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Kids abandoned downstairs

275 replies

Heartofstrings · 06/06/2021 13:26

I feel really so rough. Husband is away taking exams.
Bloated- so so sore
Abdo pain
Back ache
Fatigue
Muscle aches

I just can't be arsed. I've never been Bloated I'm my life until this week and now it's almost constant. A couple of weeks ago I was tested for thyroid issues as my periods are messed up and the tiredness and aching.

The kids pop up to say hi every so often and I've just chucked cereal at them. Please tell me this is ok? I have no local family

OP posts:
ShrinkingViolet9 · 06/06/2021 19:08

OP, the phrase, "daddy's stethoscope" implies that your husband is a doctor, nurse or a paramedic or is training as a medical professional. (Unless he is a mechanic/plumber/heating engineer and uses a stethoscope as an aid to diagnosing mechanical problems.)

Not clear which country you are in, but it's 7.00pm here in the UK. When does your husband return from his weekend of sitting exams and have you not spoken to him about your symptoms?

HereIfYouNeedMe · 06/06/2021 19:11

@Heartofstrings

They jump on me when I'm on the sofa and earlier I was nearly sick when eldest put a toy on my tummy
Tell them not to? If they're too young to listen they're too young to be on their own
ShrinkingViolet9 · 06/06/2021 19:11

Ah, I see you have spoken to him:

"Slightly freaking also as dh said it's enough symptoms to need to see a doctor asap."

So is he a medic, himself?

floofyhens · 06/06/2021 19:14

DH concerned enough to tell OP to see a dr, but not concerned enough to return home and facilitate visiting a dr... hmm...

wildeverose · 06/06/2021 19:14

Constant supervision to making sarnies and cooking meals - conveniently when "you can't be bothered" to supervise them.
Alrighty then

Mummyoflittledragon · 06/06/2021 19:16

@Scrambledcustard

This has got to be joke?

You too ill to Gove a shit that your kids 3.5 year old is not even in the house and out of your site but your on MN?

ok

That’s the story of my life. You do realises disabled, at times bedridden people with chronic illness are able to mumsnet?!
NavigationCentral · 06/06/2021 19:17

Can open. Worms everywhere.

As Chandler Bing might say.

😂

Plumbear2 · 06/06/2021 19:19

Exactly,;if they carnt even follow simple instructions like don't jump on mummy or don't put a toy on mummy they certainly are not reliable enough to be left unsupervised in a garden or anywhere else.

CovidVaccinatorintheMaking · 06/06/2021 19:21

I’m itching to know if her waters have broken yet!

Reallyhadenough · 06/06/2021 19:32

Bloody ridiculous!

Reallyhadenough · 06/06/2021 19:33

@CovidVaccinatorintheMaking I'm itching to know if them poor kids are okay!!

HalzTangz · 06/06/2021 19:51

@ViceLikeBlip

FWIW I'm currently lying in the bath, scrolling mumsnet mindlessly, whilst my 3yo and 4yo are downstairs watching TV. I'm not even poorly 🤷‍♀️

I hope you've managed to conserve enough energy to get them some tea and get them into bed if your husband's not home til late, and I hope it's just a nasty bug and that you feel better soon x

Being in a bath for a short while is a lot different to laying in bed for hours on end though
HalzTangz · 06/06/2021 19:57

@Heartofstrings

I'm not a troll. They can do those things but i never let them do it unsupervised. During lockdown over the summer we did most cooking together and they just kind of learnt.
Yet you've just said they could fend for themselves if you and your got covid. So either they can (unsupervised) or they can't (supervised)

They are to young to be left alone for long periods of time. They could easily get into an accident.

I'm a single mum, no family near by, when I'm I'll, I'm still in the same room as my daughter no matter what pain I'm in

Original poster
Heartofstrings · 06/06/2021 20:03

I didn't expect my thread to descend to this. Seriously. They pottered around for 20 minutes downstairs while I lay in bed feeling sorry for myself.

Also, if you died and your child was alone in the house for 24h do you think they would die? Seriously. A small child is resourceful enough to survive.

Kids in bed. Dh home. I'll go to the gp tomorrow to get my pretend twins assessed and then let you know that it's gas.

OP posts:
Sometimesfraught82 · 06/06/2021 20:05

* Also, if you died and your child was alone in the house for 24h do you think they would die? Seriously. A small child is resourceful enough to survive. *

I love that this is your benchmark OP Grin

HandfulofDust · 06/06/2021 20:07

Op most kids would survive if you left them alone all day while you went out drinking, it's still unsafe and you'd be done for child neglect. I do agree the thread has become a bit of a pile on which isn't kind. That said I think you know you haven't been quite honest and changed your story to try and get certain responses.

Original poster
Heartofstrings · 06/06/2021 20:08

No. I've been honest

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FAQs · 06/06/2021 20:12

I hope it’s nothing serious and you get some answers @Heartofstrings pleased your husband is home, not sure why some have been so horrid on here.

KarmaStar · 06/06/2021 20:19

Bloody hell !!!
Quite self sufficient for their age???
Wtaf?
You must put your children first.get up and watch them.

HalzTangz · 06/06/2021 20:25

@Heartofstrings

No. I've been honest
But you haven't. You have just said you were only in bed for 20 minutes. Yet your original posts implies a lot longer than that, what with the kids popping in every now and again
HandfulofDust · 06/06/2021 20:39

@Heartofstrings

No. I've been honest
Look if you genuine have tried to be honest then you do need to have a serious rethink. Nobody in their right mind would say that in the space of a few weeks their SN 3-4 year old child has reliably gone from 'needing constant supervision' (your words) because they might hurt their sibling to being independent enough to be left in the garden with said sibling with no supervision at all. It's just not possible. Just because a child will probably survive without you doesn't mean it's OK to risk it.

I get that MN love a good pile on and I don't think that's helpful but whether you admit it or not you've either been dishonest or incredibly naive.

Haenow · 06/06/2021 20:42

”The kids pop up to say hi every so often and I've just chucked cereal at them.” and ”They pottered around for 20 minutes downstairs while I lay in bed feeling sorry for myself.” are contradictory.

You said you posted for reassurance about your medical symptoms, yet you have already sought advice from your medic husband.

Looubylou · 06/06/2021 21:02

I know 3 people with covid currently - they had a week of stomach problems, aches and pains and lethergy. then started with sore throat and cold type symptoms. None of them have loss of taste or smell. Very different to the symptoms of others I have known. Worth considering.

oioisaveloy108 · 06/06/2021 21:07

Also, if you died and your child was alone in the house for 24h do you think they would die? Seriously. A small child is resourceful enough to survive.

Not sure you should base how you parent on this

Looubylou · 06/06/2021 21:10

OK, I've looked at all your posts, if you can be arsed to post all those messages you aren't as ill as I first thought.