Kids abandoned downstairs

[Heartofstrings]

I feel really so rough. Husband is away taking exams.
Bloated- so so sore
Abdo pain
Back ache
Fatigue
Muscle aches

I just can't be arsed. I've never been Bloated I'm my life until this week and now it's almost constant. A couple of weeks ago I was tested for thyroid issues as my periods are messed up and the tiredness and aching.

The kids pop up to say hi every so often and I've just chucked cereal at them. Please tell me this is ok? I have no local family

CA125 test i mean.....

@Justwingingit2005 do you know much about it? I have no gas...no farts or burps. Just a rock solid, painful stomach

@Heartofstrings

I kind of actually wanted reassurance about my medical symptoms

Then why did you make the post title about abandoned kids?.Of course people are going to resond to that. It's not clever to abandon to very small children ever, even if u are unwell. Or was the title some kind of way to get a reaction? Not very well thought out. Of you really did want reassurance you would have used a different title.

Sounds like they are both on the spectrum? Montessori nurseries are fab - so great at teaching age appropriate independence, you have to remember they are still very little though and can make mistakes even if they are independent beyond their years.
I have IBS, terrible bloating and when it's really bad the pain takes my breath away. Have you seen the fodmaps research from Melbourne university? I'd really restrict your diet for a bit so you can work out if it is the cause. Rice and chicken tend to be really well tolerated i think, stay away from anything with onion or garlic in - ie almost all savoury processed food, these play hell with me - and eat really plain simple food - look up green fodmap foods and stick to those for a bit if you can. If you have an issue it can be cumulative, so you might be alright if you eat a little once, but if you have more the next day and then more the day after it can get worse and worse.

Another one reading this and wondering if there's even the tiniest chance you could be pregnant? I'm assuming thyroid investigation would have included a pregnancy test and it's been ruled out, but still...

[quote Passthepepper]@mozerella I love a bit of competitive parenting, so I’ll raise you my 4 adult children, who all incidentally have Firsts, full time jobs and have all at various times lived independently overseas, were all cooking with me as preschoolers and perfectly capable of using appropriate knives, chopping, measuring and mixing, whilst chatting and thinking.
I must say though none of mine can skate board to save their life, so you’ve beaten me there [/quote]
Nothing to do with competitive parenting, you've spectacularly missed the point. My approach is let them be little when they're little, let them play, stop trying to make them do things that aren't age appropriate. Given a pile of mud and ingredients for a lasagne, what do you think a 3 yr old will go for? It's all to make the parents feel smug.
Congratulations on your children's fantastic achievements, I'm willing to bet cooking aged 3 had absolutely nothing to do with them,

And and your kids sound fine - mine had more 'freedom' than most too, and it certainly makes for a nicer life for everyone, and for confident and independent children. I am aware that other parenting styles are available, unlike many on this post

I don't think the doctor did a pregnancy test? I'd better not be pregnant. It does feel strangely pregnant ish. The foot under the rib feeling. But I think that's just the bloat

Could it be gallstones OP? Definitely seek the advice of your GP as soon as you can.

Hope you start to feel better

Op you posted this a few weeks ago!!

* The eldest has some SEN and needs constant supervision. He is always harassing his little brother. They are 3 and 4. Husband is away this weekend and I'm actually dreading it*

No judgement from me. But but daft to start a thread like this when you posted something like that a few weeks ago!

Fair. He's certainly a variable child. We have only done 6 weeks of OT. The change has been pretty rapid. Look up retained primitive reflexes. It's truly incredible

Unfortunately yes.
My mum died from Ovarian Cancer. Her symptoms didn't start suddenly. Over 12 weeks she was getting worse and worse. She looked full term the week she collapsed and was diagnosed.
Her GP, who she 2as weeing weekly as she fel lt so poorly said it was IBS or menopause.
She had a big tummy, UTI symptoms but no infection when tested, constant indigestion, couldn't finish a meal and felt really poorly.

At that age, I would have gone down, laid on the sofa and put Peppa pig on.

Would have made it very clear that mummy is unwell and they were to sit quietly and could help themselves to cereals, fruit, milk and water.

I would not be on a different.floor.from them.

However, if you are comfortable with the set up you have, you don't need our approval. (I doubt you'll get it here)

So only a few weeks ago he needed 'constant supervision' but now he's fine to play in the garden on his own, make himself dinner and run a bath. I love mn 🤣

@mozerella you are quite right, mine were never allowed to play, it was cook, cook, cook all day long, day in, day out.
No dressing up, ever, certainly no mud kitchens or bug hunting, never went to the woods or to a museum, certainly no reading, or painting, or playing make believe, no trips to the park, no slide or paddling pool in the garden, just cooking......

Change maywell be rapid. But it's been six weeks, he is 4. He may well revert back to old behaviours if something triggers him. If he isn't supervised he could be a danger to himself and his brother. Leaving him unsupervised is honestly just asking for trouble.

To be honest OP I think you need a big poo, a straight story and to get on with some parenting.

OP there's literally no way you can go from 'needing constant supervision' to making himself scrambled eggs and doesn't need supervising at all within a month.

This thread is brilliant - the OP is constantly getting caught in a deeper hole 😂

What a strange tale

@SmidgenofaPigeon

To be honest OP I think you need a big poo, a straight story and to get on with some parenting.

. Agreed.

I was thinking gall stones

OP honestly I have experience with kids on tne spectrum. Behaviours don't just disapear after a few weeks of therapy. There can be many setbacks and triggers that bring back unsafe behaviours. It's far to early to be throwing caution to the wind and trusting him.

Take 2 paracetamol and then the pain will go away.
You can find out what's causing it later. It could be gastritis in which case try some over the counter omeprazole.
Are you over 40? If so it could be the start of perimenopause.