To go alone? Would you?

[sallybally34]

I feel embarrassed writing this at my age but today I'm off work and all of my friends are at work.
I really want to go to the beach it's got to be lovely and warm here today.
It's a 10/15 min walk from my house so not far at all.
Aibu to go alone?
I know most people go with families etc but I really want to go down.
I just want to go down,relax,maybe get some chips and ice cream and enjoy the nice weather.

Off you go and enjoy yourself. You'll be free to do exactly as you wish instead of fitting in with what other people want.

Why not! I expect you will be the envy of harrassed Mums! Who wouldnt like a bit of P and Q ?

I would go! I am going for a few days beach break on my own later in the month, I’m sure I won’t be the only one there on my own.

Since lockdown conversations, I’m also sure that some people who are there with their extended family or friends will envy me my peace, quiet and ability to do exactly as I please.

Hope you’re having a lovely birthday. When you’re back maybe you could spill - how old are you? just so I can show my DC that it’s not unusual for people of all ages to hesitate this way and so they are not alone.

Adult DC btw

As I get older I realise how much I enjoy my own company after spending time rushing around at home for the family and wish I’d not felt so self conscious and embarrassed to do things by myself more when I was younger.
Enjoy your day at the beach, it sounds like heaven!

Totally. Love a walk on the beach and a coffee.

I much prefer doing things on my own - I purposely work weekends so I can have my time off in the week when DH is working so I can 'do my own thing'. Sadly we no longer live the near beach (used to) but my absolute favourite thing to do in the nice weather is to spend the whole day at a lido - we have two lovely ones near us.

I find if you go to the beach/lido/wherever with someone else you are always compromising - what shall we do now, where shall we have lunch, shall we go for a walk etc etc .... on your own you can totally please yourself. (And I totally understand that my DH is very happy doing his own thing, golf, cycling, hiking etc). We did make more of an effort to do 'family things' when our DS was younger but one of the joys of your DC growing up is no more tedious trips to farm parks etc ... and a day on the beach with a young DC is not relaxing .

I'm another one who wants to know why you're even asking this. Do you think it's strange to go alone? It's a totally, 100 per cent normal thing to do. Honestly.

I hope you have a lovely day on the beach!

Go now! I so miss living near the beach, I would give anything to be able to be there now. It can be really lovely being there on your own, so peaceful and a chance to truly relax. Go and have a lovely time.

It would be weird not to.

My idea of actual heaven. At this point in the pandemic I would rather go on my own than with someone else, I am NEVER ALONE.

It's such a strange thing to ask, perhaps the OP suffers from anxiety or some kind of phobia.

BagoRats, how about you try not to encourage such infantalism. It is a sad state of affairs that an adult woman need to ask the internet if she can go to the beach alone. No one is being n arse. It's frankly a bit creepy.

I go to the beach alone alll the time. Enjoy!

I'd be there every day if I lived that close!

Same thing as going to the park or a coffee shop for your lunch break, why on earth wouldn't you go alone?

The ONLY thing I mind about the beach alone is being stuck with my keys, card and phone when I want to go swimming. Some places cater for that, it's brilliant. Apart from that...

I am finding it hard not to swear or to scream at you.
Why the fuck not!
Come on you're an adult, why do you need permission to do it?????
Get a grip and go.

@emmathedilemma

Why wouldn't you??

I did a double take then...

But yeah, go for it. Just remember, 'Nobody cares David!' (www.severnanchor.com/2020/12/david-nobody-cares-the-true-takeaways-from-the-beloved-schitts-creek/)

Absolutely! When I lived closer to the beach I did it at least once a week.

Let’s presume that the reason the OP didn’t reply is that she has very sensibly gone to the 🏖 alone
I do understand the hesitancy though - it can feel uncomfortable alone & surrounded by groups - you can feel the need to be ‘doing’ something like walking or running but hopefully less so at home beach rather than on holiday

Sounds like bliss!

@MakeMineALarge1

I am finding it hard not to swear or to scream at you. Why the fuck not! Come on you're an adult, why do you need permission to do it????? Get a grip and go.

So you think swearing and screaming is a good way to help someone who is clearly trying to manage anxiety of some kind? Especially when she's posted in order to challenge herself to do something out of her comfort zone?

Yes, it's unusual, but she's come here to get help to overcome something. And the vast majority of posted have recognised that and encouraged her.

I think you need to get a grip of your empathy.

When I was younger (a teen) I used th challenge myself to do things alone that I felt self conscious about. Maybe it would help to think of this in that way?
Every time I did’ the thing’ - whatever it was, I found it was actually fine and sometimes actually really enjoyable.

Oh I'm so jealous! I love days out with family and friends but my favourite are peaceful days out alone. Have a lovely day