Friends sarcy remarks about the way I dress

[LoveHeart929w]

So i'm 25 and I have 2 close friends.

I'm 5'1 and weigh 7 stone 5 and I have always been quite conscious about my height. I love heels (but moderate heels like heeled boots, wedges, sandals) and I also love dresses. It's my style.

Anyway, not all the time but sometimes my friend's make comments about my clothes that make me feel awkward.

We went for a meal the other day and I wore black jeans with a nice black top and my pale pink heels (probably about 3 inches).
Friend's were in flats and jeans. As we were leaving the restaurant, my friend made a comment about " how do you walk in those heels?" to which I said "easy, you get used to heels".

And as I got in my car and they walked towards there cars together, I heard them still talking about my heels and how it's "typical me" to be wearing them.

It's also been hot the past 2 weeks and last week we met up for a walk. They both were in leggings or jeans and a tshirt, I wore some black shorts with a pink off the shoulder top and white trainers.
It then resulted in a discussion about "I can't believe you're wearing shorts, are you not cold?"
Bear in mind, it was boiling!

I just feel constantly put down. I don't care what other people wear but i'm getting tired of there little snide remarks.
Maybe i'm being over the top but I just want to wear what I want without being interrogated.

making a comment one off fine but going on about it in a convo is rude

are they fatter than you op dont worry about saying it just thinking u can pull off most styles and they cant

they dont sound very nice

@dorangme declining doesn't = nobody is buying them. Plus last year, clear high-heels were in fashion. I never owned them but so many clothes sites and celebs were wearing them and youtubers recommending them.
But, i'm not fussed what the catwalk says or whether high-fashion blogs say theyre not in fashion.

@GraduallyWatermelon

I think they're (not very tactfully) suggesting that you might not be great at judging what to wear for the occasion.

Where did you go for a meal? If it was casual then heels might have been a bit much. Same with the walking attire.

Restaurants are not suitable for heels? What the fuck? And how are trainers and shorts not suitable for a walk, but jeans are?

OP obviously has her own style, her friends sound jealous, as do you. Stop looking to put the OP down.

@astonafar thank you, I will still absolutely carry on looking good in my heels have a good day.

@NormanStangerson some people on this thread seem only happy if everyone walked around in leggings, jumpers and trainers.
I also love leggings and jumpers but, goodness, I also love my skirts, heels, jeans, shorts.

declining doesn't = nobody is buying them.

Yes which is why I said declining as shops are not selling lots of them. Global sales are massively down & extreme styles have largely disappeared. As I said you can wear what you like though.

I don’t know why you needed to state your weight for your OP.

@murbblurb

Boring conversation.

3 inches is not an average heel, it is a staggerer - but up to you. I think heels look ridiculous so I never comment. But as long as you didn't turn up in them to go for a walk, no issue.

If it's so boring then why bother posting? Oh, hang on, I know - so you could get a snidey comment in about heels just because you personally don't happen to like them.

OP these sound like some former 'friends' of mine. Note I said former. I'd be rethinking the friendships tbh, I always used to come away from seeing these 2 friends feeling shit about myself. It's also possible that they're trying to pull you down because you look better than they do. lol

I also get a lot of comments about wearing heels and generally dressing nicely/smartly when going out. People implying I'm vain/shallow which is far from true, I just enjoy nice clothes/shoes/makeup and don't go out a lot so rarely get to enjoy them. I couldn't give a hoot if people think I'm overdressed, it's not like I'm wearing a ballgown down the local boozer.

Saddens me that women are so ready to tear down other women.

OP stated her weight because it is obvious that looking good is very important to her.

@Divebar2021 because i'm talking about fashion. Guarantee if I didn't, my weight would have been asked anyway. Anyway, what's wrong with mentioning my weight?

Deflecting bs is a learned art.

I would start with the puzzled look and move on to another topic.

Another response could be puzzled look and say, "what an odd thing to ask someone" and move on to another topic.

Refuse to engage every time and they'll stop.
Be that person who never allowed things like that to progress.

@astonafar can you explain your problem with women wanting to look good? You clearly have an issue with it as you are being extremely rude about high heels and fashion and me wanting to look nice?

I hate women like this! They are most likely jealous - your style sounds lovely!

I wore a dress lastnight out for dinner and felt amazing in it - when given a compliment by another woman asking where my dress was from not only did I tell her where the dress was from, how much it was but also gave her a discount code she could use. Be the woman who builds other women up!!!

I think they think you are stealing their thunder. You dress the way you do because you like to look nice . They think you like to be the centre of attention.

@bringincrazyback I find it extremely sad too! And it's evident on this thread with some women being extremely bitchy about other women wanting to look nice.
And apparently I should stop wearing heels because sales are decling.
Why should it bother me that New Look aren't selling as much heels? I still love them and clearly some peoppe are buying them since they keep having them in stock.

@LoveHeart929w most people want to look good. But there does come a point where it takes too much importance.

[quote LoveHeart929w]@NormanStangerson some people on this thread seem only happy if everyone walked around in leggings, jumpers and trainers.
I also love leggings and jumpers but, goodness, I also love my skirts, heels, jeans, shorts.[/quote]
Quite right. They’re your clothes and it’s your body. I don’t understand why people think they have a right comment?

I rather suspect a lot of the negativity you’re receiving here is because you’re petite and they’re probably not.

It doesn’t sound like jealousy, just normal, casual comments.

Jealousy. Pure and simple. Encountered it at school, but not since! Very childish. I would say, they probably have confidence issues and are generally not very nice. Makes them feel better by making those comments.

There are two ways to dress.
Either dress to fit in and look nice at the same time. So if everyone else is dressing casually, you dress casually.

Or dress in the style you want. But to do that you have to be confident in your choices or it does not work.

@ThatsSoFetch totally agree!
If i saw one girl in high heels out of a load of girls in white trainers on a night out, I wouldn't think "urghh aren't you unusual", but tbh I probably wodn't even notice as i'd be too busy having fun than to notice footwear

Jealousy is a shit

The 'how do you walk in heals' comment alone wouldn't bother me but the way they followed it up with it being typical you is very snide. They don't sound very nice.

I'm a bit older than you but also petite and love wearing heels and shorts and dresses when the weather is warm.

I also get a lot of comments about wearing heels to which I just respond with a tinkly laugh.

I've also found that dressing "feminine" often means people don't take me seriously when they first meet me. Was at a BBQ yesterday in a floaty strappy dress and strappy wedge heeled sandals and met another woman for the first time. She fely she had to explain her academic job to me and when I tried to explain I am a very senior leader in a similar field, she just could not comprehend it or engage with me

@astonafar and you don't know me and I really don't have a thing about "looking good" all the time, and anyway even if I did, what's the problem?
Good on that woman who loves wearing a glammed up face, business suit and high heels. Let her do her and you do you.