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AIBU that neighbour is a cheeky F !

258 replies

Karmabites2591 · 14/06/2021 00:21

Named changed because completely outing If she is on here.

So we live in a terraced house with decent size gardens.
Our garden has a pool, climbing frame and tree house thing for kids.
We have fences but they are lower enough to look over etc.
We have been out every day the last week.
My kids have noticed that things haven’t been where they left them in the garden but I just assumed they just forgot etc

Anyway, I got home from work early today and the kids were still at the park and one with my sister.
When I arrived home.
The neighbours child was in our garden using the climbing frame whilst his mum was in her garden watching.

Seriously ??? Neighbour was apologetic when she realised I was annoyed but said she didn’t really see the problem as he was supervised and wasn’t doing any harm ?

OP posts:
MoreAloneTime · 14/06/2021 07:45

Id be looking into higher fencing

Gilly12345 · 14/06/2021 07:57

Wow your neighbour is a CF with no common sense or morals, could you look into higher fence panels?

IJoinedJustForThisThread · 14/06/2021 08:03

How dare they. I hope you had a go at NDN and didn’t just accept her sheepish look.
Did they definitely get in over the fence or is your garden accessible from the front of the house or a back gate?

StuffinThePuffin · 14/06/2021 08:04

I actually hope she is on here so she can read these replies.

She's a massive CF. Case closed.

user1471538283 · 14/06/2021 08:04

This stops now! It is your property and you did not give permission and what if the child was hurt? Some people are just unbelievable!

BrownEyedGirl80 · 14/06/2021 08:05

You've got to admire their brass neck though Grin

Gumbomambo · 14/06/2021 08:06

Go around and sit on their immaculate garden furniture when they are out. Seriously 100% not on. Would they think it was ok to go into your house and use your things? Still your property or conversely is it ok for you to go and use theirs? Another vote for cctv.

SpeakingFranglais · 14/06/2021 08:08

I absolutely love the idea of sitting in their lovely garden without asking, and timed so they return whilst you're still sat there, but I simply wouldn't have the brass neck to do it.

The point would be made though.

custardbear · 14/06/2021 08:09

That's got to stop - also now you know about it you need to explicitly tell them, I'd personally do it in writing, to stop as your insurance
Doesn't cover incidents of accident whilst trespassing, putting their child at risk.
I'd also point out that whilst they have a beautiful garden that perhaps they can get their own toys to stimulate and entertain their children in their own garden ... or go to the park

Mrgrinch · 14/06/2021 08:09

That's totally unacceptable. What do you intend to do about it?

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 14/06/2021 08:11
Shock
Farwest · 14/06/2021 08:11

Whoa. That is bad!

I'd just second writing her a letter. It is a serious liability issue for you, made worse now that you know it is happening. Keep a copy.

Also, a camera. We have a cheap but effective one that we can control from our phones, so you can scan and zoom.

Then, a better fence. Because it is now your responsibility to keep that child out.

And you have a pool for heaven's sake! What is she thinking?? Encouraging her child to climb fences and trespass near an unsupervised pool? She's a cf and an idiot.

TheQueef · 14/06/2021 08:12

Sat off enjoying their lovely garden, unspoilt by toys,
Pop little Johnny over the fence for a destruction derby to tucker him out.

Gotta admit it has some style.

DumpyDonkey · 14/06/2021 08:16

CFness of the first degree but some how it's also genius at the same time.

LookItsMeAgain · 14/06/2021 08:20

Holy crap! That's some other level of CF'erness.

Tell the parents it is not to happen again. Tell their kids (so that the parents can't spin it so that you're the bad guys here) that they cannot just climb over the fence and start using your stuff as you have not given them permission and now you won't be giving them permission. You don't just take stuff that belongs to others. Whether that is a swim in someone else's pool or play on their swings or whatever. Even if their parents were watching them in the pool, unless they were hanging over the fence watching, the kids could have gotten into trouble and would their parents be able to come to their aid?? So, using your stuff stops now.

Agree 100% with getting some form of camera that can be motion activated and having it installed in the back garden so that they cannot take liberties and get higher fences and add trellis to the top so that it can be higher than the standard fence.

What do you intend to do about it @Karmabites2591

Ijustknowitstimetogo · 14/06/2021 08:21

How do they get in?! Does the fence need fixing or is it just very low?

LakieLady · 14/06/2021 08:21

@FricasseeTurnips

Wasn't the very first cheeky fucker the person who was using their neighbour's swing set when they were out? Someone commented "who left the gate to the cheeky fucker farm open" Grin I've searched but I can't find it. Anyway, the CF complained when they got locked into the garden by mistake.
That thread was great.

The sheer brass neck of those neighbours was breathtaking. They were basically treating the OP's garden like it was a public play area.

Didn't they moan a bit when they found it locked, too?

headintheproverbial · 14/06/2021 08:23

Interesting that she was surprised that you were annoyed yet she waited until the house was apparently empty before she put her child over!! Complete cheeky fuckery!

Snowsquonk · 14/06/2021 08:23

If their garden is a lovely child free space I'd be over that fence and sitting in their lovely furniture first thing and when they raise objections say "but you felt it was ok for you to use my garden".

Sally872 · 14/06/2021 08:24

Absolute cf.

Has she said it won't happen again? I would still get cameras or high fence to make sure.

gamerchick · 14/06/2021 08:25

@Gumbomambo

Go around and sit on their immaculate garden furniture when they are out. Seriously 100% not on. Would they think it was ok to go into your house and use your things? Still your property or conversely is it ok for you to go and use theirs? Another vote for cctv.
The perfect way to get your point across imo. Go have a bit of a party in their garden while they're out. Just be there when they get home. Grin you're not doing any harm right?
LookItsMeAgain · 14/06/2021 08:25

@FricasseeTurnips

Wasn't the very first cheeky fucker the person who was using their neighbour's swing set when they were out? Someone commented "who left the gate to the cheeky fucker farm open" Grin I've searched but I can't find it. Anyway, the CF complained when they got locked into the garden by mistake.
I remember that thread... the poster had a long garden and they had garden toys (swing, slide etc) put into it but they could also lock their garden. The neighbours were using this (unbeknownst to the poster) and when they got locked in to the garden they were apoplectic with rage, even though they were in someone else's garden using their garden equipment! I will have a look to see if I can find that CF thread FricasseeTurnips
Stompythedinosaur · 14/06/2021 08:29

Agree that's outrageous! I love the idea of sitting in their garden, but in reality I'd probably opt for a higher fence.

DoItAfraid · 14/06/2021 08:31

I feel like people lose their minds when the sun comes out. 😱. Unbelievable c-fuckery!

And why not just ask in advance?! Blows my mind.

AngelDelightUk · 14/06/2021 08:32

Get those pigeon stake things and put them on top of the fence. That will stop them. A fake CCTV camera (or a real one) on the fence too shows you mean business

I actually can’t believe they thought this was ok. I wouldn’t even let them over now to play with your DC. What did you say to her?!