Kids abandoned downstairs

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I feel really so rough. Husband is away taking exams.
Bloated- so so sore
Abdo pain
Back ache
Fatigue
Muscle aches

I just can't be arsed. I've never been Bloated I'm my life until this week and now it's almost constant. A couple of weeks ago I was tested for thyroid issues as my periods are messed up and the tiredness and aching.

The kids pop up to say hi every so often and I've just chucked cereal at them. Please tell me this is ok? I have no local family

Oh come on.

It’s quite possible for children to do that - it’s part of the Montessori school of thought, for example, and independence is taught/encouraged at a very young age.

@Ninkanink

It’s quite possible for children to do that - it’s part of the Montessori school of thought, for example, and independence is taught/encouraged at a very young age.

In which case get them to mow the lawn and do a bit of pruning when they're out there OP

Dh is doing a medical type degree and said anything serious is super unlikely. But equally he is being quite forceful about seeing a gp asap. He's not usually like that

Does he not know how GPs work these days? You would have to take the kids to A&E with you. They won't do a home visit. If he's genuinely that worried, he should be on his way home right now, exam or no exam.

You've just made it completely unbelievable. At 3 and 4 my kids could crack and stir eggs but certainly whete not permitted to do this on the stove as no awareness of the dangers. They could put Bread in tbe toaster but couldn't take it out again due to dangers. They could chop soft fruit and veg with plastic knifes under supervision. They could wipe themselves, sort of. They could turn taps on but couldn't test the water due to the risks of burning themselves. While you think your kids are self sufficient they really arnt. They are learning but the activities you desribe all have risks which require adult input and supervision at that age. Of they arnt being supervised that is bad parenting , sorry but that's a fact.

In that case OP they’ll be fine left at home while you go you go off to Out of Hours. They could order a take away for dinner if they don’t fancy cooking.

You sound like I did when I had a huge ovarian cyst, get to a GP as soon as you can to get checked. If it is one and you get a torsion you’re in trouble. Hope you feel better soon

@SmidgenofaPigeon

In that case OP they’ll be fine left at home while you go you go off to Out of Hours. They could order a take away for dinner if they don’t fancy cooking.

You can be bothered. You can for your kids

Are you absolutely sure you're not pregnant??

Seriously though that really isn’t as unbelievable as some of you see, to think...Children at a Montessori school would use knives at that age. My children could also do the same at very young ages, although admittedly not quite as young as 3.5. However helping to chop veg and/or making toast etc, they could certainly do that by the time they were 4.5/5. Not unsupervised, obviously, but well enough to do it without my direct involvement. Just because it’s not what most people do doesn’t mean it’s hugely outlandish.

*seem to think

OK, perhaps I didn't word it explicitly enough for the mn world. The kids went to a montesorri preschool for a long while.

They obviously need supervising. The tap on the bath is "stuck" at a certain temperature and they don't actually take the bread out the toaster but can stir ok.

We have special kid safe knives which can chop food but not slice fingers.

In fact, talking of gardening, I have taught the eldest to dead head the flowers. He's pretty handy. Eldest is very good with a screw driver also. Preschool were surprised he had so much ability when they built the new guinea pig hutch.

I'm relieved the pain has passed. I'll be calling the gp tomorrow to investigate my huge belly. If I'm a troll I'll come back and tell you I'm pregnant. If I'm not, I'll likely come back and tell you it's IBS and they've ordered blood tests. Then I will complain to dh about how uncomfortable I am and that the gp didn't do a thorough job.

Haven't you got a neighbour who could help out, OP?

Contact restrictions have been lifted now between households where I am.

Or is there such a thing anymore as the Surestart volunteer system - if you are increasingly feeling like this OP and have no family it might be worth signing up so you can ask for ad hoc help.

Hope you are OK - sounds like you may have an ovarian cyst or something.

I hope you’re feeling better soon, and for all those posters clutching their pearls at the thought of young children using a toaster and stirring scrambled eggs with supervision, take a look at this
m.facebook.com/watch/?v=482312425953927&_rdr

Have you considered appendix?

@Passthepepper there's a Little lad called sylvester circulating in my groups. He's younger than mine and can make a full lasagne from scratch

'Home Start', I should say - they help families with preschool kids.

[quote Heartofstrings]@Passthepepper there's a Little lad called sylvester circulating in my groups. He's younger than mine and can make a full lasagne from scratch[/quote]
But why? They're only little. They could maybe leave it until they're, oh I don't know, 12 or something There's literally no need for a pre schooler to need those skills.

Home start are good. We had help with the eldest when he was younger. We've learned that channelling him helps. He doesn't play as such but enjoys doing things he views as productive

Anyway. Medical worry over. All good

If the bloating doesn't go down over night and its always there I would see a GP tomorrow. It could be a sign of ovarian cancer but I say COULD be. Ovarian cancer is more common in the post menopausal age group.
If the bloating comes and goes it could be food intolerance or IBS. I often look 6 months pregnant with IBS.

The bloating is new this week. Never had it before. At on Saturday last week it was intermittent, this past two days it hasn't gone down. It's uncomfortable but the pain comes and goes

@Scrambledcustard

This has got to be joke?

You too ill to Gove a shit that your kids 3.5 year old is not even in the house and out of your site but your on MN?

ok

How difficult do you think typing on a phone is?!

I have been able to use my phone even when pretty ill in hospital. Can be done laying down with pretty much no effort required at all.

Being able to use a phone app is seriously not a way to diagnose the severity of someone's illness.