To want a black and rose gold pram for our baby boy

[Taybz]

I'm 6 months pregnant and we've decided on getting the Egg2 travel system for our baby boy. I've fallen in love with the black diamond and rose gold edition:

www.johnlewis.com/egg2-special-edition-stroller-luxury-travel-system-bundle-diamond-black/p5399692

I know it's on the girlier side but I think it's absolutely stunning and don't see what the big deal is about not getting such a pram for a baby boy. It's not like I've chosen a pink pram! Dh is completely against it but I know ultimately he'll succumb to my charms 😅 He is worried about what everyone else will think and say though. Family that I have shown think it's mad to get this pram for a boy due to the rose gold and glittery fabric. Is it really that mad??

My 2nd choice and Dh's 1st choice of colour is the Jurassic grey:

www.johnlewis.com/egg2-special-edition-stroller-luxury-travel-system-bundle-jurassic-grey/p5385626

I know rose gold is not to everyone's taste but I personally love it and the pram make me swoon! It's on the pricier side so I don't want us to make the wrong decision.

Christ Almighty! Fifteen hundred quid on a pram???

You are not being unreasonable to reject traditional and ridiculous gender stereotyping however I would argue it's unreasonable to spend that much on a pram in the first place.

You realise that you'll end up switching to a cheap stroller once the kid is around 1 right?

£1.500 for a pram...gobsmacked !!

There a few really nice rose gold ones just now, I loved the silver cross one. I didn’t know what I was having at the time (turned out to be a boy) so I ended up choosing a different one. I have since seen someone who has a boy with that pram though and it’s doesn’t look girly at all

£1500 on a pram?! Christ on a bike

My car cost less than that!

I don't think people really notice prams. I have 2 (a double and a single - we're between needs!), and said to my husband the other day "can you pop the buggy in the boot for me later?" He asked which one. I said "the red one please". His reply? "They're both red".

One is completely black. No red on it at all. The other is bright red. He had never noticed they were totally different colours.

Anyway, a pram is a thing for you to use - the baby is a passive passenger. As the "driver", I chose prams I liked, not ones that "matched" my babies. One of mine looks good in yellow, one looks good in navy and one looks good in dusty pink colours - I'm not buying new prams each time, to suit the baby!

I'd not choose a car colour based on who I was going to be giving a lift to - that's I how view prams - its got to match my outfits (!). And mainly be practical, so black hides the muck...

I like the rose gold! But yeah, at that price your DH should get a say (unless you're paying on your own, or are so well off that you can buy a different pram that he prefers if he wants to).

If she can afford it, what’s the issue?

Also it is a joint decision but if you will be using it the majority of the time then I think your imput is slightly more significant.

I agree there is a lot of focus with the first baby on having a really stunning trendy pram and stylish change bag and it could be seen as being unnecessary but as I was in the short term giving up all my previous gorgeous handbags and shoes and for a while all my stylish clothes the stylish baby accessories made me feel like I could have a bit of style as a new mum.

It did give me a boost when my body and my life felt very given over to someone else. Admittedly someone small and very cute. Only you can judge how much he cares about it.

What a waste of money

I wouldn’t buy it simply because the lovely shiny frame will get scratched and bumped very quickly just as all prams do, with that frame every little scratch will be glaringly obvious.

Yes! Admittedly it's on the shiny side but I love shiny 😅

It will be shiny for about 3 weeks and then look like its been used for years. Honestly the more practical the pushchair the better it's not supposed to be a fashion statement and it really really really doesn't need to cost so much.

Call it copper rather than rose gold. No problem.

I think it looks really tacky and wouldn't want to push that around. Something like that is going to be marmite, irrespective of gendered colours, and I think you both need to be on board for a large purchase like that.

@DelBocaVista

Yes, he's more rigid with colour gender stereotypes (for kids only) but I can definitely let that slide considering he's an amazing Dh and I reckon will be a top-notch dad. 🙃

Rigid with colour gender stereotypes - but only with kids? How does he think people learn about stereotypes? It starts when they're children!!

I think the rose gold one looks nice but will age/scuff far quicker.

Can't explain it. He's got plenty of pink and floral shirts himself and is not particularly effeminate. He's pretty open-minded in every other aspect hence why I reckon it's more about others' opinion rather than his own.

Please, before you buy a pram, make sure you see it in person, and push it round the store, then compare to a few others etc. We made the choice of pram on how it looked (not that sort of price though) and although we did have a quick push around, didn't spend anywhere near enough comparing it. It drove like a tank, and was awful, even if I loved the look of it.

I think it needs to be a joint decision as well. You say he won't have a problem 'out on walks' but will he have a problem taking the baby alone to the supermarket to do the shopping, or out somewhere? And no, he 'shouldn't' have a problem with pink, but if he loved a pram, and you hated it, it would be unreasonable to buy it, irrespective of reasons.

Surely with all the prams available, it's possible to find one that you both like?

As long as you accept that the trim will get scratched and scuffed very quickly and black will show baby sick and you can afford it without going without - knock yourself out.

We bought a purple pram, which was definitely the "girl colour" vs the blue option, before we knew the sex of our first DC. DH and I just thought it looked nicer. We definitely got a couple assumptions that DS was a baby girl, but not often.

Honestly, get whichever you prefer. No one will really care

I am surprised and sad that even prams and pushchairs are so heavily 'gendered' now. I'm all for a bit of colour but none of this ever occurred to me 30+ years ago. What do people do when they have more children?
The rose gold/black pram is gorgeous btw, but I think it best if you and DH get one that you both like.
Congratulations on your pregnancy

@Rachie1973

It’s fine so long as you can cope with ‘awww cute girl’ comments. People can and do make calls on colour, regardless of it being 2021.

I prefer the grey anyways.

Do people really assume the sex of your child based on the colour of the pram?? If you like it go for it. Your DH is being a bit bonkers not wanting to push it because of the colour.

It's not a pram, it's a Special Edition Stroller Luxury Travel System don't ya know. If you don't get one of those, you don't love your baby or want it to be safe. Or something.

Go for it!

RE: the money- you only get to be a new mum once. Other posters are right that you probably won’t give a shit if/when you have the money, but right now if you can afford it and it adds to the experience for you then go for it. And I say this as someone who bought their travel set for less than 1/3 of that price.

It would never have occurred to me that a mainly black pram was gendered in anyway, rose gold is girly now? How did we ever get to a place where colour has to be sexed anyway, it so stupid but even taking the pink for girls/blue for boys thing in to account, I would never have thought rose golf trim meant either

From a practicality point of view, the black is going to absorb a lot of heat so it might be trickier keeping the temperature down in summer. Mind you, we had a yellow pushchair and that attracted every single flying creature because they all seemed to think it was a flower.

Also, (depending on what your plans are in the early days and whether you view that as an expensive purchase) if you're going to baby groups then there often isn't a secure place to store pushchairs so you might want to consider how you'd lock it up or whether you're not bothered.

@Fnib

I am surprised and sad that even prams and pushchairs are so heavily 'gendered' now. I'm all for a bit of colour but none of this ever occurred to me 30+ years ago. What do people do when they have more children? The rose gold/black pram is gorgeous btw, but I think it best if you and DH get one that you both like. Congratulations on your pregnancy

Thank you! I'm surprised myself. I personally don't care for it.

*if/when you have another child, that should say