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AIBU?

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AIBU that neighbour is a cheeky F !

258 replies

Karmabites2591 · 14/06/2021 00:21

Named changed because completely outing If she is on here.

So we live in a terraced house with decent size gardens.
Our garden has a pool, climbing frame and tree house thing for kids.
We have fences but they are lower enough to look over etc.
We have been out every day the last week.
My kids have noticed that things haven’t been where they left them in the garden but I just assumed they just forgot etc

Anyway, I got home from work early today and the kids were still at the park and one with my sister.
When I arrived home.
The neighbours child was in our garden using the climbing frame whilst his mum was in her garden watching.

Seriously ??? Neighbour was apologetic when she realised I was annoyed but said she didn’t really see the problem as he was supervised and wasn’t doing any harm ?

OP posts:
Pewpew · 14/06/2021 16:16

Don’t bother with higher fencing, get a camera and let her know it will be a police matter.

BrieAndChilli · 14/06/2021 16:28

I'd tell her that you all have covid and as they were using your stuff they now have to self isolate for 10 days!

Pewpew · 14/06/2021 16:29

@BrieAndChilli

I'd tell her that you all have covid and as they were using your stuff they now have to self isolate for 10 days!
Grin
lastcall · 14/06/2021 16:54

Imagine if he hurt himself on your play equipment ... you would be liable!

Neighbour was completely out of order and you were right to tell her her behaviour was unacceptable and you didn't accept her apology. Imagine she blustered after that....

Lilibet2022 · 14/06/2021 17:03

The sheer brass neck of those neighbours was breathtaking. They were basically treating the OP's garden like it was a public play area.

It's more common than you think. My CF neighbour complained after I stated locking the back off when u got home early one day and found her arsehole teenage son one leg over the fence in my garden. Apparently my garden was easier for him to get his bike through so he didn't have to go through his own house... Confused

Lilibet2022 · 14/06/2021 17:10

Simply do not understand maniac posters like this on here. 😂

Me neither @WettyHainthrop. Basically if you don't open your property up as a public playground and be a personal creche to all the darling neighbours children you're the scum of the earth for having dared to have set boundaries... Hmm

osbertthesyrianhamster · 14/06/2021 17:14

@Soubriquet

I have seen posters tell landlords they should just give the house to the tenant if it’s their second home Grin
Oh, that one was classic! Grin I forgot about that one. She had jointly inherited the house from a grandparent IIRC. It needed to be sold but were told by some to be kind and give it to the sitting tenant. Yeah, right!
gumball37 · 14/06/2021 17:49

@EineReiseDurchDieZeit

It's trespassing!

Can you put a sticky substance on the top of your fence?

Exactly. Child or not, trespassing is illegal.
DishingOutDone · 14/06/2021 18:48

We don’t have a trampoline - bit hard on the neighbour's child; imagine him sadly playing on all your equipment wishing he had a trampoline ...

DishingOutDone · 14/06/2021 18:53

That CFs locked in garden thread is classic though. V. special CFuckery - makes OP's look a bit tame TBH. Just saying. Wink

2bazookas · 14/06/2021 19:20

Massive cheek. If he injures himself I bet she'd be suing you for letting him play on your dangerous play area. Or if he damages toys she won;t compensate.

So tell her "NO. BECAUSE I SAID SO."

Ohhyeahright · 14/06/2021 20:41

Djan

SchadenfreudePersonified · 15/06/2021 09:59

@DishingOutDone

We don’t have a trampoline - bit hard on the neighbour's child; imagine him sadly playing on all your equipment wishing he had a trampoline ...
I thought this, too.

