Friends sarcy remarks about the way I dress

[LoveHeart929w]

So i'm 25 and I have 2 close friends.

I'm 5'1 and weigh 7 stone 5 and I have always been quite conscious about my height. I love heels (but moderate heels like heeled boots, wedges, sandals) and I also love dresses. It's my style.

Anyway, not all the time but sometimes my friend's make comments about my clothes that make me feel awkward.

We went for a meal the other day and I wore black jeans with a nice black top and my pale pink heels (probably about 3 inches).
Friend's were in flats and jeans. As we were leaving the restaurant, my friend made a comment about " how do you walk in those heels?" to which I said "easy, you get used to heels".

And as I got in my car and they walked towards there cars together, I heard them still talking about my heels and how it's "typical me" to be wearing them.

It's also been hot the past 2 weeks and last week we met up for a walk. They both were in leggings or jeans and a tshirt, I wore some black shorts with a pink off the shoulder top and white trainers.
It then resulted in a discussion about "I can't believe you're wearing shorts, are you not cold?"
Bear in mind, it was boiling!

I just feel constantly put down. I don't care what other people wear but i'm getting tired of there little snide remarks.
Maybe i'm being over the top but I just want to wear what I want without being interrogated.

Wow this is a very anti heel thread. Apart from a pair of trainers I didn't own a pair of flats until last year when I read that heels were ageing, as in younger people wear flats. If I was 25 I wouldn't give a fuck what was ageing I'd wear what I liked. I bet you look lovely and shorts and trainers for a walk last week was very appropriate.

Why are heels still for sale everywhere if everyone is being ridiculous if they wear them? It's like those dicks who bang on about how skinny jeans have had their day when they are still sold everywhere.

Are we seriously raising a generation who are this sensitive? These are your friends... you know them. Can’t you take the piss out of them and have a laugh. I have a friend who is very conservative in her office wear who has often said “ did you wear that to the office today” and I just laugh about it. She isn’t jealous ( which is a pathetic assumption to make) she just thinks I’m too casual. It’s fine... I don’t bloody work for her. She can laugh at herself too. I imagine wearing heels is making you stand out a bit more nowadays because they’re not so popular anymore - who cares!

OP I think you’re being a little bit sensitive. Those sorts of comments would be jokey comments me and my friends might say to each other. I 5 foot 10 and never wear heals so I’m jealous (in a nice way) of my friends who do, and DH permanently wears shorts and people are always ribbing him about it. I wouldn’t take it too much to heart tbh.

I think they're jealous of you being petite....id be jealous too! (Though I wouldn't be nasty lol). It sounds like you've got your own sense of style and individuality.....dont change that for others.

The sale of high heels has declined and even the glamourous collections are now featuring lower heels. Styles change. And high heels are bad for you.

@astonafar wow. You are very against heels. Please go tell all the fashion shops that heels are out of fashion because they sure as hell are still selling loads of them

OP, it doesn’t sound for one second like you were overdressed and even if you were, no-one should comment or make you feel bad about doing so. Please don’t change yourself for these people.

@Divebar2021 you sound like my kind of person.

@LoveHeart929w I am only telling you what I read in fashion blogs. I wear lots of things out of fashion. But some women do only wear what is in fashion.

@astonafar and anyway, does it matter whether Tiktok stays skinny jeans are out of fashion or "all" the eighteen year olds are wearing trainers?
People wear what they like and I do wear trainers as well but I love my heeled sandals too- they make my legs look amazing

@LoveHeart929w I wear for comfort first. Wear what you want and try not to be so sensitive.

What are they like as friends in every other respect ?

OP,

The conversation os negative to your ears.
You have stated that clearly.

Real friends do not have repetitive negative comments about what one of the group is wearing.

In fact, anyone with the slightest bit of rearing in them knows not to make personal comments if they are not at the very least positive.

Your friends are sarcey?

Not real friends.

Start focusing on other friends.
These will NOT have your back when push comes to shove.

It just sounds like your style is a bit at odds with your friend's style. It also sounds like because you are very slim you can wear styles confidently which maybe your friends would feel self-conscious in.

You did of course tell us your weight- why would you do that- if not to emphasise what a great figure you have?

@GraduallyWatermelon

I think they're (not very tactfully) suggesting that you might not be great at judging what to wear for the occasion.

Where did you go for a meal? If it was casual then heels might have been a bit much. Same with the walking attire.

Why are they the best judge on what to wear though? Maybe some would find their clothing unsuitable. What does it even matter? People should wear whatever they like, they don't need others' approval.

Have you told them the comments upset you?

We were at the beach the other day & I was constantly asking DH if he was cold & questioning why he wasn't cold in his shorts & t-shirt's. I was freezing in joggers & a jumper because the wind was cold.

* Are we seriously raising a generation who are this sensitive?*

^I agree with this. I see nothing wrong with what your friends said. Seriously you are completely overreacting.

@astonafar same to you. Try not to be so sensitive to heels and what's on trend

Definitely not emphasising what a great figure I have. But when talking about clothes aren't height and dimensions important? In fact, there's plenty i'd change about myself, including being a few inches taller, but I work with what i've got

If you are confident of your choice, don't let others' comment bother you.

@LoveHeart929w enjoy wearing your heels. Try and move with the times a little bit.

You are very against heels. Please go tell all the fashion shops that heels are out of fashion because they sure as hell are still selling loads of them

On a separate note they really aren't. Sales of high heels have been declining for a few years. However you can wear what you want.

Some people feel they have to comment on other people’s lives. Take no notice and wear what you like. If it bothers you, ask them if it bothers them the way you dress. If they say no, then tell them to stop talking about it. Fwiw, my daughter is 22, wears heels all the time when she goes out and when she comes out on rugged hill walks with us, will wear a crop top and shorts. No one gives a damn. And her friends tell her she looks nice.

@Anotheruser02 completely agree! I see plenty of people still in skinny jeans and plenty of people in heels - i'm sure ASOS, New Look, River Island etc. would stop selling if nobody wore heels haha

[quote astonafar]@LoveHeart929w enjoy wearing your heels. Try and move with the times a little bit. [/quote]
That's funny, because I was on a night out last night and saw loads of young girls in heels.