culturally shoes in the house is just totally unacceptable for me, I’m Chinese. It was one of the reasons MIL irritated me at first because she disagreed. She will wear them now but she just did many odd things like rearrange my kitchen cupboards when DH and I were first together, she struggled letting her baby go I think. My brother who is incredibly well off always has a selection of brand new slippers for guests who can then take them away.

I always offer to remove shoes. We all have indoor slippers, mine are actually rubber sandals. We also have outside slippers so they can be slipped on to do things like put out the bin. I will need new living room carpet soon but it’s 22 years old and seeing as though it’s a natural oatmeal very light coloured carpet it looks fine. Unfortunately it got torn when furniture was moved around.

For entertaining we have always used the kitchen/diner which leads in to the conservatory which has a sofa in and room with added chairs for about 10 people to be seated. All those floors are not carpeted so easy to wash.

@LemonRoses it's not really that complicated at all. I have a mat at the garden door and you can just slip your shoes off and put on the indoor pair of slippers I have there. My bathroom always has bathroom slippers in. The entrance has a shoe rack so doesn't look messy in the least. Bringing shopping in is straight forward, bring it all in and put it by the door. Then lock the car and come in, take shoes off and go take shopping to the kitchen. I don't understand why it would be difficult to understand. And no way in hell would I let someone wear their wellies in my house. No. No. No. My entrance hall is wooden flooring so I usually have that area where there's a seat and you can take shoes off, place on the racks and choose some indoor slippers if you wish but usually people stay in their socks. Entrance is always easy to clean so I don't mind if that gets mud on it etc, but the shoes stepping into the house.. no. And since I've had a baby I'm 1000x more strict. No way is my kid crawling over dog shit from someone's shoe. Nope. As for garden parties I'm a little more relaxed as again my kitchen is tiles so I wash them daily anyway, but still there're always one or two people taking the dishes from the door, and those that are handing the dishes from outside. It's a way of life and something you do without even realising. If I have builders or plumbers etc I put those paint sheets out and they can do their job, I think it's a nuisance to ask them to keep taking those big trainers on and off every time they go to their van. I also have slippers to put the bins out, water my plants, or just in/out from the garden sort of thing.

We are a shoes off on carpet family. So downstairs, hard floors, shoes are ok. Upstairs, absolutely not.

Having seen the muck I clean off the hard floors on a weekly basis I cant see how shoes on works w carpet.

YANBU, shoes in the house is vile. Why do you want your carpets to be filthy like that?!

@LemonRoses about elderly neighbours and wheelchairs lol that's just decency. I don't ask anyone elderly to take their shoes off. I can clear up after. And I don't base my my life on exceptions. Wheelchairs are an exception. I'm not now going to say I let those wheels in so everyone come bring in the filth from outside, mud, rain, vomit, piss, poo, bring it all... yeah nope.

@LemonRoses

I know 2 wheelchair users. Both have special indoor chairs that they bring on visits and use in their own homes. Partly because of difficulties in manoeuvring the larger outdoor chairs indoors and partly because they dont want muck on their carpets either. They are both partially ambulatory wheelchair users. I'm guessing those who are not probably have hard floors at home as the chairs manoeuvre far more easily on hard floors.

These threads are always full of people who have walked dog shit through their homes. I think of it everytime I see a photo of the Queen or someone like that in her sitting room with her shoes on.

In 43 years I’ve not only never done it, but never heard of anyone who has in real life.

What are we doing right, I wonder?

Does he clean the floors? If yes then yabu. If no then you are within your rights to amputate his feet if he doesn’t listen lol

YANBU. Shoes off as soon as you come through the door! I have folding indoor shoes/socks in my bag for other peoples homes.

@MissTrip82

These threads are always full of people who have walked dog shit through their homes. I think of it everytime I see a photo of the Queen or someone like that in her sitting room with her shoes on.

In 43 years I’ve not only never done it, but never heard of anyone who has in real life.

What are we doing right, I wonder?

I guess it just depends where you live and the type of shit you trek through. I live in a country area and even if you can dodge the fresh turds it’s quite easy to accidentally step into a dried bit of cow / sheep / fox shit. It wouldn’t really smell but it would definitely pass on bacteria.

To combat this most people have indoor and outdoor shoes (even if it’s just two of the same pairs). I don’t know anyone local who is stupid enough to wear their outdoor shoes into the house.

Can I ask what all of you who think shoes indoors is “grim” what you do if you visit someone (me) who specifically asks you to keep them on?

It's quite simple @Blossomtoes I'd keep them on. The host is King. I wouldn't argue to take off my shoes. Your house your rules. Would still find it gross though

@Blossomtoes

Can I ask what all of you who think shoes indoors is “grim” what you do if you visit someone (me) who specifically asks you to keep them on?

In your house, it's fine if you ask me to keep my shoes on. Your house, your rules. But I also apply that thinking to my own house, which is no shoes. I actually have hard floors downstairs so if I have guests while I don't like it if they wear their shoes inside I will just clean the floors after, but if I had carpets throughout I'd have a basket of washable slippers like they do in Slovenia for guests to wear :)