caught friends husband with another women..

[Lora918]

I feel terrible and just want to share. My friend (actually DH's friend, I met her and her husband through him) has been speaking about problems in her marriage for the past 2 years - she speaks about the lack of attention her husband shows and that he is always away.

Today DH and I went out to eat. We saw friends husband with a young girl. He was shocked to see us as shocked as I was. I went and sat away and saw them leave hurriedly. Then DH (he is his friend too) said that they know about this and that its not their place to say anything other than tell him what he is doing is disgusting.

I feel terrible. I have the worst headache all day and just feel horrid. Friend called said she wanted to meet up on Monday I had to make an excuse because I just cant bring myself to talk to her.

@SugarNyx

My step mother was cheating on my dad for years and everyone know (not me) and no one told him. When it came out, he had to deal with her cheating and the humiliation of all his family and friends knowing and no one having the bottle to tell him. I would tell her! Women should have women’s backs, esp when they’re a friend

Read the thread ......

The whole lot of them, your DH included, sound like a toxic mess.

You're better off without them. They've shown their true colours to you and your DH is showing his by not cutting them off the way they are prepared to cut you off.

He's proved his loyalty, when it comes right down to it, is to their group and not you. And theirs is a group prepared to cover up for anything the others do.

Cheat's wife and you are on the outside of that group, no matter how many invites she sends their way to prove a point to you.

Cheats wife has shared a huge bouquet of flowers with a nice necklace in box
There it is, the guilt present, the grovel gift. Is that what it takes? Wonder when the last time he treated her was.
She isn't fooling anyone by sharing it. A few people who don't know what he's been doing, assuming this is a gesture of love, doesn't change anything. She's keeping up appearances. As they say "shits hit the fan".
She won't know that the others know? He's really done her over.

I agree with @Peach01 I'm sure the cheats wife is also having a war inside her heart and mind. Sleepless nights, u name it.

How are you feeling?

Cheats wife has shared a huge bouquet of flowers with a nice necklace in box and a post which I translated online to 'no matter how bad the waves, the seagull doesn't give up on the ocean he loves

Jesus christ how cringeworthy, I'm embarrassed for her 😬

I can't believe some women are willing to put up with this shit.

Cheats wife has shared a huge bouquet of flowers with a nice necklace in box and a post which I translated online to 'no matter how bad the waves, the seagull doesn't give up on the ocean he loves'
This just validates my theory that those who post ostentatious "isn't he amazing, aren't I so lucky" posts on social media are usually in sham relationships.

Not great that your DH wants to continue the friendship despite you being ostracised. He should say he won't be speaking to them until cheat apologises to you for the way he's spoken about you (behave comment) and until cheat's wife unblocks you. Him continuing the friendship is saying it's fine how they've behaved and treated you.

And oh dear lord cheats wife sounds so desperate with her Facebook post 🤢
Since everyone knows he's cheating on her she looks such a fool

@DdraigGoch

Cheats wife has shared a huge bouquet of flowers with a nice necklace in box and a post which I translated online to 'no matter how bad the waves, the seagull doesn't give up on the ocean he loves' This just validates my theory that those who post ostentatious "isn't he amazing, aren't I so lucky" posts on social media are usually in sham relationships.

Absolutely agree. See also 'boy done good' and 'this one ♥️' accompanying gifts and pictures of nights out I know full well ended with arguments...

What a crew your husband thinks are family.
I judge people by the company they keep and your husbands company are rough.

I think unfortunately unless you are very close friends with the woman independently I wouldn't get involved.

Pre children my husband and I were friendly with this couple.
The men played rugby together for years, went on tour etc., friends for about 5 years.
She was lovely.
A really nice woman.
Adored her husband.

Turns out he was an absolute slut and was messing around all the time.
I had heard several stories.

He made the mistake of messing around on tour and my husband felt very uncomfortable as he liked his wife very much.

We just drifted from them.

I never said anything because I was convinced she knew from what I had been told and I just didn't think she wanted to hear what she already knew.

They are still married and went on to have 3 lovely children.

She was totally in awe of him and was clearly prepared to turn a blind eye and has for nearly 40 years.

For some women monogamy is not a deal breaker.

Uuugh this is a difficult one.... no matter what you're going to feel shit now. But imagine it was you in that position and you found out what your husband was doing behind your back? You'd be hurt, betrayed and humiliated. And then finding out everyone else KNEW... ?? 😔😔😞 awful! I get where your husband is coming from about interfering but.. Turning a blind eye isn't the answer🤷🏻‍♀️

How are things op? Have you heard anything from anyone in the group or are you still ostracised? Has your dh heard much from them?

@Mooloolabababy

How are things op? Have you heard anything from anyone in the group or are you still ostracised? Has your dh heard much from them?

At least OP still has some friends, even if they do charge £40 per head for a BBQ that didn't happen

Well we know the OP did not see Matt Hancock!