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To go alone? Would you?

185 replies

sallybally34 · 09/06/2021 08:10

I feel embarrassed writing this at my age but today I'm off work and all of my friends are at work.
I really want to go to the beach it's got to be lovely and warm here today.
It's a 10/15 min walk from my house so not far at all.
Aibu to go alone?
I know most people go with families etc but I really want to go down.
I just want to go down,relax,maybe get some chips and ice cream and enjoy the nice weather.

OP posts:
Peach01 · 09/06/2021 10:37

Sounds blissful. There would've been no hesitation from me OP, a day at the beach only having to suit yourself Smile hope you're on your way there.

GuildfordGal · 09/06/2021 10:40

I don't get this. You live a few minutes walk from a beach...surely you've been there for a walk/relax on your own before?

I mean, yes. Obviously go!

unim · 09/06/2021 10:41

All of the people bringing their kids (and having to worry about sunscreen, sand fights, demands for ice cream, and generally making sure everyone stays safe) are going to look at you and be jealous!

Go for it!

Meruem · 09/06/2021 10:42

I love going to places on my own. No need to make conversation. Only yourself to consider. It’s bliss!

menopause59 · 09/06/2021 10:43

of course take a book and have a lovely day.

Jedimastermama · 09/06/2021 10:45

Absolutely! Go and relax. Take a book and enjoy. You’ll probably find once you are there, you won’t be the only one on your own.
Have a fabulous day! Smile You’re so lucky living so near a beach.

Blossomtoes · 09/06/2021 10:46

Go, we’re 70 miles from the coast and I’ve had several solo days out there. It’s pure joy.

Natsku · 09/06/2021 10:48

Of course! Very pleasant to relax at the beach alone.
Well, if its a nice beach that is. Went to the beach near my house today and it smelt like poo.

AryaStarkWolf · 09/06/2021 10:48

go go go!

Iflyaway · 09/06/2021 10:49

Empower yourself.

You don't need anyone around to enjoy life.

I travel all over the world alone and I love it!

IntoAir · 09/06/2021 10:50

Good lord! How do you think people who live alone live ? I go on my own to the beach most weeks in the summer. The main problem is to have a way of carrying any valuables with you if you want to go for a swim.

But I often just take a book, and read sleep and the sea air, noise of the waves, noise of the gulls have their relaxing calming effect.

Just go! it's a lovely way to relax and just breathe! Have a lovely day Flowers

regthetabbycat · 09/06/2021 10:58

Why would anyone old enough to be working feel the need to ask strangers for their opinions on this?

viques · 09/06/2021 11:09

Just go, well actually I hope you went some time ago. Hope you remembered your hat and sun cream. Enjoy the ice cream.

Librariesmakeshhhhappen · 09/06/2021 11:10

I really dont understand how going to sit on a beach alone is weird. I cant even think why that would enter the top 50 of weird things to do alone.

I surf, so I'm at the beach a lot. There are always, and I mean always, people there alone.

user1493494961 · 09/06/2021 11:11

If you hadn't stopped to post this on here you could have gone a bit earlier.

Singlenotsingle · 09/06/2021 11:11

I can't see what the problem is. I shall probably do the same today. Just go.

Northernlass99 · 09/06/2021 11:18

Yes, why would an adult human need to ask this. I do it all the time (also cinema, holidays). Taking a book or magazine helps if you think you might feel uncomfortable - also headphones! Very jealous as I am indoors on zoom most of the day.

saraclara · 09/06/2021 11:21

@regthetabbycat

Why would anyone old enough to be working feel the need to ask strangers for their opinions on this?
Use your imagination. And a bit of empathy.
fashionablefennel · 09/06/2021 11:23

Mind you, there was a thread from a (female) poster embarrassed to be seen mowing her lawn because "what would the neighbours think"? Confused

MN can be as confusing as it can be funny.

LondonJax · 09/06/2021 11:35

I used to be like you OP, when I was in my twenties. I think my insecurity came from my mum - she and dad were joined at the hip and, if she had a day off it would be spent at home. If they had a day off they'd go out. Dad was exactly the same so it wasn't a 'man insisting she stayed at home' sort of thing. They both worked but I never knew them to go out with mates from work for a drink, certainly whilst I was at home. So I sort of grew up with the 'you need to go with family or a friend' if you go anywhere attitude.

Then I decided it was daft, took myself to a coffee shop for half an hour with a book. Guess what? No-one even looked at me, no-one commented, no-one cared!

Just as well really as I met my now DH through a club so had to walk in on my own as I didn't know a soul. If I hadn't overcome that 'conditioning' I'd have never met him or had DS.

Now I'm in my fifties I love going off to places on my own - for the day or weekend (longer if I could wangle it with a teenager!) It's great doing things as a family or as a couple or with friends. But sometimes it's nice just to do your own thing in your own time.

Enjoy your beach day.

Peace43 · 09/06/2021 11:36

Why wouldn’t you? I’m planning on taking doggo to the beach Sunday morning. OH is busy, kid is with her Dad. I’m looking forward to it. I’m taking a picnic!!

LondonJax · 09/06/2021 11:37

One thing to add - in case anyone thought mum was a bit of a wimp. When dad died and she was forced into the 'go out alone or you don't go out at all' mindset she began to change. At 80 years old she flew off to visit family in the USA on her own. Never too old to do your own thing!

Frogcorset · 09/06/2021 11:41

@fashionablefennel

Mind you, there was a thread from a (female) poster embarrassed to be seen mowing her lawn because "what would the neighbours think"? Confused

MN can be as confusing as it can be funny.

Mind you, you've just reminded me that a neighbour just couldn't get over seeing me dragging our wheelie bins up our lane in a previous house. I mean, they were empty, and didn't require bodybuilder type strength, but she appeared gobsmacked, although curiously unable to explain her obviously strong emotion about it all.
MrsMaizel · 09/06/2021 11:42

What on earth ? Why would you not go on your own ? I used to all the time when I was single.

Wineandrun · 09/06/2021 11:43

I go to the beach most days alone! I have a long walk, buy a coffee and look out for dolphins. It keeps me sane!