AIBU that neighbour is a cheeky F !

[Karmabites2591]

Named changed because completely outing If she is on here.

So we live in a terraced house with decent size gardens.
Our garden has a pool, climbing frame and tree house thing for kids.
We have fences but they are lower enough to look over etc.
We have been out every day the last week.
My kids have noticed that things haven’t been where they left them in the garden but I just assumed they just forgot etc

Anyway, I got home from work early today and the kids were still at the park and one with my sister.
When I arrived home.
The neighbours child was in our garden using the climbing frame whilst his mum was in her garden watching.

Seriously ??? Neighbour was apologetic when she realised I was annoyed but said she didn’t really see the problem as he was supervised and wasn’t doing any harm ?

[Howshouldibehave]

Cheeky fuckers! Did you ask her to stop?

You’ve had all these things for your kids for his long but have only just noticed someone using them this week-why do you think that it? What about last week? Previous years-are they new neighbours?

[WeeWelshWoman]

How hard would it have been to ask!? The fact they did it behind your back means they know they're in the wrong.

[Dohrehmee]

I would go around and say no one is allowed into your garden. State safety and health and now they have gone around to your garden without permission, if it occurs again you’ll get the police involved.Hand her The letter which states this all. Keep it firm. If She then tries to ask, say no as health and safety And you are not willing to be sued if something happens. Say you don’t want anyone else using your things And then say it’s like be helping myself to your things in the garden or home.

[Flipflopblowout]

What are the ramifications if her child is injured or drowns in your garden?

[EmbarrassingMama]

That's so dangerous. I would be really concerned - imagine if their child was injured in your pool.

[Meatshake]

Send your kids over to her pretty grown up garden with a load of sidewalk chalk

[Twisique]

Tell her your children have impetigo!

[purplebagladylovesgin]

@An0n0n0n

Id def eat the cost of high fencing. Problem solved and a clear message.

A ring doorbell might have a monthly cost to retain footage and she can always deny knowing or say they were being babysat or some other lie that needs more confrontation.

Ring door bell don't have any ongoing costs. You stick them on the door and download the app. They run on batteries so no wires.

[Warmduscher]

Ring door bell don't have any ongoing costs. You stick them on the door and download the app. They run on batteries so no wires.

I was under the impression that if you wanted to view historical footage from the camera, you had to pay a monthly cost, otherwise you only get live footage.

[mam0918]

Who thinks its ok to tresspass?

If I was lucky enough to have a garden I would buy DC climbing frames, I dont though so I have a slide and trike in my living room and take the kids to the local park.

You cant just decide to let your child use someone elses property and belongings.

The fact they didnt ask says it all.

[takealettermsjones]

Not only the liability issue, they're also reducing the longevity of your stuff by increasing wear and tear on it. Not to mention it's just plain rude!

Get one of those ring doorbells where you can talk to the person if it pings, and then just yell "GET OUT OF MY GARDEN" repeatedly 😈

[StateOfTheUterus]

I am very amused that 2% of the vote is that YABU. I think your neighbour has voted

[BirthdayCakeBelly]

No vote needed. YANBU.

[Singlenotsingle]

Did the child do any damage? No
Poor child, looking sadly over the fence while your children play.
Yes, the woman should have asked but it's not the worst crime in the world.

[HoneyzAiy]

Speaking from experience, nip this in the bud.

We had cf neighbours who did this and they just got more and more cheeky until it ended in an argument. We got a trampoline and one of those tp climbing frame/swing things and they used to stare at us over the fence. I actually invited them over, quite a few times, and was happy to let them play. Then they stared playing when we weren’t there. I did have a word with the mother who seemed annoyed but said she wouldn’t let them play unless we were there. Come home early one day to find her dc, plus 4 of their cousins, happily playing in our garden. Went over to ask the mum to take them back and she was really rude and aggressive with me, as if I was unreasonable one. Glad they moved out a few months later!

[trevthecat]

Some people are unbelievable! As someone else has said, funny she thought it was ok but had waited till you wouldn't know! CF! I'd look at a ring doorbell and tell her in no uncertain terms that if she treapasses again you will contact the police. I'd be concerned that if the child injured themselves that you would be blamed.

[TheSunShinesBright]

Wow. No way.

[TheSunShinesBright]

Neighbour was apologetic when she realised I was annoyed but said she didn’t really see the problem as he was supervised and wasn’t doing any harm?

What did you say in return OP?

[fashionablefennel]

I would go absolutely nuts!

What's next? Pop in your living room to watch tv, have a shower, help yourself in your fridge?

Apart from telling her in no uncertain term that she is not to come on my property ever again, I'd put a camera (even a cheaper one at the window, recording what's happening in the garden while I am away).

People are unbelievable.

[DannyDin]

@Singlenotsingle

Did the child do any damage? No
Poor child, looking sadly over the fence while your children play.
Yes, the woman should have asked but it's not the worst crime in the world.

If the child is looking sadly over the fence at children playing, THAT Is the right point to ask if he can come over and play. That bit is totally normal.

It's the sneaking in when they think no one is home which is weird. And obviously neighbour felt it was wrong or they'd have openly done it without waiting for everyone to be out.

Sure, it's not mass murder but it's still not OK.

[FeatheredHope]

Poor child, looking sadly over the fence while your children play.

seriously?!

[Womencanlift]

@Singlenotsingle

Did the child do any damage? No
Poor child, looking sadly over the fence while your children play.
Yes, the woman should have asked but it's not the worst crime in the world.

Another ‘they are just children playing, all adults are cruel to spoil their childhood’ poster

You are just like all the CFs over on the walking on someone’s wall thread

[ChristmasUserName2020]

So cheeky! Our neighbours kids have been in before via the fence to collect their football (we know this because of the security camera) and that’s annoying enough. To wait for you to go out like that it even worse 😡

[PracticingPerson]

You may need a letter formally telling her not to access your garden, unfortunately. A solicitor can do that, it would be far far better to tell her informally that she must not do it but I would now get a camera and switch it on when out (I wouldn't want to film my own familiy's ordinary use of the garden and you know the issue is only when you are out).

The neighbour is absolutely out of order and they know it. Wow.

[TopBlogger]

Am sure this exact scenario has been posted before.
On that thread I'm pretty sure the point was made that any injury to the child on your property could mean you are sued.