To not know what to do with DH at weekends?

[Sheeeeeep]

I might be being a bit UR here. Feel free to tell me so, nicely would be preferred!

This sounds a bit brutal but to be blunt DH feels a bit surplus to requirements. During the week I have a nice little routine going with DD (6 months.) We do as much as possible with baby classes and when we aren’t there we go for long walks in the pram or sling.

Then the weekend comes and it takes DH until around 10/11 to wake up, then another couple of hours faffing around deciding what we want to do and we always end up on a walk. And tbh after the last year I have really fallen out of love with walking.

And what can I do about it? I’ve tried suggesting stuff we could do but he umms and ahhs and then it is booked up!

@Sheeeeeep

I think you need to be a bit more respectful of people’s personal boundaries and comfort levels jelly

I actually have fairly unique financial circumstances, I am not remotely OK with talking about them all over the Internet.

I’m not being financially abused and I’m not going to be goaded into outing myself because you can’t accept that no means no. Incidentally, in conversations about abuse, that’s a biggie, isn’t it? I’m certainly not saying you are an abuser but it is worth reflecting on the fact that when someone says ‘no, I’m not OK with this, please stop’ that should be respected without any sort of follow up.

So what are you posting for @Sheeeeeep ?

You persist incoming back to this thread - mostly to criticise posters who are trying to help you despite you refusing to give any information that would allow them to do so.

You say you don't want to share information so why keep engaging ? Your posts are sarcastic, mocking of women in abusive situations, and now accusatory towards other posters. How is any of this actually helping you? And since it isn't, why are you continuing to post? 🤔

I recommend sayingyou are done with the walks and he can by all means do them, but if he doesn't book something else, then he and daughter will be going without you.

I know you say you don't want to leave your daughter, OP, but it's a really unhealthy dynamic to not even want her to go for a walk with Dad on their own. He needs his alone-time and bonding time with her too.

I also think that if you let him go for his walk with her for a few weekends, his booking-fingers would develop hugely.

OP, I don’t suggest this on here often, but have you considered therapy? There’s obviously a lot going on in the background and you don’t want to discuss it on here, which is fair enough- but just on the basis of what you’ve said here, your DD is missing out because you and your partner aren’t communicating or sharing responsibility effectively. You’re parents, so it’s important that you sort that out, and it will become more important as your DD gets older and you have to take her perspective into account too.

How did it go at the weekend?