Kids abandoned downstairs

[Heartofstrings]

I feel really so rough. Husband is away taking exams.
Bloated- so so sore
Abdo pain
Back ache
Fatigue
Muscle aches

I just can't be arsed. I've never been Bloated I'm my life until this week and now it's almost constant. A couple of weeks ago I was tested for thyroid issues as my periods are messed up and the tiredness and aching.

The kids pop up to say hi every so often and I've just chucked cereal at them. Please tell me this is ok? I have no local family

Sorry you're feeling poorly but you need to watch your kids lie on the sofa, they're way too young to be downstairs on their own and especially out in the garden, if in UK can you not phone NHS 24?

Maybe I am being a bit wet. I have enough symptoms to say that I don't know what this is.
Ovarian cancer, coeliacs, thyroid, food intolerance. Who knows.

@Heartofstrings

Maybe I am being a bit wet. I have enough symptoms to say that I don't know what this is. Ovarian cancer, coeliacs, thyroid, food intolerance. Who knows.

You're getting way ahead of yourself - you've been bloated a week and now have a tummy ache and aches and pains. None of those things mean coeliac or cancer - seriously, calm yourself down.

My dh used to work away so I had many tines like this. Make yourself a bed on the sofa or somewhere you can see outside. Is your garden secure? Tell the dcs mummy is poorly and needs to rest, no jumping on you or putting toys on you. They're old enough to understand that. They can eat cereal for the day - it won't do them any harm.

I hope you're feeling better soon

Definitely sofa, I have a medical condition that has seen me incapacitated and at that age my children knew not to touch me when I was in pain.

At the ages they are they know and understand rules. You need to be in view of them really. It can go wrong very quickly.

I did mean to say, I hope you feel better soon, it is awful when you haven't got anyone there to take over. Make the sofa like a bed, pillow, duvet. You can tell the children that when people are in hospital they too are in a bed and this is your bed for today.

No they are too young, how do you think single parents manage. I wouldn’t leave children alone that age. You stay on the sofa

Well I think DH is being a bit melodramatic to say it whatever’s a doctor ASAP. I doubt a doctor would come out for what you’ve described. You could call 111 though.

I definitely wouldn’t be leaving kids that young downstairs to wander unchecked. How ‘self sufficient’ can a 3.5 really be? There’s a limit. What if they hurt themselves and the older one blamed themselves forever? Too much responsibility.

They're with me in bed now. Downstairs is very much "yes space". Everything is made safe. I'm happier now they are with me

Oh and unless there’s some sort of deeper behavioural issue going on, or they don’t speak the same language as you, of course they can understand not to jump or climb on you, whether you’re feeling ill or not.

I wouldn't let them be outside if was upstairs/ inside yes, you need to see a doctor.

Call 111 to see if you can get an out of hours gp appt, and keep the kids in bed with you (or head downstairs to the sofa or a blanket in the garden)

OP if your tummy is so tender that a fairly innocuous touch is very painful, please ring your OOHs GP for advice.
Hope you feel better soon.

If you're as unwell as you describe then you need to get yourself medical attention.

You've done the right thing by bringing them in to you.

We don't know you so please excuse these questions. Are you usually quite dramatic? Do you have a history of medical emergencies which turn out to be nothing? It's so difficult for us - you could be someone who's desperately in pain or you could be someone who's tired and enjoying a good moan.

If a child putting a toy on your stomach means you are in terrible pain then it's pretty obvious you need to get help. If it's actually just irritating you, then you don't.

Definitely book a GP appointment OP. Would the kids sit still for a film or TV show? It's officially OK to give the kids limitless screen time when you're feeling ill.

They are pottering in here with me happily. I'll head down in a sec.

Do I need 111? I don't really want to cart two preschoolers to the hospital (our ooh gp is next door to a&e)

@Heartofstrings

They are pottering in here with me happily. I'll head down in a sec.

Do I need 111? I don't really want to cart two preschoolers to the hospital (our ooh gp is next door to a&e)

If a child putting a toy on your stomach makes you want to throw up, then yes.

Call 111.You sound really poorly.

I don't think I'm an exceptionally dramatic person. Interesting question. Dh is doing a medical type degree and said anything serious is super unlikely. But equally he is being quite forceful about seeing a gp asap. He's not usually like that

Well

If you’re questioning whether to seek professional advice or medical attention because it’s not very convenient then possibly you aren’t as bad as you first made out and it’s something that can wait.

You sound like you might be really ill- call 111.

I’d lie on the sofa and not let the children in the garden alone.

Could it be Covid? When I had Covid I had awful stomach ache, back and joint pain!

I do think you need prompt medical attention - focus on that. 111 or GPS surgery should be able to triage and assess. It sounds grim and I hope you get well soon

No
At that age I would be lead on the sofa next to them ...
You still need to supervise,or call someone to have them

Take something like ibuprofen, anti inflammatory might help