To think if there's something you don't want your kid to eat you say when asked not bitch about it later.

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So today I looked after my brothers girlfriends daughter for the day as she was working and her child care fell through. She is a relatively new girlfriend of about 9 months but due to covid I haven't really spent much time with her or her daughter but my brother is happy so that's ok with me. My dd is a year younger so it was no skin off my nose to have her here for the day, the girls played nicely and entertained each other. I asked her mum when she dropped her off if she had any allergies, things she didn't want her to have or things she didn't like, mum said she ate most things. She had lunch and dinner here so mum really should of said if there was things her daughter wasn't allowed to eat. The girls had bagels cream cheese, grapes, carrot sticks for lunch, crisps in the afternoon and chorizo pasta bake for dinner with peas and garlic bread with chocolate ice cream for pudding. Well my brother has rang kicking for because the child is vegetarian and her mum is very upset I didn't respect that, how the bloody hell am I suppose to know this? I asked mum and she didn't say her reply was she eats most things, no mention of her being a vegetarian at all. AIBU on to think this is mums fault and if she didn't say how was I suppose to know, her dd is 7 if that makes any difference and she didn't tell me herself.

What did your brother say when you told him his GF hadnt actually said her dd was vegetarian?

I thought it was going to be something about not being allowed ice cream.. To not mention that she's vegetarian is crazy! She definitely should've told you.

She sounds mad. You’re right, how are you supposed to know when you ask a very specific question and are not given an accurate answer?!

Plus at 7 I would expect the child to have piped up at some point.

Perhaps the child doesn’t want to be vegetarian?

Nuts! How did bro react when you said you didn't know. A swift apology I hope and a thank you so much for having her!!!?

That’s absolutely insane! What a witch. I was just thinking how that sounds like such a nice day and decent meals.

Perhaps in the stress she forgot to mention it and is now kicking herself. Hopefully she realises and apologises profusely very soon.

Did the kid enjoy the Chorizo?

No harm done and you were doing them a favour. It's not a big deal if child enjoyed her food

Was thinking about how lovely the food sounded and wondering what could possibly be wrong!! I assumed from reading the thread title that you’d fed a load of junk food. Not mentioning that her DC is vegetarian is beyond weird.

Wow, you did her the favour of looking after her daughter at short notice and you feed her and then she kicks off because neither her nor her daughter mentioned she's vegetarian. I wouldn't be helping her out again in a hurry.

You know your not being unreasonable. Most people who feel strongly enough to raise their children vegetarian would make sure it was the first thing they told you.

How incredibly strange.

Your brother is being insanely unreasonable as is his gf. It was 100% the mothers responsibility to say it to you when you asked. I'd tell my brother to cop on and wind his neck in a bit and of course never offer childcare again

Eh?? You asked if there were any dietary requirements and the mam said "no"? Then it's her own stupid fault!!

Ffs! I'd be fuming after you've been nice enough to provide free childcare!!!

I thought she was going to to moan about the crisps and ice cream (although I wouldn't be bothered)

But not to say she's a vegetarian is a huge thing and if she cannot eat meat then say!

I'm assuming her Dd loved the chorizo pasta? It's one of my favourites

What a moron. Not your fault at all. Don't do childcare for her again.

That crazy! Totally not your fault.

Jeez, this woman sounds nuts. You asked her about stuff she wasn't allowed to have and she didn't think to tell you the most important thing? FFS.

What a fucking idiot. Ignore OP. How were you to know?

On another note, what’s your chorizo pasta bake recipe? I was going to do something like this for tomorrow 😊

In what way did he kick off? And what did he say when you said you specifically asked if there was any dietary requirements or preferences and nothing was said? Hopefully he apologised?

My response to my brother in that situation would simply have been "Does your gf think I'm a mind reader? No? Then, since she didn't mention her DD being vegetarian despite being explicitly asked about food restrictions how was I supposed to know that?"

I hope you told him you're not a mind reader but it won't be an issue in future as you're happy to not help again

That's absolutely insane, I thought you were going to say she was cross you fed her chocolate or crisps or something but to not mention she's supposed to be a vegetarian is just utterly bizarre.

How on earth were you supposed to know that? Ridiculous. I've been veggie since I was 5 and 4yo DD decided to go veggie last year, she'd happily tell anybody before eating something! (won't mention her allergies anymore though )

Yes also interested in your brother’s response here.

It must have been a mid understanding and he didn’t realise that his girlfriend had never mentioned that she was vegetarian.