To think if there's something you don't want your kid to eat you say when asked not bitch about it later.

[BeansOnToast56]

So today I looked after my brothers girlfriends daughter for the day as she was working and her child care fell through. She is a relatively new girlfriend of about 9 months but due to covid I haven't really spent much time with her or her daughter but my brother is happy so that's ok with me. My dd is a year younger so it was no skin off my nose to have her here for the day, the girls played nicely and entertained each other. I asked her mum when she dropped her off if she had any allergies, things she didn't want her to have or things she didn't like, mum said she ate most things. She had lunch and dinner here so mum really should of said if there was things her daughter wasn't allowed to eat. The girls had bagels cream cheese, grapes, carrot sticks for lunch, crisps in the afternoon and chorizo pasta bake for dinner with peas and garlic bread with chocolate ice cream for pudding. Well my brother has rang kicking for because the child is vegetarian and her mum is very upset I didn't respect that, how the bloody hell am I suppose to know this? I asked mum and she didn't say her reply was she eats most things, no mention of her being a vegetarian at all. AIBU on to think this is mums fault and if she didn't say how was I suppose to know, her dd is 7 if that makes any difference and she didn't tell me herself.

What happened, @BeansOnToast56

at 'I lived through BSE'.

Was BSE your Vietnam, dear?

Myself, my DH & DS are all pescatarian yet last week our son stole a piece of beef sandwich off my dads plate whilst they were looking after him. I wasn't mad, these things are bound to happen especially at nursery! If just grateful for the child care help 😅
YANBU

I hope if the brother had the brass neck to show up that OP has made him tofu instead of a bacon sandwich.

@Egghead81

*I made provision for the vegetarians, showed the child where the veggie burgers were, and he said he wanted a beef a burger.*

If your child said he wanted an ice cream, but you said that your child shouldn’t have dairy, would you be ok if the mother gave you child an ice cream?

You can't compare being vegetarian to a dairy allergy though.

Eating a small amount of meat isn't going to kill a vegetarian, eating a small amount of dairy could kill someone with a dairy allergy.

@Serpenta
😂😂

*You can't compare being vegetarian to a dairy allergy though.

Eating a small amount of meat isn't going to kill a vegetarian, eating a small amount of dairy could kill someone with a dairy allergy.*

Depends how long they've been vegetarian. Our nutritionist has said children who are veggie from a young age can develop allergies to meat.

And if I accidentally eat cheese... You don't want to know...
But don't follow me having used the loo.

Has your brother confessed op?

I'd be extremely wary of her in future, even if she was upset about the meat eating she still should have thanked you for the favour and not hold a grudge for the sake of your brother.

I agree with pp that I bet she thinks brother has "gone veggie" whilst you think he's a meat eater due to him eating bacon at yours the other day.

If you think they're sticking together I hope she isn't the cause of a wedge between him and his family, mind you he should be honest with her if he is a meat eater.

@SunnydaleClassProtector99

*You can't compare being vegetarian to a dairy allergy though.

Eating a small amount of meat isn't going to kill a vegetarian, eating a small amount of dairy could kill someone with a dairy allergy.*

Depends how long they've been vegetarian. Our nutritionist has said children who are veggie from a young age can develop allergies to meat.

And if I accidentally eat cheese... You don't want to know...
But don't follow me having used the loo.

Bothbut still doesn't compare to a child going into anaphylactic shock after eating dairy.

There's a huge difference between an intolerance and an allergy.

EVEN IF my 'vegetarian' child had eaten meat, once, by accident, I wouldn't go off the rails! It's just one of those things! I'd still be throwing roses at your feet for taking her off my hands for the day!

If she hadn’t been so dramatic and unpleasant about it then I would feel a bit sorry for your brother’s girlfriend. If she genuinely thought you knew that her daughter was a vegetarian (maybe she thought she’d told you at some point, or your brother had told you) then she probably wouldn’t think to mention it when you asked if there was anything that she wouldn’t eat.

She is hugely overreacting though, when you have done her such an enormous favour, and you’ve done nothing wrong. If nobody had told you then how were you supposed to know!

Dear OP, these twats are filling your life with drama, which you don't need...I d be degrading contact for a little while.

