Friends sarcy remarks about the way I dress

[LoveHeart929w]

So i'm 25 and I have 2 close friends.

I'm 5'1 and weigh 7 stone 5 and I have always been quite conscious about my height. I love heels (but moderate heels like heeled boots, wedges, sandals) and I also love dresses. It's my style.

Anyway, not all the time but sometimes my friend's make comments about my clothes that make me feel awkward.

We went for a meal the other day and I wore black jeans with a nice black top and my pale pink heels (probably about 3 inches).
Friend's were in flats and jeans. As we were leaving the restaurant, my friend made a comment about " how do you walk in those heels?" to which I said "easy, you get used to heels".

And as I got in my car and they walked towards there cars together, I heard them still talking about my heels and how it's "typical me" to be wearing them.

It's also been hot the past 2 weeks and last week we met up for a walk. They both were in leggings or jeans and a tshirt, I wore some black shorts with a pink off the shoulder top and white trainers.
It then resulted in a discussion about "I can't believe you're wearing shorts, are you not cold?"
Bear in mind, it was boiling!

I just feel constantly put down. I don't care what other people wear but i'm getting tired of there little snide remarks.
Maybe i'm being over the top but I just want to wear what I want without being interrogated.

I'm your height but fat, can't wear heels and your outfits sound just great so I'd definitely be secretly jealous of you. But I'm not a cow and so I wouldn't comment in a million years other than "hi Loveheart, good to see you, you look fab" because that's what friends say.

These two sound jealous as fuck.

As others have said, it just sounds like jealousy. It’s a very tiresome trait, I wouldn’t consider them friends at all.

You mentioned your weight, are they heavier than you? Is it that you think they’re jealous that you’re slimmer and look good in heels and shorts?

Dress up? She's wearing black jeans & shorts fgs.

You can look dressed up wearing even the most basic items of clothing. I'm surprised you aren't aware of this.

[quote astonafar]@AlmostSummer21 you can wear black jeans, a top and heels and look dressed up.[/quote]
Start your own thread. You're just attention seeking and rude to the op

I would say, do you mind NOT commenting on what I'm wearing please, I don't like it.

If you've tried that and they still do it then they're not really friends. Why do you hang out with them?

Your look sounds perfectly fine for what you were doing and I'm sure you looked great.

@KatherineJaneway

Dress up? She's wearing black jeans & shorts fgs.

You can look dressed up wearing even the most basic items of clothing. I'm surprised you aren't aware of this.

Pathetic

You go on being you!
As for your friends... hold deep eye contact.. say calmly 'I like it.'.. hold eye contact.. bet they look away first..
😀😀

You sound perfectly lovely to me! Don't your friends have anything else to talk about?

I would just say, "Oh, I didn't get the memo about wearing uniform! Are you worried I might get lost in the crowd if I don't dress exactly like you? I'll let you tie a helium balloon to my wrist if it helps you relax."

@GraduallyWatermelon

I think they're (not very tactfully) suggesting that you might not be great at judging what to wear for the occasion.

Where did you go for a meal? If it was casual then heels might have been a bit much. Same with the walking attire.

This is the most ridiculous statement. If she’s going for a ploughman’s she can wear W bloody ball gown if she wants. Have people that little individuality they have to dress as carbon copies of each other in godforsaken leggings every time lest they ‘stand out’. As long as you’re not wearing a full wedding dress with train or are naked it really not matters a jot if dull, conformist, parochial and self conscious people think a pair of feels are ‘a bit much’. And tbh I couldn’t even really care about the wedding dress. Are they boring in other ways OP?

[quote LoveHeart929w]@AlmostSummer21 I hope you're doing okay now and i'm sure you look lovely in your shorts; My mum has only just gained the confidence to show her legs off after a lot of weight gain the past few years and I think everyone should feel free to wear whatever they like without anyone commenting negatively to them [/quote]
@LoveHeart929w

No, not doing ok health wise, but kind of used to it now, though it's got much worse this past year and it's kind of dawning on me that as crap as I am, it's now likely to be the best I'll ever be and the things I can't do are never going to be things I can do! It's not temporary as my brain keeps feeling it is. Anyway I don't want to derail.

