AIBU that neighbour is a cheeky F !

[Karmabites2591]

Named changed because completely outing If she is on here.

So we live in a terraced house with decent size gardens.
Our garden has a pool, climbing frame and tree house thing for kids.
We have fences but they are lower enough to look over etc.
We have been out every day the last week.
My kids have noticed that things haven’t been where they left them in the garden but I just assumed they just forgot etc

Anyway, I got home from work early today and the kids were still at the park and one with my sister.
When I arrived home.
The neighbours child was in our garden using the climbing frame whilst his mum was in her garden watching.

Seriously ??? Neighbour was apologetic when she realised I was annoyed but said she didn’t really see the problem as he was supervised and wasn’t doing any harm ?

@Gumbomambo

Go around and sit on their immaculate garden furniture when they are out. Seriously 100% not on. Would they think it was ok to go into your house and use your things? Still your property or conversely is it ok for you to go and use theirs? Another vote for cctv.

Yes! Do they have a barbecue you could use too? Although that might upset the neighbours, oh no, wait…!

I bet if they were your friends and had asked, you would have been ok but clearly you are not friends and that will have its own good reason I am sure. Very cheeky and I would film them in secret and stick it on social media....lol

Wow - I'd be furious! Once you've discussed your concerns with your neighbour and looked at anything else that may work, you may need to install a camera just to protect yourself. It's disgraceful that you have to go to such lengths to stop someone trespassing, but If they've got away with this behaviour on numerous occasions, they more than likely will just keep on trying. To be so blatant in the first place means that they just don't care enough to consider your privacy or even why it may concern you. Good luck.

Post a pic of yr fence, i will recommend what you can do. They keep their garden tidy and adulty and use yours to muck about in. Can I come play too? 😅

Wow that's really taking the pith. Place a few things random so you can see if it happens again. If it does, tell her your having a huge party and as she uses your garden your sure she wont mind if your guests climb the fence and use her table and chairs.

There are laws against trespass - she needs reminding of this - unbelievable nerve - tell her you will report her to local community officers if she does it again

Cheeky sod,obviously doesn't know the meaning of trespass. Suggest you pour yourself a drink,get some snacks then pop over the fence and done in her garden.

You would be held liable occupiers liability even if the person is trespassing! A burglar successfully sued a home owner after injuring himself while burgling their house!!

Text them a link with the Argos catalogue and the gov.uk page on trespass the cheeky git!!

@Bargebill19

I would bet good money that the minute something was broken by her child, it wouldn’t have been replaced and yet, if her child was injured, she would have found a way to sue you. Spikes on fence, or trellis and spikey planting. She is a cf.

Take the spirit of this wise remark seriously OP.

Pop into your neighbours garden when they’re out and use their fancy garden furniture. Send them selfies.

I believe this is called trespassing.

I would err on the side of caution and write a very strongly worded letter sent by registered post so they have to sign for it.
I would tell them in no uncertain terms thst not only are they tresspassing but should an accident have occured on your property th3y would be at fault as you have NOT given permission for any of your neighbours to be on your property. Maybe put up a fake camera. Don't invite said child in to play as you will never get rid

Start a youtube channel that lives streams your back garden 24/7 (apart from when you're in it of course)

Spits coffee!!!

She absolutely is a cheeky fucker.

Supergirl1958
Get a ring doorbell for the back of your house and pass over the images to the police for trespass!!
Trespass isn't a criminal offence.
Police won't be interested.

Especially not by a child. The swamp creature family that lived on our road had a swarm of brats that constantly jumped over our fence just because they were brats and knew nothing could be done about it. Pretty sure their nasty parents encouraged them, knowing this.

@Singlenotsingle. The OP isn’t being deliberately mean, there is a bigger picture here. This was happening without her knowledge and the child could have had a serious accident or even drowned on her property, which may possibly have left the OP liable. Now that she knows what’s happening, if she doesn’t put a stop to it she is definitely liable because she’s actively allowing it. OK, as you say, it may not be the worst crime in the world, but at best it’s poor parenting on the part of the neighbour and at worst could be seen as reckless endangerment of the child, in which the OP is complicit if she doesn’t do something about it.

OP, I think the solution here is to have a word with the mother and make it clear she is breaking the law by allowing the boy to enter your garden without your permission. Very firmly tell her you do not give permission because it’s not safe for him to be there without proper supervision and if it happens again you will involve the police and report her to social services for putting the boy at risk. Not sure what your legal position is if you don’t secure the garden now that you know what’s going on in your absence, so naught be worth seeking a bit of legal advice given the seriousness of what could potentially happen.

@sueelleker thanks for the update. Your NDN is beyond all reasoning.

OP- good for you in dismantling your stuff - they are CFs

Flaming cheek, if they can afford nice garden furniture they can buy their own children’s garden toys

@bloodyhell19 WELL SAID
The entitled brigade get right on my tits on MN!!

@strangeshapedpotato. Trespass isn’t a crime, it’s a tort and if it’s causing a nuisance, property has been damaged, or abusive behaviour is involved, the OP can ask the police to intervene if the neighbour continues in this way after she has been asked to stop. The neighbour putting the child over the fence after being asked to stop would be the nuisance, and I’m willing to bet the police would be interested in a little boy being put at risk by being left in a garden which has a pool, whilst not properly supervised. If not, I’d be reporting it to social services as a safeguarding concern.

I got talking to an old lady a few years ago, her neighbour lifted up the fence panel between them to let her kids use her garden she had it fixed so this wasn't possible and the daft cow called the police. That poor old dear was at breaking point. Nip it in the bud NOW

Absolute CF! If she couldn’t see an issue why didn’t she just ask? Because she knows she’s a CF! I’d be fuming! Higher fencing and get ring cctv…. You can talk through to people…. It’s great and will scare her to death!

@osbertthesyrianhamster

Simply do not understand maniac posters like this on here. 😂

OP, you’re an absolute twat for not giving them the equipment to keep in their garden. You should also offer to pay their mortgage for a few months and lend them your car. You’re so unreasonable for not doing these things. Poor neighbours… hmm

Yeah, whatever happened to 'be kind' 😂😂

There was one legendary virtue signalling thread featuring an OP who was posting on behalf of her elderly and mentally frail mother, who lived in another city. A homeless person had broken into the mother's garden shed and taken up residence. Most people provided helpful advice on how to properly move him on without involving herself, the mother. But there were a few real corkers on there, suggesting she invite him for a shower and hot meal, go over to the shed with a 'welfare pack', flasks of tea and soup, bedding and the Wi-Fi password. 😂😂

Still another poster rented out a room in her house on AirB&B. The house was totally unsuitable for children so NO CHILDREN was made clear on the booking. A woman booked it and then announced she was bringing her toddler. The OP duly informed her no children, cancelled the booking, person refunded.

The person showed up with the toddler in a taxi, demanding entrance to the home. She kicked off and a neighbour rang the police and she was moved on.

Cue some MNers falling over themselves to berate the poster for being unkind, how she should have invited the woman and toddler in for a hot meal, provided nappies and milk, let them stay for free etc. It was hilarious!

Ah, but they did make for hilarious reading🤣🤣

Goldilocks had a son then lol
They’ll be in your house next time your out, eating your porridge and trying out all your beds!
What a cheeky moo!!