To want a black and rose gold pram for our baby boy

[Taybz]

I'm 6 months pregnant and we've decided on getting the Egg2 travel system for our baby boy. I've fallen in love with the black diamond and rose gold edition:

www.johnlewis.com/egg2-special-edition-stroller-luxury-travel-system-bundle-diamond-black/p5399692

I know it's on the girlier side but I think it's absolutely stunning and don't see what the big deal is about not getting such a pram for a baby boy. It's not like I've chosen a pink pram! Dh is completely against it but I know ultimately he'll succumb to my charms 😅 He is worried about what everyone else will think and say though. Family that I have shown think it's mad to get this pram for a boy due to the rose gold and glittery fabric. Is it really that mad??

My 2nd choice and Dh's 1st choice of colour is the Jurassic grey:

www.johnlewis.com/egg2-special-edition-stroller-luxury-travel-system-bundle-jurassic-grey/p5385626

I know rose gold is not to everyone's taste but I personally love it and the pram make me swoon! It's on the pricier side so I don't want us to make the wrong decision.

Buy what you want. If people think it's a girly pram that's their issue. For all they know you could already have had a girl and used this pram for her.

Sorry but I think it’s hideous 😂 I also think it won’t age well.

It should really be a joint decision between you and DH.

£1500 for a pram! Blimey. I know I’m out the loop on pram buying but that’s shit loads.
Anyway back to the question I don’t think it matters if it’s got a bit of rose gold on it.

Surely though it should be the pram both parents agree on? One shouldn’t get overall say either way.

But OP is discussing it with her DH, she hasn’t bought it without his agreement.

I would lose respect and think that they were a lot thicker than I realised.

Yeah well, he's pushing 60 and pretty decent in every other way. I'm sure your views won't cause him to lose any sleep.

@stackemhigh

Surely though it should be the pram both parents agree on? One shouldn’t get overall say either way.

But OP is discussing it with her DH, she hasn’t bought it without his agreement.

I know but I was replying to all the “if you like it then get it” posters who seem to forget that there are two parents

I have never bought a pram (don’t have children) and I honestly didn’t know there were boy prams and girl prams. I would have assumed the colour choice would be made according to the parents colour preferences and nothing to do with baby’s sex.

I like the black and rose gold pram, but wonder if the rose gold is something I would get tired of more quickly than grey colour scheme.

So is he planning on forcing his rigid sexist stereotypes on your son then? How's he going to react if your son likes playing with dolls or hates football and likes dance? Is he going to tell him off if he cries when hurt/upset with 'boys don't cry'?

It's a sodding pram. Buy the one you want. Your child deserves better than to be forced into a sexist little box from the moment he's born.

Ah ok, agree it should be a joint decision.

YABU for buying into the marketing about gender and colour.

Your husband's attitude is concerning. It's likely to influence your son negatively. I can't think of any positives that come from enforcing stereotypes.

How much??!!

Fifteen hundred pounds??!

Me also 'how much?'. Any dumbfuck comments assuming the genitalia of the baby from the pram colour can just be told that they are dumbfucks. But that is a serious case of the baby premium. Buy second hand.

The pram colour and design is for the parents not the baby. The baby won't care, they'll be out of it before they have a preference!

This is one of those things that literally no one except the parent cares about or even looks at.

Just don't get narky at the cute girl comments.

I remember getting caught up in the pram excitement with my first and bought an expensive one (not that expensive!) but honestly after a few months, you just won't care.

I would look to spend a bit less and save the rest for when the baby is here.

Absolutely fine. Go for it.

1500 quid for a pram?????? Wtf???

Dh wouldn't feel uncomfortable when out on walks but I know he'd get annoyed by family's comments more. Me personally, I couldn't give a crap about what others would say but he's more sensitive to it.
It's our first, he's really excited and involved in all aspects of planning in a positive way.
Yes, he's more rigid with colour gender stereotypes (for kids only) but I can definitely let that slide considering he's an amazing Dh and I reckon will be a top-notch dad. 🙃

HOW much?

Honestly you don’t need to consult on the colour of your pram get what you both fancy, no one will give a shit.

The rose gold doesn't look rose gold, it looks pink. The pink (rose gold) chassis does stand out in contrast to the black. Is that what's giving you reservations?
People probably will think the baby's a girl, depends if you'd get tired of that.

You can use blue blankets, footmuff, pram charms etc if it would.

It's your call, you're going to be pushing the pram. Would you regret not getting the one you really want?

I would only spend that amount of money if you can genuinely afford it. Colour wise I would get whatever you want but if there's any pink people may ask 'what is she called'.

My little boy was a very pretty baby and everyone thought he was a girl anyway whatever colour the pram or what he was wearing .

I think it’s gorgeous! The baby won’t know/ care and as you are going to spend the most time using it, I say have what you like.
Copper and rose gold are pretty much identical in colour, I don’t see it as a girly pram at all. I think it looks really stylish.

That super shiny framework looks like it will be scuffed to shit within weeks. If you can live with that then by all means.