DS 21 sharing a room with us on holiday

[locko55]

Me, DH and DS 21 are going on holiday for a week next month, we have always shared a triple room on holiday, the room has 3 single beds in it. I just wondered recently whether this is not appropriate given that DS is an adult now. DH likes to book a triple room as it is cheaper. DS has never said anything against being in a triple room with us but maybe he doesn't want to complicate matters and just puts up with it.

As long as you and your son are fine with it then its fine. I saw a post earlier that an adult woman shouldn't share a room with a toddler in case she wanted a wank though. People are strange.

It’s definitely weird. I think they first time my parents got us adjoining rooms was when I was 12 and we went to Florida. Before that, we always had family rooms but by 12 I was definitely ready to be in my own room. I can’t imagine sharing with them at 21.

Nope, I wouldn't do it as either generation in the scenario, far too awkward. I'd be really encouraging my 21 year old to be organising his own holidays with friends or partner.

I’m 27 and still share a room with the parents if it’s cheaper.

I don't see the problem. It's one week and you are in separate beds sleeping, what's the big deal?

Think it is how many people are even thinking someone would expect to have sex in this set up.

You don't have sex in a YHA hostel shared dorm either, just in case anyone is not sure of the etiquette there!

If you’re comfortable with it, go for it - but I do find it a bit odd. Maybe it’s just me though, on a warm holiday I want to be sharing a room with someone I can comfortably walk around in my underwear with while I’m getting ready in the evening. I guess everyone will be getting dressed in the bathroom? Sounds awkward and annoying. P.S. no chance in hell would I have shared a room with my parents at age 21 - or 20,19,18...

I'd be really encouraging my 21 year old to be organising his own holidays with friends or partner.

Going on holiday with family is really nice, surely

At what age did everyone start having their one DC in a separate hotel room?

Why are you asking us and not him?

When I toured the west coast of the states with my 2DC I often had to book rooms with two double beds and we took turns to sleep alone. It's pretty normal in the States. I couldn't really afford 3 rooms to be honest.

I'd hate not having any privacy, but if it works for all of you, then that's fine.

If he has an issue, he can speak up/pay for his own holiday.

At 17 I woke up to find my parents DtD in the bed next to me. Urgh.

But if you don’t like sex on holidays, then go ahead

I think this is fine. It's not like you're all in the same bed!

I'm sure when he gets a partner, he'll change his mind, but if everyone is happy in the meantime that's great.

I was happy sharing with my parents aged 30! No problem as long as you’re not doing the deed and he’s ok with sharing. But you could also persuade DH to get him his own room too?

I think it’s fine? It’s on holiday, for a week.

I'd be really encouraging my 21 year old to be organising his own holidays with friends or partner.
I absolutely loved going on holiday with my parents more as I got older.

It’s not weird per se.
It’s just weird if you think about why most people want a holiday...

I don’t see a problem

@locko55

Me, DH and DS 21 are going on holiday for a week next month, we have always shared a triple room on holiday, the room has 3 single beds in it. I just wondered recently whether this is not appropriate given that DS is an adult now. DH likes to book a triple room as it is cheaper. DS has never said anything against being in a triple room with us but maybe he doesn't want to complicate matters and just puts up with it.

You’re joking right?

I have two daughters and since they were small we always booked an apartment or villa with two bedrooms, or when they were about 12 and 14 if we went to a hotel we would book two rooms.

When do you and your husband get ‘together time’ ?

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I'd be really encouraging my 21 year old to be organising his own holidays with friends or partner.

Going on holiday with family is really nice, surely

Sometimes, but I really can't imagine myself holidaying with my parents as a young adult. It's not exactly conducive to holiday romance and partying, things which I was very much wanting to conduce at that age

I don't think it's inappropriate but unless you are really looking to cut costs, or you have fallen in love with a holiday property that only has one bedroom, it seems unnecessary.

DH and I both snore and DS has misophonia, so he would probably murder us in our sleep the first night!

Well the second night, as we usually share a cabin on the first night of our holiday anyway, although he grumbles like mad about that.

What’s the big deal? I did this at this age (and older). Just asked DH- he also said he did the same with his parents. No one was having any sex. How many times do people change? I would get up, brush my teeth, have a shower and change. Quick shower before bed and change again.

I also enjoyed holidaying with my parents and DH says the same.
I am totally and utterly baffled by how aghast people are at this.

I find it odd that people find sharing a room with adult kids us strange. It’s fine. Wouldn’t be my cuppa for a week but a night or 2 fine.

No one was having any sex.

Wouldn't have bothered me at all..