I can just picture his tragic little face, longing for trampoline bounciness . . .

lorca · 15/06/2021 12:31

@DishingOutDone

We don’t have a trampoline - bit hard on the neighbour's child; imagine him sadly playing on all your equipment wishing he had a trampoline ...
This is almost word for word the response on the CF garden threads - the ones where the neighbours bought a flat WITHOUT a garden then knocked a patio-door hole through the (Listed building)wall into OPs courtyard garden. OK that was prob a troll, but the responses were the same - poor neighbours! Having to look out of their windows into OPs lovely courtyard garden and not be able to get to it...

They couldn't understand that if they'd wanted a garden, they should have stumped up £1000s for the use of one. Not just take OPs.

Principle is the same here - op has bought a trampoline and garden toys; if ndn wants something like that, buy your own! Don't just take/use your neighbours.

sueelleker · 15/06/2021 12:55

@lorca I don't know what the original title was, but it should be listed under SpanGran.

minou123 · 15/06/2021 13:00

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2990400-New-neighbour-using-my-private-garden?pg=1

This is the first thread where the neighbours put a door in thier flat so they could access the Ops garden.

There are about 8 threads in total, so have s cup of tea ready Grin

Womencanlift · 15/06/2021 13:08

I forgot about SpanGran - that was one of the first MN threads I got really invested in.

Was it a troll?

sueelleker · 15/06/2021 13:51

@Womencanlift

I forgot about SpanGran - that was one of the first MN threads I got really invested in.

Was it a troll?

This was the OP's last post. Hello all, most of you probably won’t know what I’m on about but for those of you that do, I feel that I owe you an explanation. A friend alerted me to a few threads where I’d been called a troll etc.

I’ve been through a very long process with NDN about the doors (which I had been told were going to be replaced/ wall reinstated etc)

I had also been told by my lawyer that all was fine.

The planning dept have been on my side, as per all previous threads.

This all seemed to be going ahead until I returned home to find half of my flat wall caved in.

I had to move out to stay with a friend. The whole thing has been a total nightmare and it is still not resolved. My wall has been partially fixed, the patio doors remain and no one has seen hide nor hair of NDN or the builders for months.

My flat is now uninhabitable for the foreseeable and there are legal implications, planning laws and listed building laws which all have to be agreed and adhered to before anything will be done, apparently.

This may be terribly outing but I am beyond caring. I was told not to post on here, however, the advice I received was second to none and so I thank you all for that.

My grandma has been unwell so I have been back and forth to Spain, seems like all is against me!

Sorry I disappeared for so long, but you can imagine how awful it has been, I’m in a better place now, so thought it was time to come back and let you know that I’m not some fantasist making up stories about doors 😂

Karmabites2591 · 15/06/2021 14:26

Haha oh god no was not as bad as that !!! Just using the garden not changing it or anything 🤣 maybe mine isn’t too bad after all

OP posts:
Womencanlift · 15/06/2021 14:30

Thanks for sharing @sueelleker. Can’t believe I had forgotten about that considering how invested I was. Hope everything got sorted with that wall

CustardySergeant · 15/06/2021 14:33

"my DP is in there now dismantling everyone"

Wow! He went and dismantled the CF neighbours? That's taught them a lesson. Grin

Sorry, I appear to be extra silly today.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 15/06/2021 15:53

@Womencanlift

Thanks for sharing *@sueelleker*. Can’t believe I had forgotten about that considering how invested I was. Hope everything got sorted with that wall
So do I - it was a very upsetting thread. The OP was so powerless, and although we all tried to lighten the situation (with her permission - she needed a bit of fun to help cope with it), it was obvious that the whole farrago was terribly exhausting and heartbreaking, in that she effectively lost her home.

I hope it's sorted now and she's back living in her much loved flat, with her much loved garden, and the CFN is bankrupted and selling the Big Issue on street corners!

Stigsmother · 15/06/2021 16:54

Perhaps offer to sell the equipment to CFN, and then your DC can use it in CFN garden.Grin

SchadenfreudePersonified · 15/06/2021 17:03

Stigsmother

Grin
josbd · 15/06/2021 17:23

Rolls of barbed wire..... just saying!

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