To think if there's something you don't want your kid to eat you say when asked not bitch about it later.

[BeansOnToast56]

So today I looked after my brothers girlfriends daughter for the day as she was working and her child care fell through. She is a relatively new girlfriend of about 9 months but due to covid I haven't really spent much time with her or her daughter but my brother is happy so that's ok with me. My dd is a year younger so it was no skin off my nose to have her here for the day, the girls played nicely and entertained each other. I asked her mum when she dropped her off if she had any allergies, things she didn't want her to have or things she didn't like, mum said she ate most things. She had lunch and dinner here so mum really should of said if there was things her daughter wasn't allowed to eat. The girls had bagels cream cheese, grapes, carrot sticks for lunch, crisps in the afternoon and chorizo pasta bake for dinner with peas and garlic bread with chocolate ice cream for pudding. Well my brother has rang kicking for because the child is vegetarian and her mum is very upset I didn't respect that, how the bloody hell am I suppose to know this? I asked mum and she didn't say her reply was she eats most things, no mention of her being a vegetarian at all. AIBU on to think this is mums fault and if she didn't say how was I suppose to know, her dd is 7 if that makes any difference and she didn't tell me herself.

@SunnydaleClassProtector99

Nope. I didn't and they did not. Again, what credentials have you got to dispute the team around my child? Or would you like me to refer them onto you so you can 'complain'.

Why the fuck would I complain? If you're happy having your child treated by a so called nutrionist who doesn't know how allergies work, it's not my business. I'd expect better for my child, but you can make your own choices.

@BeansOnToast56

This is the recipe I used, I add a handful of chopped cherry tomatoes and use more cheese on top.

Love the look of this will be try for my son thanks.

You were totally not on the wrong either, I too have a ds with an allergy abs even with ppl ok confident know I always make sure they do and whilst being a vegetarian isn't quite the same definitely think it's something you make sure ppl know.

Oh don't play the I'm a better mum than you game with me.
I'm trusting the professionals. I've shared what professional people have said and you've tried to contradict it without any explanation.
You're a nasty piece of work.

@SunnydaleClassProtector99 A vegetarian child may be allergic to meat and not know about it until the accidentally eat meat but they are not going to develop an allergy because they don't eat meat. And it is unlikely as not a common allergy, more likely with shellfish.

It is very insensitive to compare a life choice with a life threatening allergy. I would always accommodate vegetarians and I would never allow a vegetarian child in my care to eat meat. But the consequences are not the same as a peanut (for example) allergic child accidentally eating peanut.

I think there my be some confusion between allergy and intolerance.

I'm telling you what our literal, health professional has told us.
I didn't make that comparison myself, but my point was you shouldn't be feeding a child things they're not used to.
We're on a milk ladder ourselves but thankfully an intolerance not allergy.