The child probability didn't say anything as she likely doesn't know what chorizo is. It isn't an obvious meat like chicken etc for a child who.may not have eaten meat for a long time ( if ever,) to know about.

I would text your brother and say
". Really sorry but I did ask your diipshit girlfriend about her DD's food prefernces when she was dropped off. She didn't mention being vegetarian and I didn't know anything about it as we've never eaten together. I hope you know I'd never deliberately do something like that. I'm a bit upset myself at being put in that position but I assume your bonkers girlfriend forgot to tell me they are vegetarians and I'm not a mind reader . . Please pass on my apologies about the misunderstanding ( and explanation) to your weirdly forgetful girlfriend

Lesson learned here. Do not provide childcare for her again.
Very grateful and dramatic woman.

Send the cf a bill for childcare. Give her something else to be distracted about.

This reminds me of a parent who had an almighty fit at me one morning because her child had eaten a hot dog at the school disco the evening before. She was opposed to this due to religious reasons, yet the child in question paid no attention to this. She was year 6, so 11 !
One of the many reasons I left teaching.

@Butchyrestingface

Your brother and his girlfriend sound terminally dim, ill-mannered and graceless. So in that sense, they're probably well matched.

Her insisting that you must have KNOWN they were veggie - I think there's going to be choppy waters ahead with that one.

This.

OP,
Her card should be well marked.

She sounds like a Jeremy Kyle contestant.

Someone she barely knows looks after her child and she behaves like that?
As for your brother speaking to you like that.
Unbelievable.

Whatever about her, who is clearly a complete rough CF, your brother needs to apologise sincerely.

Hmm, I think your brother is a pretend vegetarian, sneaking a bacon sandwich in at your house before he went home
I would put money on the fact that his GF was listening when he rang you
Hang fire on her until you have the full facts
The GF may not be the baddie in all of this

Depends how long they've been vegetarian. Our nutritionist has said children who are veggie from a young age can develop allergies to meat

Your "nutritionist" is an idiot.

@bumblingbovine49

The child probability didn't say anything as she likely doesn't know what chorizo is. It isn't an obvious meat like chicken etc for a child who.may not have eaten meat for a long time ( if ever,) to know about.

I would text your brother and say
". Really sorry but I did ask your diipshit girlfriend about her DD's food prefernces when she was dropped off. She didn't mention being vegetarian and I didn't know anything about it as we've never eaten together. I hope you know I'd never deliberately do something like that. I'm a bit upset myself at being put in that position but I assume your bonkers girlfriend forgot to tell me they are vegetarians and I'm not a mind reader . . Please pass on my apologies about the misunderstanding ( and explanation) to your weirdly forgetful girlfriend

I agree with this. My DC are vegetarian and I would (inwardly) feel pretty upset if they'd eaten meat, but if someone else is going to feed them I let them know ahead of time, even if they haven't checked and even if I have told them before! Very odd of the mother.

FWIW, when I accidentally had spag bol (🤦🏼‍♀️) at a party aged 8ish, I was horribly ill afterwards. Anecdata but definitely seemed like my vegetarian body didn't know how to cope with it.

@PaperbackRider

Depends how long they've been vegetarian. Our nutritionist has said children who are veggie from a young age can develop allergies to meat

Your "nutritionist" is an idiot.

It's an NHS childhood expert assigned to our baby. Unless you have credentials to back up your claim I'll ignore it, thanks.

I have been a vegetarian for 45 years - yes back in the late 70s when I would be presented with a grim plate of chips or a cheese sandwich as a meat alternative.

It has never been easier to provide vegetarian meal so I cannot believe she didn't say anything. I have spent most of my life saying 'Just to let you know that I....' most people are fine with it PROVIDING THEY KNOW ON ADVANCE. They sound like hard work.

I also think your bacon gnoshing brother is riding two horses with one (meat eating) arse. Reminds me of a local militant vegan mum who's DH used to order a lamb bhuna on the lads night out.

Please update

It's an NHS childhood expert assigned to our baby

An NHS childhood expert nutritionist? Either they are an idiot or you misunderstood. One or the other.

Nope. I didn't and they did not.
Again, what credentials have you got to dispute the team around my child?
Or would you like me to refer them onto you so you can 'complain'.

And they're assigned to him along with a speech and language expert because of suspected dysphagia. Or are you an expert in that too?