DS 21 sharing a room with us on holiday

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Me, DH and DS 21 are going on holiday for a week next month, we have always shared a triple room on holiday, the room has 3 single beds in it. I just wondered recently whether this is not appropriate given that DS is an adult now. DH likes to book a triple room as it is cheaper. DS has never said anything against being in a triple room with us but maybe he doesn't want to complicate matters and just puts up with it.

Exh and two adult ds's book triple rooms when they go away. I'd share with adult dd's but not with my sons.

It’s weird, also do you really want a whole holiday with no sex?
Those mentioning tents they have bedrooms, our son has a separate bedroom to us.

If all involved are fine with it and it’s the kind of holiday where you have full days out and just use the hotel for sleep, it’s fine.

I’d have hated it but, at 21, I had a fiancé and a 1yo so a different set up. Also, my parents snore horrendously so even worse.

We shared a triple with my mother, DH's mother in law, to keep costs down on our/her first trip to Rome. We were 29.

Just. No.

No, no, no, no, no. . .

Quite apart from the fact that she ended up with severe D&V from food poisoning. . .

Do you take it in turns to gets changed in the bathroom?

Sorry OP I can’t picture this either.

Sorry, that made me laugh out loud. Just the thought of you and DH, and 21 year old man child all in single beds in one room. It’s hilariously wrong, your poor son. My ds would be wtf about this, and he’s 15. My DH wouldn’t entertain it.

Haha no I wouldn't do that op

Deffo weird

It’s not inappropriate, you’re family.
As long as you are all ok with it don’t see an issue.
I have a 21 year old son and can’t really see him wanting to share with me and DH but it’s entirely up to you 4

I'm going camping with my 2 sons 18 and 16. I'm surprised the 18 year old wants to come tbh but I think lockdown got to him. Is that inappropriate ?.

As long as none of you mind, I don't see the problem.

Dd wouldn’t mind and indeed has done. Ds would mind.

I don’t think we can judge. It depends on the family dynamics.

If it means the difference between going away or not, then why shouldn’t they, if they are all on board with it.

Nothing weird about it. Enjoy your holiday.

I wouldn't think it dreadful if you are all in single beds and are cautious with privacy for chainging etc. I know people who go on holidays in groups where the sleeping is in bunk barns etc., their kids of all ages are there.

I think you should ask him how he feels about it though. It probably isn't as relaxing as having separate rooms, just in terms of space to do what you want.

If I went to stay with family and they stuck us all in one room I wouldn't freak out. Or on a ferry or something. I would just be super careful about getting changed etc.

three single beds,
its not like you have the double.

Wouldn't be for us tbh.

I think it's nice that your son still wants to go on holiday with you. Wouldn't be keen sharing a room at that age tho. What about a room with a seperate living room with sofa bed type thing? Which might be cheaper than two seperate rooms

@justsaymaybe

As long as none of you mind, I don't see the problem.

^^This.

At 21, unless there is more going on than you’ve posted, your DS is quite capable of voicing discomfort, suggesting separate rooms, paying for himself or just not going with you. I think this concern would have been more warranted when he was 13 - 18, but you’ve past that time. At this stage you can just ask him.

God, no. I shared a room with my mum until I was 18. It was horrendous, I hated it

What was horrendous about it?

Not a chance Ds would share a room with us and I wouldn't do it either. We'd get 2 rooms.

Unless you are really strapped for cash, I don't know why you would do this.

I am also confused why people think this weird - anyone heard of a hostel where complete strangers share rooms for extended periods?

If you can't afford separate, then you can't. But if you can and this is just habit, then I think you need to change and allow for the fact he's grown up. What if he wants to bring someone back?

There are other places to have sex but im sure he doesnt want to be sent out for an hour knowing hes coming back to a room his parents have been shagging in. Ditto the bathroom.

If sex isnt a priority/option than absolutely not weird at all. If its the usual arragement and everyones happy with it than crack on.

I don't think it's that weird at all, I've shared with my folks at that age 🤷‍♀️