To be really surprised at the amount of “naice” middle class people who apparantly do coke?

[Lemonwoe]

I see this on mumsnet often that coke use is rife in middle class circles. I’ve never been offered coke on a night out, or seen any of my friends do it: and none of them have ever mentioned doing it.

Aibu to be so naive not to realise it is so widespread

Even when worked in the media I only came across it once and that was backstage at Glastonbury. Considering I have been 4 times I’m amazed I didn’t see it more. I don’t know anyone who does it now I’m 38 but I still like to party (pre Covid - desperate for live music and dancing again). I’m probably very naive but I knew a few druggies (pot all the time and various other stuff so probably Coke too) in my late teens and they were always total self obsessed twats. Last I heard, 20 years later they are still house sharing and have same lifestyle and jobs (the type of jobs we did in our teens for pocket money... they never progressed). Not sure where the middle class coke taking people are but they’re not visible here.

My circle of friends used to go clubbing in the 90s, then it progressed to coke as it’s more socially acceptable and under the radar. Some stopped as they got older, others have continued to do it into their 30s and 40s.

However, I don’t know anyone who smokes weed and I’ve never been offered any! My DH sourced some in lockdown (a friend of his sent it in the post). I tried it. Never again! I’ve no idea why it’s downplayed in popular culture. Personally I think it’s worse than coke or ecstasy.

I don't know of any family or friends to have taken it, except my partner (one occasion when he was 18). He is not middle class in the slightest. I come from a middle class background (sadly my income does not reflect this...) and have never been offered it or been around it. The only other people I know who have been around/taken coke are victims of county lines (related to my work), definitely not middle class but it's not like they are the customers...

However, I am not surprised by the amount of functioning middle class adults who take cocaine. I guess I just don't run in those circles, and tbh, the company I keep aren't the type to value the party lifestyle. But I'll never know what happens behind closed doors!

I was thinking I have never been offered coke but I sort of have.....

A woman who had had a few started talking to me and I was being polite but didnt really want to spend my evening with her, you know what I mean. She then asked if I did coke, and who could she get some from. I said that I didnt know who she could get some from as I knew it to be a hard line "no drugs" pub. She said it was no problem as she could call someone and got her phone out. I was having a drink in the other village pub as it was my one night off a week away from my own pub, so texted the owner and we both barred her :o

Me and the hubby have the odd cheeky line with our sups on holibobs.

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There, you can all stop complaining about 'naice'

My brother live and his fiancé live in London and they do coke and many other hard drugs, they still manage to hold down proper jobs and careers. Think they are trying to move away from it, but difficult when your social circle finds drug use normal!

@SavageBeauty73

I live in North London and most people I know takes drugs. Late 40's. All professions. I don't as my ex husband is an addict. I'm always surprised when I meet people who don't take coke or mdma

I am literally your neighbour and your age, also a professional, as is my husband. I have been offered coke twice in my life, last time was 2011 in another country. Nobody in my social circle does it as far as I am aware.

20 years ago it was the drug of choice in my social circle. I quite liked a line on a night out. But l haven't taken any for years. As far as l know neither have my friends. To be honest we didn't think about where it was from or the bigger picture in drug trade . It was everywhere and we were enjoying a child free night out.

I’m in my mid twenties, middle class, never been offered coke and not aware of anyone in my circle taking it. Even at university we partied pretty hard but there weren’t drugs at our parties unless I was too blind drunk to notice

I find it incredible that anyone can disassociate themselves from the fact they are funding such a disgusting industry. Remember Toni Ann Byfield

@OwlIsBeingAnOwl 😂, I’m not sure the ‘hubby/holibobs’ crowd cross over with the recreational coke crowd, but who knows!?

Pretty rife amongst the middle aged, middle class people I know. Mostly media/music careers though & a lot of ex-ravers. It’s not great from an ethical or health perspective - but is very much normalised. Nobody judges if you don’t get involved but at the same time those who don’t get involved don’t judge those who do (openly anyway)..

@Alternista

Never done it, never been offered it and wouldn’t know what to do if I was!

I sort of feel like I’ve missed out…

Ex addict here. I can promise that you have missed out on nothing but depleted finances, brushes with the law, spending your non-coked up hours alternating between shouting and crying, false friendships and terrible skin.

