For being annoyed at MIL for babies sun burn?

[HannahAD]

Yesterday my MIL took my 21 month old out for the day and specifically asked for him to be wearing “beach appropriate clothes” we live in Scotland and it wasn’t sunny or warm at all when I was getting him ready so I put lightweight leggings and a T-shirt on him and popped a jacket under his pram incase it got any colder. I put sun cream on him and told her the cream was in his bag and would need to be reapplied later if he was getting out of his pram and she agreed. 3 hours later we get him back and he’s very sunburned. I asked about how it was possible when he had factor 50 on and she replied “I don’t believe in suncream as I’ve heard it can cause cancer, so I never put anymore on him ” my partner says I’m being unreasonable for being very annoyed as now my baby is sunburned, uncomfortable and I feel that is very irresponsible.

Estrangement DOES help the prevention of a repeat event where the child is harmed when in “the care” of someone who SHOULD protect them, but actively chose not to.

It’s not ignorant, it’s cruel and harm WAS done.

The estrangement doesn’t have to be permanent but certainly until the child can communicate for themselves is a starting point

And if the ds is estranged for 16 years, they won’t ask why no contact, it’ll just be accepted

Those gp who directly ignore a reasonable and correct request and harm their gc have no business spending any time with them and certainly never unsupervised

parents have ONE job. To protect the dc. Be that from a stranger, a partner, or family member

My ds has no contact with my parents - they’ve individually shown that they will hurt him psychologically and or physically

Benefit of contact is for the child alone. They are of no benefit to him or to me.

Really very upsetting because it was deliberate.

Like mother, like son, your husband is also an idiot.

To think it's ok for his child to be put at risk because his mother's batshit views.

You have your hands full with the stupidity of him and his family.

I just do not understand these women, grandparents on either side imagining they get to over ride parents.

Really batshit.
Hope he heals soon.

Estrangement is when you don't see or speak to the person.

The OP has said that the grandma can't provide sole care of the child (she can't look after him on her own).

Those are different. The latter is a very sensible approach given the child was injured due to her wilful neglect. She doesn't say its permanent either. She may well reevaluate if the grandma takes steps to earn her trust back.

You all need to calm down and stop reading the Daily Mirror.

ExD1938

Where has the OP said anything about estrangement? Or banning the grandparent from seeing the child? She hasn’t, she has just said she will not be allowed to have him unsupervised, which is completely reasonable.

And the grandmother doesn’t sound like she’s apologetic or regrets her actions, instead she’s been moaning about to the OPs DH about the OP telling her off. She was completely out of order and needs to learn a bloody lesson, not having her grandchild unsupervised is just the consequence of behaving like an idiot.

She thinks suncream causes cancer?! Sounds like something my MIL would say OP, it's awful, hope your baby is OK.