To want a black and rose gold pram for our baby boy

[Taybz]

I'm 6 months pregnant and we've decided on getting the Egg2 travel system for our baby boy. I've fallen in love with the black diamond and rose gold edition:

www.johnlewis.com/egg2-special-edition-stroller-luxury-travel-system-bundle-diamond-black/p5399692

I know it's on the girlier side but I think it's absolutely stunning and don't see what the big deal is about not getting such a pram for a baby boy. It's not like I've chosen a pink pram! Dh is completely against it but I know ultimately he'll succumb to my charms 😅 He is worried about what everyone else will think and say though. Family that I have shown think it's mad to get this pram for a boy due to the rose gold and glittery fabric. Is it really that mad??

My 2nd choice and Dh's 1st choice of colour is the Jurassic grey:

www.johnlewis.com/egg2-special-edition-stroller-luxury-travel-system-bundle-jurassic-grey/p5385626

I know rose gold is not to everyone's taste but I personally love it and the pram make me swoon! It's on the pricier side so I don't want us to make the wrong decision.

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People probably will assume that your little boy is a little girl - but baby won’t know and you won’t care, so who really cares? No one.

Just say your baby is non binary and is a person

@TheKeatingFive

If she can afford it, what’s the issue?

Exactly. A lot of prams are in that region.

I prefer the grey. I have a light grey pushchair from mamas & papas and haven't had any issues with dirt/stains so far.

and as for assumptions some people are total idiots so ignore them.

DS1 was 9m old when we went to an event so dressed him up in smart clothes: chinos, nice shirt, V-neck argyle jumper vest thingy, dark Bobux shoes. he even had a stretchy tie on to match DH's. he couldn't have looked more like a boy.
yet one person asked me what her name was.🤷‍♀️🤣

My daughter has a blue pram with dinosaurs all over it, she also wears quite a lot of 'boys' clothes.

She has two older brothers and all three are close in age so it seems madness to buy loads of new stuff just because she's not a boy. She couldn't care less about the clothes or the pram but other people often assume she's a boy (which is fine by me) or more annoyingly suggest I buy her some 'girls things'.

The latest was 'oh that baby really needs a girls hat'. Why?! The blue hat fitted, kept the sun off her head and we already owned it. Job done.

Buy the pram you want!! The baby won't care.

On the matter of the money, unless you are really really well off, there's always something that the money would be better spent on, even if you think you can afford the super expensive pram.

Like the PP who bought a perfectly decent £250 pram, you could put the £1250 difference in an index tracker fund, that money could be worth thousands by the time that the baby is 18. A few decisions like that and you can really save a huge sum to give the child a good start in life, for the cost of having more reasonably priced baby equipment, the difference in performance, safety etc being inconsequential.

Just to clarify:

• We know it's pricey but we're in a fortunate position to be able to afford it however it's going to be our only big purchase
• I know it's marmite but I'm ok with it. I've got damn thick skin so not offended by any snarky comments. Have already heard the worst from my sister 🤣 Dh is more sensitive to others' opinions.
• Dh would ultimately go with anything I choose but I'd feel guilty about taking advantage of this hence this Aibu
• Gender stereotypes don't mean crap to me as I've stated before

I really like it, but no way would i spend that amount of cash on a travel system....we only used ours for 9 months before i got fed up of it taking up my whole car!

Although i do know people that are still using theirs at 3, so if you are planning on using it long term it could be worth the investment.

I went for an Ickle Bubba as it had the lightest car seat...they do one in bronze that looks really nice.

I have never thought of pram colour as being gendered at all I always thought it was the one the parents like the most.
Do people who assume a pram colour is gendered also assume you buy a new pram if you have a child of a different sex,
That strikes me as abit bizarre because prams are a transition item and most people have more than one child.
If I see a gorgeous pram when I am with my other mum friends then I assume the parents wanted a very stylish baby accessory in a colour they liked.
Otherwise everyone would have to buy what is perceived as a neutral colour.

Go for it. Who cares. Why is pink exclusively for girls anyway?

Yes people will judge, they'll always have an opinion, no matter what you do.

I'm not sure about the price which seems extortionate to me! But probably inflation since I last had mine.

Also you might have a girl after so it'll get recycled...

@Taybz

He's pretty open-minded in every other aspect hence why I reckon it's more about others' opinion rather than his own.

I think you want to challenge this sooner rather than later. It is not an attitude you want him to pass on to your son.

Really quite a lot more important than the colour of a pram.

there's always something that the money would be better spent on, even if you think you can afford the super expensive pram.

Well that’s true of almost everything.

Yet I doubt anyone buys the cheapest option always and invests the rest.

@mistermagpie

My daughter has a blue pram with dinosaurs all over it, she also wears quite a lot of 'boys' clothes.