My point is ENJOY your figure & your health while you have them because you never know when they'll get taken away by something out of your control.

Funnily enough, I'm not quite 5ft and I never worried about being short. I did enjoy wearing clothes I liked and heels (it was the fashion and it made my very short legs look much longer. I just took it all for granted & didn't appreciate how lucky I was - until I had health issues and it all went downhill. It is what it is now. The only thing I can do is encourage younger women to get out there, appreciate what they have (whether that's health, wealth, style or figure) and live their lives as best they can, in ways that makes them happy (as long as it doesn't hurt others) and don't let others bring them down

Wear what makes you happy & tell them to stfu! 🤣👠🥂🍾

As someone who is reasonably slim (size 10) I find the comments roll in thick and fast when I’m wearing shorts. I am taller than you at 5ft 8, but from my deductions it seems that they’re from women who are not confident enough to wear shorts or who are jealous of my figure. It’s water off a ducks back these days. I feel confident and happy in my shorts so I’m damn well going to wear them.
If you (general you) are not confident in getting your legs out that’s okay but don’t put me down for doing it!

Posters are getting really hung up on irrelevant things such as whether heels are in fashion or not and what does or does not constitute ‘dressed up’.

The issue is supposed friends being needlessly critical. They’re wrong, and rude, and not behaving like friends. For whatever reason.

DeadButDelicious is spot on..

I wasn't a Goth, but more like a biker chick, WELL before it became fashionable! (I'm 55 in August, 5'4)
Black leather bike jacket, Black jeans, Black t-shirts, Black jumper/sweatshirt, black DrMartens/trainers/boots, funnily enough, black is still my go to colour, in that I feel comfortable and unnoticeable in it 🙄
I still dress very similarly, although, have branched out in the last few years to navy and the odd dark brown

And Op, I'd love to be able to wear heels, but can't for the life of me walk in them (dodgy ankle)
You carry on as you are, you sound fine.
And your so called mates, roll your eyeballs at them, and 'did you mean to be so rude/bitchy/talk about me when you think I'm not listening?'😉

@LoveHeart929w

You are 25 years old. Please wear and enjoy your heels while you are young and look great in them.

Ignore your 'friends' sarky comments. They sound jealous to me.

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They are green-eyed monsters op.

You sound like my sister in stature and dress sense. Shes always more done up than others its just the way she is and what she likes. I reckon they are just jealous.

Sometimes I would suggest to my friend that she come over to my house and we go for a walk. She would often turn up in high heels which were totally unsuitable for the walk I had planned and we would have to go somewhere else. I never said anything as I just enjoyed her company but sometimes I was a little bit irritated

JEALOUSY! You sound like my daughter. I tell her you can never be over dressed ..... every one else is under dressed! 😉 😘

I wear heels a lot...not particularly high but still a heel...i've lost count of the amount of times people ask 'how i walk in those'...its very tedious and i actually find heels more comfortable than flats.

OP, they do sound jealous. Tbh, I'd just say something back in the moment like "don't worry about what I'm wearing". Or if they get nasty about that would never wear shorts etc then a simple "you wouldn't be able to pull it off anyway!"

This is assuming you don't want a friendship with them. So you might as well say what you want.

I bet you have a cracking pair of legs and you dress to make the most of them. Your age, height, weight you are a healthy slim build not stick thin .

I think it's jealously because you are confident enough in your style. Learn to roll your eyes that them

Fuck anyone who tries to tell you you’re dressed inappropriately for an activity.

I have an equal amount of respect for women who look glamorous on a daily walk as I do for women who turn up to a restaurant in converse and a hoodie.

Sounds like you know exactly how to dress, OP.

@AuntMasha I'm 5'9" and wear heels. So what if they make you taller than other people?!

Sorry, that was meant to sound empowering, not snarky!