To ask for full twin disclosure?

[nowlook]

So many posters have twins! And given it can be easy to forget from one thread to the next whether you've had a multiple birth, I wondered if a general twin register might be helpful. Feel free to have a good rummage around at home to see if you have any.

1. nowlook (no twins)

I have a singleton and am now expecting twins. It’s not that uncommon, and afaik getting more prevalent as parents get older, IVF use increases etc. I’m about halfway through my pregnancy and have already been asked twice if they’re “natural” (among a host of other inane questions).

The only thing about twins for me is that the ones near me all have really similar names. So there’s, say, Ava and Millie, Arthur and Mary, Archie and Michael and Ada and Martha within the space of about 2sq km, all ages 3-5. Obviously just a coincidence but it makes DH and I giggle every time.

I keep seeing adorable twins atm. I know how hard it must be (I found singletons exhausting) but all I can think of is double the lovely cuddles.

I’ve got twins in their late teens.

People on here do get very suspicious. I posted about one of mine having a very specific issue once and someone sarcastically commented how she’d “magically lost her twin” as I’d only referred to her being frustrated about her siblings rather than specifically referencing her twin and other siblings

Would someone mind please spelling out to me why this post is either meant to be helpful or funny? I am guessing its meant to be tongue in cheek but I am really missing the punchline....

@Twinmammaplusone that must have been a very fraught and difficult time to go through x

When you have twins you know lots of twins and I also find I see twins everywhere we go - there are a lot more than I realised before I had them myself. I guess people who don’t have them see it differently.

Weirdly two girls I was friends with in my teens had twins a year or so after I did. It’s really not that unusual.

Mine aren’t IVF - I thought I would need IVF but actually got pregnant quickly and with two, which was a huge shock.

You always get the people who go on about how much they wish for twins, how it must be so lovely for them to have someone to play with etc etc... it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done, and mine are both disabled and don’t interact at all. It’s not something I would have chosen if I’d had a choice. I know so many twins where at least one had a disability, or they were extremely premature and have resulting health issues, or one or both passed away, twin twin transfusion syndrome in a couple of identical twins I know etc. Even dizygotic twins like mine have more risks than a Singleton pregnancy.

If I could guarantee a Singleton I’d have another baby but I could not risk more twins (or more).

Lots of people misunderstand twins and think identical twins can run in families (rather than multiple sets of monozygotic twins being a coincedence) or that their risk of twins is higher if there’s twins on their male partner’s side, or that DCDA twins can’t be identical (our geneticist tested ours to check if they were or not). Or people who ask if B/G twins are identical... 🙄 Theres a lot of misinformation out there and it gets quite tiring, especially when they are babies and everyone wants to stop and ask you personal questions about conception!

Twins are so insanely common, There is 3 sets in my family (None mine). I started off pregnant with twins but one baby died.

I think people are in denial about how often twins are born.

@JustLyra

I’ve got twins in their late teens.

People on here do get very suspicious. I posted about one of mine having a very specific issue once and someone sarcastically commented how she’d “magically lost her twin” as I’d only referred to her being frustrated about her siblings rather than specifically referencing her twin and other siblings

Yes, I’ve been criticised to referring to one of my twins as DS1 (as if he’s not also my son), and have also been criticised for referring to them as twins, because they should have separate identities.

Some MNers are weird

I know a couple who went for a 3rd final baby and had twins.
The fear of twins put DH and i off trying for a final baby and we decided we are happy with just our 2 kids.

I don't have twins but I know quite a lot of people who do. I also have a few friends who are twins themselves.

Is it really so uncommon that it sounds like a lie?! Surely twins are becoming more common these days as more and more couples conceive through IVF.

Twins is always the way to fan the drama.
Just like a teen demanding to picked up and saying "I'm on 1 percent battery"

Name changed but I have been posting a lot about my twin pregnancy... didn’t realise Mumsnet would think I’m lying...

Also, I am a boy girl twin. Having boy girl twins. And my little sisters are twins! I’m not yet 30 and no IVF.

I kind of wish I was lying! I’m so scared when I think about coping with a 3 year old and two newborns!

Oh also someone in my NCT group is having twins too! No idea if she had IVF but I don’t think so. She is late 30’s. I don’t think it’s that uncommon.

No twins, but we have 2 sets of triplets in the family.

I didn't realise twins were so uncommon that people would think it was a lie, I know loads of twins!

I know of loads of twins in RL, it's not that unusual.

But you have to combine a goady/unbelievable thread with twins for me to be suspicious. A mention of twins with a perfectly normal post don't raise an eyebrow at all.

I was married to an identical twin.

@Embracingthechaos

I don't have twins but I know quite a lot of people who do. I also have a few friends who are twins themselves.

Is it really so uncommon that it sounds like a lie?! Surely twins are becoming more common these days as more and more couples conceive through IVF.

Nope. I'm an IVF twin mummy - I haven't met any IVF twin mums in 9 months of pregnancy or in the 5 months they've been born. And I've probably met around 20-25 mins so far either at the twins clinic at the hospital or people stopping me in the shops l. When they were in NICU they were also the only IVF twins out of about 5 sets

I have twins.

There are more twins around these days. Women are having children older (a factor), more fertility treatment (my case) and advances in natal (and delivery) care.

My twin are teenagers but I took part in an official twins study for a few years.

I have twins.
Although of course I might not.

I don’t get this either. My mum is a twin and we lived next door to twins on both sides as a kid.

Two sets of twins in DD’s class. It’s not unusual and is more common in the over 35s - good reason not to try for baby number 3!

@AnneFuckingKirrin

I have twins. Although of course I might not.

You need to invent a completely unbelievable scenario to post about then drop the twins in as a giant drip feed around your 4th post just to make sure.

I have twins and there is 3 other sets in their small year group of about 40 kids
Mine weren’t ivf and I’m sure the others were not too, defo feel they are on the increase!

No twins here, but i’d love to have had them. Not if they were both like my youngest though, who is more than enough.

I was at school with twins though and they still live together even though theyre 50 this year.

Remember that non-identical are more common than identicals. Having said that, I have identical twin boys and I know 3 sets of identical twin teenagers just through my twins school.

@Einsteinsings

I have teen twins. But it’s one of the details I sometimes change to make less identifiable. So, for example, I might say I have dc age 12 and 14 but actually they 13 year old twins. Unless it’s a post specifically about the challenges of multiples, I don’t understand why people seem to get so worked up about it

Yes I completely hear you. It is very identifiable. Somebody aiming to keep a database and then refer back to it to prove a lie had been told is just scary.