She has two older brothers and all three are close in age so it seems madness to buy loads of new stuff just because she's not a boy. She couldn't care less about the clothes or the pram but other people often assume she's a boy (which is fine by me) or more annoyingly suggest I buy her some 'girls things'.

The latest was 'oh that baby really needs a girls hat'. Why?! The blue hat fitted, kept the sun off her head and we already owned it. Job done.

Buy the pram you want!! The baby won't care.

Thank you! I personally refused to dress as a 'girl' even when I was a child. My traditional parents were fine with it and never forced a dress or any particular colour on me.

Do people who assume a pram colour is gendered also assume you buy a new pram if you have a child of a different sex,

The cynic in me would say that’s exactly what manufactures are hoping when they make things in pink and blue.....

@Whinge

I think it looks fine. Black is a practical colour and I assume the grey would show more stains / look dirty and worn more quickly.

Although as someone who has never bought a pram i'd shocked at just how much they cost. Is it normal to spend £1.5k on a pram?

No 😂

It's gorgeous! Prams have certainly come a long way since my tank of a Phil and Ted! You're the one pushing it so get one that makes you feel good

I think get it, and then choose a really gorgeous change bag to coordinate!!

I agree with the others that the shiny chassis is going to show the scuffs badly, especially if you're hauling it in and out of the boot.

Are you planning on having two quite close together? Because you're paying a premium for the ability to turn it into a tandem.

Also, have you seen it in person because I can't find any mention of whether or not it has four-wheel suspension, hopefully at that price it does. When you try them on the shop floor you don't notice the difference between the ones with good suspension and the others but, believe me, you will notice the difference on outdoor surfaces.

You realise that you'll end up switching to a cheap stroller once the kid is around 1 right?

I didn’t do this, used ours for years and glad I got a good one.

I’d be really surprised if someone saw that pushchair and assumed the baby was a girl, it’s not bright pink (not that someone should assume that even then, but can see some would). We had a navy blue one bought before we found out the sex, had DD then DS then another DD, no one ever commented one way or the other. Though I get that blue things for a girl are more accepted than pink things for a boy, ridiculous as that is!

If DH is really anti it then I probably wouldn’t, though I think he’s being a bit weird about that, am sure his family would get bored of mentioning it if he ignores them? It’s a lovely pushchair!

@Taybz

Just to clarify: * We know it's pricey but we're in a fortunate position to be able to afford it however it's going to be our only big purchase * I know it's marmite but I'm ok with it. I've got damn thick skin so not offended by any snarky comments. Have already heard the worst from my sister 🤣 Dh is more sensitive to others' opinions. * Dh would ultimately go with anything I choose but I'd feel guilty about taking advantage of this hence this Aibu * Gender stereotypes don't mean crap to me as I've stated before

Then get the one he likes better as it is less marmite (aka more boring) and he will then not feel uncomfortable.

I wouldn't make a comment about the pram but I am sure lots of people would as it is indeed marmite-y. It isn't because it is pin so much as it is because it is ostentatious/flashy - I think you would get comments on that pram whatever the sex of the baby.

For those saying your boy might be mistaken for a girl, I just wanted to say that could happen anyway. I have twin boys and for the first few years one was often mistaken for a girl 😂 he wore the usual boy clothes and colours as a baby and it still happened. Then when he got older and had longish hair (still short but with a wave in it) he was still mistaken as a girl 🤷🏽‍♀️

I really don't think people care so much about colours. Some people may have bought one for first child , and use it for second etc.

@Taybz

Just to clarify: * We know it's pricey but we're in a fortunate position to be able to afford it however it's going to be our only big purchase * I know it's marmite but I'm ok with it. I've got damn thick skin so not offended by any snarky comments. Have already heard the worst from my sister 🤣 Dh is more sensitive to others' opinions. * Dh would ultimately go with anything I choose but I'd feel guilty about taking advantage of this hence this Aibu * Gender stereotypes don't mean crap to me as I've stated before

I wouldn't give it a second thought then, go for it. My pram was in that region cost wise. I would rather spend £1500 on a pram I loved than £800 on one of don't care for. Mines is a paler colour, have been using it for almost 2 years and it's about to get used again. I use it every day, do a lot of walking and it's perfect. You get the odd scratch where you attach things like parasols but it's for using. Buy it and enjoy!

What a price tag! I just don't understand how anyone would want to spend that kind of money on a pram, even if they can afford it. Then again, I'm a practical person and not very fashion/accessories conscious....I spent £200 on a good condition, second-hand travel system - a well known brand but not flash.

We too are fortunate to have substantial disposable income but have been pumping savings into our pensions, investments and Junior ISAs for DCs. While we're financially secure now, who knows what lies ahead in the future. I am sure DCs will appeciate having nest eggs to buy first home/car instead of having the knowledge that they were wheeled around in a super expensive pram as babies....

Sorry I don't mean to be judgy, everyone has their own priorities, but it's worth thinking ahead.