To want a black and rose gold pram for our baby boy

[Taybz]

I'm 6 months pregnant and we've decided on getting the Egg2 travel system for our baby boy. I've fallen in love with the black diamond and rose gold edition:

www.johnlewis.com/egg2-special-edition-stroller-luxury-travel-system-bundle-diamond-black/p5399692

I know it's on the girlier side but I think it's absolutely stunning and don't see what the big deal is about not getting such a pram for a baby boy. It's not like I've chosen a pink pram! Dh is completely against it but I know ultimately he'll succumb to my charms 😅 He is worried about what everyone else will think and say though. Family that I have shown think it's mad to get this pram for a boy due to the rose gold and glittery fabric. Is it really that mad??

My 2nd choice and Dh's 1st choice of colour is the Jurassic grey:

www.johnlewis.com/egg2-special-edition-stroller-luxury-travel-system-bundle-jurassic-grey/p5385626

I know rose gold is not to everyone's taste but I personally love it and the pram make me swoon! It's on the pricier side so I don't want us to make the wrong decision.

YANBU to get a black and rose gold pram for a baby boy.

YAB a bit U to spend £1.5k on a pram your husband dislikes - it should be a joint decision.

If you're asking for personal opinions on the pram, I've seen that one out and about in our area. It reminds me of an aggressive bumble bee. I wouldn't have liked it for my baby because, in my sleep-deprived state, I preferred muted non-jarring colours to give my brain a rest. That pram glints in the sun (I've seen it!) and pushing it would give me a headache.

Do people take much notice of prams? I've had two DC and a couple of prams myself but can't say when I am out and about I study them.

I have a baby nephew and I couldn't pick his pram out from a line up.

@LivinLaVidaLiverpool

I remember getting caught up in the pram excitement with my first and bought an expensive one (not that expensive!) but honestly after a few months, you just won't care.

I would look to spend a bit less and save the rest for when the baby is here.

Probably the most sensible comment on the pram.

1500 for a pushchair is madness when you think of all the stuff it could buy. At the end of the day no matter what the colour the pram will get at some point covered in puke, shit, dirt and crumbs like every other pushchair in existence.

I recommend buying a cheap black second hand pram and using the rest of the money for nappies toys and clothes. You'll thank us in the future.

Yes, he's more rigid with colour gender stereotypes (for kids only) but I can definitely let that slide considering he's an amazing Dh and I reckon will be a top-notch dad. 🙃

Just be weary if he takes it further and starts the whole 'boys can't have toy prams and dolls' and shit.

Yes, he's more rigid with colour gender stereotypes

Then he's part of the problem surrounding gendered stereotypes. If he buys into this crap about 'pink for girls and blue for boys' and boy toys vs girl toys' then he's part of the reason that yet another generation will be raised with ridiculous social constructs that confine and restrict them.

Tell him to give his head a wobble and tell him to tell anyone else that gives him a hard time to give their heads a wobble too, whilst we're at it!

Personally I prefer the grey but that's just my preference!

Baby boy won't mind what pram he's in but I agree with others that there will be some who assume he's a girl because of the pram. However, I have a toddler who has curly longish hair and he is always assumed to be a girl no matter what. This is despite him wearing what is obviously 'boy clothes' so no matter what people will assume what they like!

Do what you think is best, it doesn't matter what others think

YANBU to get the colour you want

YABU to give a flying fuck about what people think🤣

If it's the one you like and you are going to be the one using it the most then go for it. I get final pram say so in our house because I am the one using it at least five days a week to walk the babies and the dog.

I think practicality, whether it folds easily, fits in the car boot, isn't too heavy to pick up has a cup holder etc is more important than colour once the baby arrives.

I personally think it’s a bit tasteless. It’s very footballers’ wives. The gender thing’s ridiculous though, my son had a fuchsia pram that cost a fraction of that.

I think the rose gold will get scratched up pretty quickly...... I dont think its at all girly though

My son had a mustard, orange and brown pram, super 70s cosatto design. Reusing now with my daughter. No one cares, the colour is for you not them.

It’s not my cup of tea but do people really need to be so rude? If the op likes it that’s What matters

@tornadosequins

So is he planning on forcing his rigid sexist stereotypes on your son then? How's he going to react if your son likes playing with dolls or hates football and likes dance? Is he going to tell him off if he cries when hurt/upset with 'boys don't cry'?

It's a sodding pram. Buy the one you want. Your child deserves better than to be forced into a sexist little box from the moment he's born.

Not at all. He doesn't have rigid sexist stereotypes at all or we wouldn't even be together as we agreed that's certainly not how we'd raise our kids. I think he's just more sensitive to other people's dumb rigid stereotypes than me.

Have you seen it in person, I think for that amount of money go and look with him, it might look super shiny or more Matt/ subdued in person and you’ll be able to tell if he really dislikes it.

I had an egg and loved it! The rose gold bits I think will scuff quite easily though, as ours were black and they got battered (and we were careful with it!).

The grey is now out of stock online with the link you sent so may be probably solved and rose gold it is!

I think it’s lovely, but I gravitate towards shiny! And I don’t think it looks particularly ‘girly’, not that it matters anyway.

I do not think it matters at all.

However if you look at second hand prams for sale (for example the uppbaby) the black frame looks a lot less tarnished than a chrome frame. I wouldn't buy a pram for a resale value but if you are going to have a couple of kids the shiny frame may look a bit tatty by the time the second comes along.

I would just go for it. Its a lovely pram and your baby sing going to say anything.

I personally love it and the pram make me swoon!
YABU to be that OTT about a pram, whatever the colour.

YANBU to pick a colour you like. We picked a model then it had 5 options of colour. Two were "limited edition" and £50 more so not being total idiots we ignored these. Ended up with a burgundy one. All good till I realised it was exactly the same colour as my winter coat and I looked stupidly coordinated pushing it around. I got over it.

Yes, he's more rigid with colour gender stereotypes (for kids only) but I can definitely let that slide considering he's an amazing Dh and I reckon will be a top-notch dad. 🙃

Rigid with colour gender stereotypes - but only with kids? How does he think people learn about stereotypes? It starts when they're children!!

I think the rose gold one looks nice but will age/scuff far quicker.

Personally I think the grey one is nicer, but really choose whichever one you and your DH prefer.

But, I would caution about spending 1.5k on a pram. Honestly within a few weeks it'll be scuffed and the baby will undoubtedly have thrown up on it or have had an enormous poonami on it. We got a Joie travel system for £250 which lasted for both our kids. Unless you are really financially comfortable there are better things to spend your money on.

I had a purple pram, it was some sort of iCandy I think. Loads of people assumed my DSs were girls! It look less than a minute to correct them.

DH was fine pushing a purple pram.

@CaraherEIL

Have you seen it in person, I think for that amount of money go and look with him, it might look super shiny or more Matt/ subdued in person and you’ll be able to tell if he really dislikes it.

Yes! Admittedly it's on the shiny side but I love shiny 😅 He wouldn't mind if it were bronze.

Personally I would buy a cheap pram and use the £1.5k to pay for 100 hours of cooking and cleaning when the baby is born.