Coke users, please please please be safe and moderate. I'd hate for you to end up like I did.

I am 29 and probably middle
Class and I have never even seen cocaine ! 😂

I agree, drug dealing is heavily linked to sex trafficking, money laundering, violent crime etc and I'm surprised so many MNers admit to it, when in other threads they will denounce people using prostitutes or be horrified if someone got spoken to rudely and will be told to call 101

Or holidaying in Dubai which is the ultimate sin 🙄

I'm in my 50s and a bit of old fashioned dope was not unusual at university. Coke wasn't a thing. After I left university I was out with my younger db and a couple of his friends went off to do Coke. I was shocked. He wasn't but he wasn't interested.
That's the sum total of my experience.

People who take recreational drugs think they're 'cool,' and that it makes them interesting and 'edgy.' It doesn't.

It makes them dull and boring and irksome.

Bit like people who have tattoos. For some reason they think it makes them edgy and cool and 'yoooneek.' Nope. Just makes you look like everyone else. People who DON'T have tattoos are the 'yoooneek' ones these days.

Agreed, parts of London are full of yooneek men in matching beards, clothes & tattoo sleeves. #groundbreaking

I live in a small village in the south east and there are definitely certain friendahip circles that do it. Not all middle class, but of them are. I know the landlady of the pub and they had a bit of a crackdown on it a few years ago, but to be honest people mostly do it at home parties/bbqs etc. I'm not in those groups, so I don't see it but I grew up with parents who did coke (and my step dad dealt it for a year or two) and tried it first at 14. Drugs were totally normalised in my family and I did do coke on the odd occasion even when my DCs were young, but I always found it overpriced and rather pointless (I preferred weed). Haven't touched it for years now and probably won't ever again, the ethics and the health risks make me uncomfortable. But these just weren't ever discussed or considered when I was around it all the time. No one who does it cares.

well said @JackieWeaverHandforthCouncil

Im very anti recreational drugs. Anyone who knows me wouldn't be silly enough to offer me anything like that. I did once go to a party and when I walked in they were all doing cocaine. I walked right back out again. Ive no wish to get involved with drug dealers, addicts or their evil trade. It destroys lives and funds organised crime. You can keep it. Drugs destroyed my family member's life and their life was a complete car crash. Oh and they started off by doing the so-called harmless marijuana and by 16 were on heroin, by their early 30s, sadly dead.

I know very few people who DON’T do it. I live in a rural area, not a city. People I know who definitely partake on a regular basis include doctors, chair of the PSA, social workers, university lecturers, nurses etc etc etc.

Ha ha ha this is something that always amuses me. In fact, I think "naice" middle class people do ALL the coke, don't they?

I don't know anyone who DOES coke

In my late teens early 20s I took plenty of drugs. Back then I was bored, unhappy, inexperienced, hating uni, poor, easily influenced and generally wasn’t enjoying my life. My friends took drugs and it was a nice form of escapism as it made me feel fucking great at the time, which was a change. Coke does turn people into arrogant twats though, and I include myself in that. And I always felt shame after I took it. I very rarely bought it as it was £50 a gram and no way could I afford it. But if it was offered I’d take it.

Then I graduated, carved out a career, worked my way through some jobs, did further education, met my DP, got lots of life experience, started to get paid very well, did a bit of travel, started in better jobs and now am a much happier and fulfilled person. I have interesting things to talk about at gatherings and I love to listen to interesting / funny stories with friends at parties bbqs / parties etc. Haven’t touched Coke / pills in years and to be honest if I found out someone did I would pity them or think they must be really lacking something to think that snorting a line will make their evening better. Especially because of how it’s produced / trafficked.

So despite having done it myself many years ago, I judge those that do it in their 30s and beyond as being dull and selfish.

I don't know anyone who rides horses..

But I'm sure many people do

And if I rode horses I'd probably know many others who do

Anyone can brag about what they do and don’t do on the internet, I’d take absolutely everything you read on here with a massive pinch of salt. Cocaine is as rife on here as pigs are on the moon. Everyone wants to be seen to be idiots “cool”