Friends sarcy remarks about the way I dress

[LoveHeart929w]

So i'm 25 and I have 2 close friends.

I'm 5'1 and weigh 7 stone 5 and I have always been quite conscious about my height. I love heels (but moderate heels like heeled boots, wedges, sandals) and I also love dresses. It's my style.

Anyway, not all the time but sometimes my friend's make comments about my clothes that make me feel awkward.

We went for a meal the other day and I wore black jeans with a nice black top and my pale pink heels (probably about 3 inches).
Friend's were in flats and jeans. As we were leaving the restaurant, my friend made a comment about " how do you walk in those heels?" to which I said "easy, you get used to heels".

And as I got in my car and they walked towards there cars together, I heard them still talking about my heels and how it's "typical me" to be wearing them.

It's also been hot the past 2 weeks and last week we met up for a walk. They both were in leggings or jeans and a tshirt, I wore some black shorts with a pink off the shoulder top and white trainers.
It then resulted in a discussion about "I can't believe you're wearing shorts, are you not cold?"
Bear in mind, it was boiling!

I just feel constantly put down. I don't care what other people wear but i'm getting tired of there little snide remarks.
Maybe i'm being over the top but I just want to wear what I want without being interrogated.

They are jealous, because you probably always look put together and can pull things off that they can't due to you being petite. I'm quite tall and recognise cute girly but glam envy. I would admit that though, and compliment you, rather than make snide comments. Just ignore them and wear what you feel good in. Please look after your feet though, I was a big heels wearer and have bunions now.

So they’re just jealous! Ignore the comments and carry on!!

@Posieandpip How is it oversensitive to notice that you’re being unkind to OP?! You told her she was just posting on here to get people to say her friends are jealous! You think it’s ok that her friends are making snide remarks and whispering about her because you think heels aren’t in anymore. Nasty. I pity your friends! And I’m not the only one to think so, so take your negativity elsewhere or better yet keep it to yourself.

[quote Misty84]@Posieandpip How is it oversensitive to notice that you’re being unkind to OP?! You told her she was just posting on here to get people to say her friends are jealous! You think it’s ok that her friends are making snide remarks and whispering about her because you think heels aren’t in anymore. Nasty. I pity your friends! And I’m not the only one to think so, so take your negativity elsewhere or better yet keep it to yourself.[/quote]
😂😂😂😂😂 u ok hun?

Honestly, I come to MN for hilarious posters like you who massively overreact and get hysterical about absolutely everything.

This is a forum where she asked opinions. I gave mine. I don't see how 1) anything OPs friends said were mean or 2) how her weight is relevant? I gave my honest opinion which was not "unkind", but just my opinion, which I am entitled to share just as you are yours. But thank you for a good laugh today! Now go and have a nice cup of tea and take a few deep breaths.

@Posieandpip there's only one person massively overreacting and getting hysterical...and it's not @Misty84

Thank you @FuckyouCovid21 🙌

It’s sad that there’s always at least one troll like @Posieandpip on these AIBU threads, offering nothing constructive, just nastiness. I’m un-watching this now, as I’m not engaging in her spiteful, gaslighting game any longer!

OP please ignore Posie, great to see the majority are supporting and empowering you, or at least being helpful with their opinions. Like I said I had a friend who did the same and when I confronted her she admitted she was jealous, so it could be the same reason with your friends. I would gently speak to your friends about it. If they change their behaviour, great, if they don’t then they’re not good friends and you’ll find better ones. Best of luck (and keep wearing your heels!) xx

This thread has made it onto the feminist section 😂😂
Blaming women for calling out other women for these types of controlling behaviours - the hypocrisy.

@Peach01

This thread has made it onto the feminist section 😂😂 Blaming women for calling out other women for these types of controlling behaviours - the hypocrisy.

What a surprise it was @astonafar that started it 😂

@RosaBudDrood typical 😂😂 preaching to women about how to dress and their weight, whilst banging on about women rights 🙈 must be one of the "friends".

I do wish people would stop using 'gaslighting when they don't know what it means. It makes them look so silly. But it's going to be a thing now isn't it.

@midsomermurderess

I do wish people would stop using 'gaslighting when they don't know what it means. It makes them look so silly. But it's going to be a thing now isn't it.

Isn't gaslighting any form of distorting someones sense of reality by manipulation? Yeah there are some dramatic forms, but what the pp was saying about Posieandpip I think refers to her trying to make the OP feel over sensitive, that she is upset with her so called friends, who are blatantly trying to make her feel uncomfortable with their faux concern for her comfort and faux disbelief that she would wear something as inoffensive as a pair of heels. Trying to make someone doubt their own emotions and question their right to feel upset is I think a mild and effective form of gaslighting. Inducing self doubt. I think the real problem with the OP isn't so much that her friends are jealous, and isn't that fewer people wear heels anymore, I think it's that she has 'friends' who seem to want her to feel uncomfortable. Surely no one is that shallow that they would hurt their friends feelings because she is wearing something that fewer people wear now..... unless they want to hurt her.